Thames Dweller Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 (edited) ive just come out of a two and half year relationship with the woman i thought i would marry. the last 6 months have been tough but i thought we would overcome and work things out. since the turn of the year, we stopped sleeping with each other but still relied on one another emotionally and I supported her financially at times. she grew distant and I learned she went on a date during the tough times we had and later on learned that she thought about going on a weekend trip with him but it never materialised, she found out he lied about his age and career etc. during these moments, she continually told me she loved me but was confused. i recently lashed out and shared my thoughts and feelings in a very frank manner and it scared her off after which she said we are over. Naturally, i miss her dearly, whilst being very angry with her because i believed in us. I'm also under the impression that she's already begun seeing someone else very recently in the last few weeks, an old friend of hers so seems she has quite easily got over me but im struggling to do the same. I do feel a weight off my shoulders for expressing my thoughts and anger but also very saddened about how its finished. cant help thinking about her almost constantly and have taken up a gym membership and going out drinking with friends on weekends but still not helping to ease the pain much at all. Edited April 21, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Removed personal indentifying info not permitted
Weathergirl Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 There are many of us on this site in the same boat, if that's any consolation for you. It is hard, and you will go through many emotions over these next few weeks. I hope your pain passes quickly. Well done for using the time for something else (gym). I think about my ex a lot too, when I am not at work. I hope with time this will become less. I wish you well. 1
Author Thames Dweller Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 i've just learnt she is actually seeing someone. its only been about 7 weeks since we broke up and i understand she's all loved up!!! I would of thought i meant something to her, after all 2 and half years of love and sacrifice and less than two months to move on.
Weathergirl Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 Don't assume she has got over you. Everyone copes differently, some people go straight into dating, some cant even bear the thought. If she has not given herself time to get over you and the relationship, it may even cause issues for her current one. I've spent hours analysing, regretting, trying to look for answers, explanations even justification. It's just wasted time and makes healing harder. Concentrate on healing yourself. One day at a time is the key. I wish you well. 2
Author Thames Dweller Posted May 2, 2013 Author Posted May 2, 2013 Thank you Weather Girl. I've been trying to move on, taking each passing day as it comes. a few ok days but majority of them are tough and my mind wonders and she keeps popping up in my thoughts. anyway, day by day, i hope to feel better. I know im a good guy but it hurts the way she treated me. recent development however has set me back a little and not sure what her intentions are? she trying to engage/antagonise me through social media. why? its all too confusing!
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