carly901 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 hi all! i'm new to these boards, i hope i've posted in the right place. i'm quite frankly in a pickle and i want an outsiders view. i'm twenty years old, in feb i slept with an ex's friend - bad mistake yes blah blah. and i've gotten pregnant. now me and the guy are wanting to try and make a go of it, problem is i have whiplash emotions. i can be fine one second and blow up the next, often not talking to the person i have blown up at. the guy mentions to me about getting a council house but since i am in the position where my baby doesn't mean extra benefits and a house paid for me - i said no. quite forcefully to him. making it clear it wasn't even an option anymore and he's said to me that he hates how quickly my moods change, how i used to be so nice to him before the baby. the only problem is i believe i'm falling in love with him, loosing him isn't an option especially when i am pregnant but i am starting to resent this thing. it seems to be pulling my relationship apart. what do i do? have an abortion and forget about this guy? or try even harder to make it work? after what he's told me about tiring of my moods, i feel like from now on i really can't say anything that he might take the wrong way. i feel like i'm on egg shells now. this isn't a way to live
january2011 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I suspect that the mood swings could be the result of your pregnancy hormones kicking into gear. You need to recognise your triggers and find more constructive ways to deal with the moods. For example, taking a time out and talking about your situation when you feel more on an even keel. He is making an attempt to do the right thing. Given how little time you've been together and presumably his age, it's commendable that he's trying to support you. Are your family supporting you as well? Do you have friends you can talk to when you need to vent? Have you spoken to a GP about your situation? Unfortunately, no one can make the decision for you regarding whether to keep the baby. You have to decide this for yourself. But talk it through with the right people, including the baby's father. Then make your decision based on what you think is best for you and your future.
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