yankees13 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I was dating a guy whom I thought was a great guy and we dated for a few months. He would go through spurts of not contacting me because he had some financial problems and going thru hard times. To make a long story short I wasnt used to the lack of communication and I guess I was getting clingy and obsessive because it drove me nuts communicating with him. Going a week without calling to say hello or hey im alive wasnt his.style. maybe im abnormal who knows? he finally blocked me on facebook and of course I demanded an answer to this and he told me I messaged him too much and we should take a break for a while. Im so upset because I am second guessing myself and this is a total rejection. am I a stage 5 clinger? I would hope not but his communication skills just sucked sometimes and maybe I was a little aggressive. I really love him and I thought he felt the same but is there any coming back from this? I mean he blocked me after I sent him one message asking a question. now I'm making myself nuts analyzing everything. any wise words?
tinroof Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I think you need to take a step back and really look at the situation. You only pushed communication more because you weren't getting anything in return. You can't give 100% of yourself and get nothing back. If I were you I wouldn't initiate any contact whatsoever anymore. You are simply wanting to talk to him because you care and want to be with him, if he has a problem with that then he isn't worth your time, and I know you probably don't see that now but if you cut communication with him for awhile it will give you time to clear your head and who knows maybe he will admit he screwed up. In the meantime, do what is best for you.
Author yankees13 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 thank you Tinroof. you are absolutely right and that is why I feel so rejected. He was hot or cold depending on what was going on with his life. I wont contact him but there is an awkward two days of the week I am dreading. he is the bouncer next door to the bar I work at and I havent been to work yet because it just happened and I dont want to see him because I have all these emotions going on. I will have to face the music eventually. QUOTE=tinroof;4819875]I think you need to take a step back and really look at the situation. You only pushed communication more because you weren't getting anything in return. You can't give 100% of yourself and get nothing back. If I were you I wouldn't initiate any contact whatsoever anymore. You are simply wanting to talk to him because you care and want to be with him, if he has a problem with that then he isn't worth your time, and I know you probably don't see that now but if you cut communication with him for awhile it will give you time to clear your head and who knows maybe he will admit he screwed up. In the meantime, do what is best for you.
tinroof Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 look great, radiate confidence, and act like you aren't affected at all by the situation... he'll be kicking himself. Be sure not to go OVERBOARD with confidence.. make it believable, but eventually you'll feel better and you won't even have to try.
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