jkepler85 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I was out last night and I bumped into my ex at a nightclub. I was the dumpee two months ago. There were symptoms of GIGSiness, but also some legitimate (but solvable) issues with the relationship. We chatting a bit and danced a bit, though she seemed a little bit stand offish at times, but when I took off she leaned in and told me to "text her whenever" and I told her she can text me whenever. I told her she can do the same. Her friends and sisters where also excited and making gestures at her and me when we were dancing like they were excited to see us together. I'd been no contact for a couple weeks now. And I'm not really affected by last night, it was nice to see her.
Sososad Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Sounds like she could be interested .. If your not really interested I'd leave it but I wouldn't be surprised if she texts you!
Author jkepler85 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 The question is how to do you know if they've made changes without hanging out with them?
Astros1039 Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 I was out last night and I bumped into my ex at a nightclub. I was the dumpee two months ago. There were symptoms of GIGSiness, but also some legitimate (but solvable) issues with the relationship. We chatting a bit and danced a bit, though she seemed a little bit stand offish at times, but when I took off she leaned in and told me to "text her whenever" and I told her she can text me whenever. I told her she can do the same. Her friends and sisters where also excited and making gestures at her and me when we were dancing like they were excited to see us together. I'd been no contact for a couple weeks now. And I'm not really affected by last night, it was nice to see her. So this girl dumped you and you were dancing with her like nothing happened? No offense but it sounds like you are a push over dude. My advice is to NOT text her or even reply, unless she is literally begging you. Just my opinion. 1
candie13 Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 She dumped you. She needs to apologize. she will need to make efforts to make it work. She's testing her powers with the "text me whenever" line. Prob using you to boost her confidence in herself. Not what a person does, if they care about the other person's feelings. If I were you, I'd simply delete her telephone number and continue NC. If she's interested, she should make the efforts to contact you. Oh, and next time, make sure to dance with other women, instead of her. NC is pointless if you don't follow with a behavior reinforcing it.
crederer Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 If you're interested still go for it. A lot of people on here are butt hurt about a lot of stuff and just because you're capable of having a good time with your ex does not necessarily make you a push over. 2
Chi townD Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Sorry to bust your high. But, I think that the two of you made the best of an awkward situation. Even you stated that she felt stand offish at times. Certainly NOT the girl you used to know that was 100% comfortable with you. The statement with "text me anytime", I feel is NO different than "Call me; we'll do lunch." Doesn't mean anything. So, I wouldn't read into it and get some false hope going. Stay NC and see if she really meant that she'll text you. In the meantime, heal and move on as if she isn't coming back. Because, chances are; she's not. 2
Author jkepler85 Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 I'm certainly not getting my hopes up over it. It was nice to see her and it's been established that the lines are open, but I'm going to keep on keeping on and keep things me-centric. 2
Treasa Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 You should have softly whispered in her ear, "Piss off." 1
Pisces13 Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 If you're interested still go for it. A lot of people on here are butt hurt about a lot of stuff and just because you're capable of having a good time with your ex does not necessarily make you a push over. I agree with this. Just keep doing what you feel is right, if you want to text her or whatever then go for it. The key thing is though to not expect anything. Keep your emotions in check, and don't pressure her or anything like that.
Author jkepler85 Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 Yeah, I'm not "butt hurt" about the past. She was unhappy, I'm not going to hold that against her, being unhappy for long periods of time sucks. I wish she would have handled it differently and communicated with me instead of shutting down, but people gotta learn somehow.
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