FlockaFlex Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 So my ex of 10 months who I was completely in love with broke up with me about a month ago and I jus started NC today. Its been pretty rough but I feel like I am making steps to move forward. Ya I have the urge to contact her but I know I won't cuz it is what is best for me. I find it hard to understand how she could jus up and leave me like that after everything I did her for. She told me she wasn't looking for anybody else but not even 3 weeks after the BU I found out shes talking to another guy and already sleeping in his bed. I think that's the part that hurt the most, that she was so easily able to jus move on and forget about and start a new thing with another guy. She was my best friend and I miss that. The hardest part about this for me is knowing I'm gonna be alone for a while. I miss the feeling of being in love. It is the best feeling I have ever felt and I so badly want it again. I also now have so much more free time on my hands I don't know what to do with it, especially since summer is in like 10 days. I guess I jus wanted to put it out there how I felt and keep this as my journal of my progress in a way and keep updating if people keep responding. I would like to hear how others who experienced something similar progressed during NC. Cheers
tinroof Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 NC sucks, initially you feel so confident and certain that you wont contact them because it IS whats best for you but there's always those bad days. I've been there and it really is difficult, however it is so effective and worth it in the end. I'm currently having to go through it once again and am only a few days in myself and its absolutely dreadful but it gives you the power and the confidence back that you need to move on. And theres always that chance that your ex will realize they screwed up big time. But, remember why you broke up and usually when they figure that out is when you want nothing to do with them anymore. Good luck, its tough but so worth it!
Author FlockaFlex Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 Ya even if she wanted to get back together later down the road I'm pretty sure I wouldn't. I mean wtf shes already sleeping in another guys bed probly gonna bang him soon and its only been a ****ing a month. No way I could forgive her for that. I like to think of it as her loss, not mine. I'm not gonna lie tho, one of the things I miss the most is the sex and her ass. She had an amazingly fat ass
h3braica Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 hi. pls don't break NC. i am on the 4th month of BU, 10 yr LDR, 2.5 month of NC. it's normal to miss the ex because you have a lot of time together it will pass as time goes by. it's hurts so much knowing they are not the same person like before. i am still thinking so hard how they have change that fast and morph into something evil. i know it's hard being in NC but you have to do it for yourself, for you to heal. ex dumped me 5 mos after asking me to merry him and return to his ex gf. it's a 10 yr R. we settled and planned everything even the marriage and where to settle down. he made me feel worthless and hopeless. i beg and plead but he said we will never get back together again as if i did a huge mistake in the R. he did every possible thing to hurt me by words. this is what i ve got for waiting him patiently for 10 yrs! i ignore and blocked every messages he sent. after saying hurtful words he still have the balls to say he misses me. got 3 messages of him missing me after dumped day. breadcrumbs! but i admit that words relieved me temporarily even if he said that to ease his guilt. i broke NC 2 weeks after i got the email from him telling me that he regret hurting me and misses me a lot. told him that i miss him too and he answered back after 3 days that he still misses me. back to NC again up to this day. he removed me from his life that easy as if it were only a month of R when it's been a decade and throwing me bread crumbs every now and then. i dont care if he's not happy returning to his ex he should live the life he choose. if it's because of GIGS then buy the happiness. OP dont break NC. it's hard at first i know but you need to heal yourself. it's also hard not to think about her. i am on the 4th month of BU but ex was on my mind every single day but not tempted to contact him. the more i tried to forget him the more i ve seen things that reminds me of him. i face it instead of hiding in my room and cried. YOU NEVER KNOW HOW STRONG YOU ARE UNTIL BEING STRONG IS THE ONLY CHOICE YOU HAVE.
Am4Real Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 I'm sure in your mind you think she up and left you all of a sudden. However, if you think real hard I bet there were sign long beforehand something wasn't quite right or she was checking out on you...? yes? More than likely there were if you think hard enough...and from those it is a good time to examine yourself, learn from this relationship and carry your wisdom to the next one.
Author FlockaFlex Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 I'm sure in your mind you think she up and left you all of a sudden. However, if you think real hard I bet there were sign long beforehand something wasn't quite right or she was checking out on you...? yes? More than likely there were if you think hard enough...and from those it is a good time to examine yourself, learn from this relationship and carry your wisdom to the next one. She said she's been feeling like this for a long time. What I don't understand and can't forgive her for then is why she told me all the things she did literally like a week to 2 weeks before it all ended. She told me if I get her a promise ring to get one from an antique shop. She kept saying "if we get married". She said she likes us as a couple. I don't understand why she would lead me on so goddam much and make it seem like everything was okay if it really wasn't. I think thats messed up
Am4Real Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 We hear that often here on LS. It would seem the dumper is trying to convince themselves of what they want and they keep you in on the loop to ensure you don't leave why they give of signs; when they can no longer convince themselves, they make their decision and leave the dumpee. She said she's been feeling like this for a long time. What I don't understand and can't forgive her for then is why she told me all the things she did literally like a week to 2 weeks before it all ended. She told me if I get her a promise ring to get one from an antique shop. She kept saying "if we get married". She said she likes us as a couple. I don't understand why she would lead me on so goddam much and make it seem like everything was okay if it really wasn't. I think thats messed up
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