soccerrprp Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 My definition of feminine is soft, gentle, nurturing, caring, etc. Which I am. But it doesn't mean I have an empty head or have to wear makeup or have a guy lead me in a relationship. You go girl! Love women like that! 1
Author Seductive Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 Femininity is extremely attractive to me and a woman who embraces that femininity is equally attractive. However, as a previous poster mentioned "girly" is different. I don't like overly-girly. I associate "girly" with "princess" and that's not good for me. But feminine is confidence and just plain sexy. I am so drawn to that. As a matter of fact, I do think it brings out the very masculine and it makes for an explosive combination. The Yin to the Yang, so to speak. Keep in mind I didn't say testosterone but that's the exact same overly girly. I agree. Feminine energy attracts masculine energy. There's a lot of dating articles on this, in regards to women wondering why they can't attract "real men."
rocketman122 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 EDIT: I will never date a guy who is NOT a feminist. Feminist is not a man hater or abusive woman. Tired of everyone thinking a feminist is someone who thinks women are better...its not! Thats radical feminism. Feminism is when men and women are EQUAL. I will never date a guy who thinks he is superior to me (and I have dated a few of them in the past...they are degrading and insensitive). Men and women are not equal. each has their strong and weak points and its feminism that screwed the whole dating scene. and I like it that my partner can do things im not particular strong at. no wonder men are confused more and more about dating your gender. lucky for me there are many many women who think like me and im so successful when I date. I was never single for longer than a month. OTOH look how many single people there are today.
gaius Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 If I wanted to date someone who was manly I'd skip all the bullsh*t and just suck a cock. I like feminine women. Though I do tend to gravitate toward strong women, but ones who are feminine at their core. 2
meghann8 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Men and women are not equal. each has their strong and weak points and its feminism that screwed the whole dating scene. and I like it that my partner can do things im not particular strong at. no wonder men are confused more and more about dating your gender. lucky for me there are many many women who think like me and im so successful when I date. I was never single for longer than a month. OTOH look how many single people there are today. So women having the right to vote made men feel inferior and insecure about themselves? Feminism is about getting the same human rights as men, not that we are therefore exactly the same as men on every other aspect in life. I know there are feminists that argue that men and women are exactly the same, and I know there are women who are completely okay with being 100% submissive to the male sex. That doesn't mean the entire male sex is screwed for dating just because there are a few extremists in the world. The majority of women simply don't want to be treated like second-class citizens. That's the true history of feminism.
Author Seductive Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 So women having the right to vote made men feel inferior and insecure about themselves? Feminism is about getting the same human rights as men, not that we are therefore exactly the same as men on every other aspect in life. I know there are feminists that argue that men and women are exactly the same, and I know there are women who are completely okay with being 100% submissive to the male sex. That doesn't mean the entire male sex is screwed for dating just because there are a few extremists in the world. The majority of women simply don't want to be treated like second-class citizens. That's the true history of feminism. Yes, I think feminism was originally about men and women being honored EQUALLY. It doesn't mean that they have to be exactly the same. There are a lot of feminists out there that still embrace their femininity, but they don't see themselves as "inferior" to men. 1
GorillaTheater Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I like feminine women, who are smart and funny and a bit edgy. 1
Author Seductive Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 I like feminine women, who are smart and funny and a bit edgy. Ooh, I like both feminine women and masculine men that are smart and edgy. 1
SpiralOut Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 It sounds like your friend has a chip on her shoulder when it comes to femininity. I used to also refer to myself as being "more masculine" or "androgynous" than as feminine. I think it comes from not wanting to be associated with a certain feminine image - the subservient, weak, empty-headed stepford wife. Anyway, that's her problem, not yours. Men love all kinds of women. You can be strong and funny and smart and still be feminine. Nothing wrong with it. 3
wheream_i Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Men and women are not equal. each has their strong and weak points and its feminism that screwed the whole dating scene. and I like it that my partner can do things im not particular strong at. no wonder men are confused more and more about dating your gender. lucky for me there are many many women who think like me and im so successful when I date. I was never single for longer than a month. OTOH look how many single people there are today. WTF are you even talking about, dude? 2
wheream_i Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 I agree. Feminine energy attracts masculine energy. There's a lot of dating articles on this, in regards to women wondering why they can't attract "real men." I like what you said about energy. Pretty much what I was trying to say but didn't. So, thank you for that. As for women who say they are looking for a real man but can't find one, it's because they're not looking for a real man and wouldn't know one if it fell in front of them. 1
Author Seductive Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 I think you will have no problem finding a guy, though i do believe you are slightly naive [or just joking] about finding a girl. Someone has to lead there too, and generally from what i've seen, women have just as much of a hard time as men do in understanding other women as love interests. Men are simpler ... there are days when i wish i was gay. ) When I went on dates with other "feminine" women, we both were unsure of who was supposed to make the first move! I ended up being the one to make the first move, but I did it in such a demure way...... With men, at least they just go for it with no questions, no hesitancy, etc
M30USA Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 The book of Tao says that a woman overpowers a man with her submissive and receptive spirit. I'm not a Taoist, but it's true. Unfortunately many women today try to overpower men by being man-like.
Author Seductive Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 The book of Tao says that a woman overpowers a man with her submissive and receptive spirit. I'm not a Taoist, but it's true. Unfortunately many women today try to overpower men by being man-like. I'm just getting into Taoism. I had no idea that it did resonate with who I am. My Indian parents raised me a certain way, which has become an ingrained part of me. My white-American friends encourage me to be a different type of woman, but I feel so weird pretending to be someone else.
wheream_i Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 but I feel so weird pretending to be someone else. Then don't. 1
Author Seductive Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 (edited) Then don't. I'm confused as to why people think "girly" means immature. This is a definition of "girly girl" that I'm accustomed to, and what those around me refer to: " A girly girl is a woman or a young lady/teenager who chooses to act in the traditional feminine way. It does not mean being skanky or trashy because that's just tacky. Being girly does not mean loving pink you could like blue or green it does not matter. Being girly is embracing your femininity in a very optimistic, sophisticated way. Not all girly girls are mean, and if they are it is not because they are girly it probably means that they don't care about others feelings. Girly girls are suppose to be optimistic,kind,confident women. If you think girly girls are otherwise I believe you should do some more research and not on Urban Dictionary." In any case, I have chosen to remain my feminine self. If people don't like it, then I wish them all the best. Edited May 21, 2013 by Seductive 1
crederer Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 Just be yourself and don't worry about what your friend says.
Got it Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 Why be anything? Depending on the time in my life and the events around I am all these qualities and more. I am wonderfully fluid and can adapt. I am strong willed but sweet, aggressive but demure, feminine but ambitious. I am not any one thing. My husband also calls me a handful and his ghost pepper. But he loves every minute of it! Because I am also sweet, very giving, take care of him and his relationships with others as he does for me as well. What is wonderful is when you can have a smooth give and take, back and forth between the two parties so that when one needs the other steps up and vice versa, like a dance, each helping the other to be a strong force together. But yes he likes me in dresses and skirts best but ideally just prefers naked legs. 1
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