Am I the re-bound girl

[BritRN]

I met this guy about two months ago, we were friends for the first few weeks and then it turned into more. He has been divorced for about 1.5 yrs and I, 3 yrs. My concern is, that I am not sure he is over his ex-wife. He has a picture of her in his basement, which he did overturn, and pics of her on his website. He still uses the 'we' terminology. I guess I do not want to be a re-bound person. This is his first relationship since his divorce, but can he need a re-bound relationship after a year. When I got divorced, I wanted to get rid of everything to do with my ex, but have kept one photo and wedding ring. I certainly didnt have any photos out. Maybe he didnt know it was there????

Any advice welcome

[SavesTheDay]

Originally posted by BritRN

I met this guy about two months ago, we were friends for the first few weeks and then it turned into more. He has been divorced for about 1.5 yrs and I, 3 yrs. My concern is, that I am not sure he is over his ex-wife. He has a picture of her in his basement, which he did overturn, and pics of her on his website. He still uses the 'we' terminology. I guess I do not want to be a re-bound person. This is his first relationship since his divorce, but can he need a re-bound relationship after a year. When I got divorced, I wanted to get rid of everything to do with my ex, but have kept one photo and wedding ring. I certainly didnt have any photos out. Maybe he didnt know it was there????

Any advice welcome

 

 

You answered it yourself. He's not over her, and it shows. You can't force him to ditch the memories of his ex.

 

He seems to hold onto the memories he has with his ex, and that's alright, as long as it's not driving a stake into yours.

 

Divorces take time, for you, it was easy. For him, it may not be so. Talk to him about it. It's the only way you'll find concrete answers and closure.

 

Don't be too harsh with him though. Or it'll be like rubbing lemon and salt into his wounds.

 

Hope this helps.

 

Later.