NGC1300 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Let's say a man is 35 years old and: Never married, has no kids Owns home, financially stable Good looking, takes care of himself physically What sort of options would this man realistically have? Would women 10 years younger generally be open to dating him? Do you think he's still young enough to find a woman who doesn't have kids, and to start a family of his own? Do you think women today would consider settling down with someone 10 years older than them?
stillafool Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 So you're 35 and want to date a 25 year old and want to know if it's possible - YES. Even if you didn't have the other stuff it's possible. 3
iris219 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Did you feel like you needed an ego boost this morning? You came to the right place. You will be flooded with comments from men who will assert that you are the unicorn of the dating world (rare, magical, and highly desirable). They will tell you women 10 years younger (and their mamas) will be fighting over you, and luckily you won't have to settle for those pesky over 30 women. Yuck. Seriously, you'll do fine, but I'm not sure why dating women 10 years younger than you is so important. 2
Radu Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Let's say a man is 35 years old and: Never married, has no kids Owns home, financially stable Good looking, takes care of himself physically What sort of options would this man realistically have? Would women 10 years younger generally be open to dating him? Do you think he's still young enough to find a woman who doesn't have kids, and to start a family of his own? Do you think women today would consider settling down with someone 10 years older than them? Well, if you read LS and a particular thread on this very page this hypothetical individual would be : - an utter and complete loser for not having kids - an utter and complete loser for not having a LTR - a complete creep if he has the above and is single; something must be wrong with him You notice the general ideea, he would be an abomination and should give up hope of ever finding love. Probably is a serial killer too. In the real world, such a guy would be a hot prospect, if he managed to get the message across to anything between 25-35yrs. If he wouldn't be able to get the right message across, or if he lived in a place with an overabundance of men like him ... he would be sh*t out of luck. 1
january2011 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 It's possible. Though it's shame that you're looking at 25-year olds, especially if you are looking to settle down. I know a number of women in your age bracket who are not married, don't have kids and want to remedy that. I suspect that many 25-year olds are still trying to "find themselves." Especially if they've only got a few years of work under their belt. You might find one who is looking for an LTR and possibly marriage, but perhaps not to have babies so soon. 1
aj22one Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Hey man, I have a friend she's 22 and she's dating three guys who are all in their late 30s/early 40s. And she wants to get married and have children asap haha. I'm sure there are other women out there like that so don't worry if that's what you are lookin for. haha
Author NGC1300 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 No ego boost here. I'm 28, and will not lie I wasted a lot of my 20's goofing off. I know I'm handsome, but haven't really "found myself" yet. I rent in a crappy area, but for sure will change that in 7 years. I also see my financial status changing for the better a few years from now. So basically, i'm good looking, but have nothing else to offer anyone. So I see life as hopefully being better by the time I reach 35, but feel like I'll have to date younger women because I feel as if most of the "good" women from the same age bracket will be taken or used up. Sorry I know that is generalizing, maybe even disparaging, but honestly how many quality women get to be 30 or 35 and don't yet have kids or other baggage. Not many.
hppr Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 So you're 35 and want to date a 25 year old and want to know if it's possible - YES. Even if you didn't have the other stuff it's possible. This. I wouldn't look solely for women who are without children though, honesty lots of really nice single women out there who are relationship material have kid(s). As far as having kids of your own yes you can do it mathematically but do you want to be in your late 50s when your first kid graduates high school? My old boss didn't have kids until his late 30s/early 40s and while I know he loves his kids raising them has been very hard on him because of his age.
runner Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Let's say a man is 35 years old and: Never married, has no kids Owns home, financially stable Good looking, takes care of himself physically What sort of options would this man realistically have? as much as he himself wants. Would women 10 years younger generally be open to dating him? i would take this further and say that some guys could go beyond 10 years. Do you think he's still young enough to find a woman who doesn't have kids, and to start a family of his own? yes. Do you think women today would consider settling down with someone 10 years older than them? happens all the time.
SJC2008 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I don't know why you'd want to dip down to 25 at 35. I'm 31 and my comfortable lower limit is 24 with 23 being rock bottom and I don't even know if I could do that. My uncle always tells me to meet girls at school and I tell him I'm 10 older than most college students and he says who cares lol!
Sunshine87 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Let's say a man is 35 years old and: Never married, has no kids Owns home, financially stable Good looking, takes care of himself physically What sort of options would this man realistically have?A lot Would women 10 years younger generally be open to dating him? Absolutely. Many women prefer older men because the are deemed to be more stable (financially and emotionally), more mature, more understanding of women etc. Do you think he's still young enough to find a woman who doesn't have kids, and to start a family of his own? Are you serious? Of course!! But why do you want a 25 year old? Do you think women today would consider settling down with someone 10 years older than them? Yes, but why is that your criteria?
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I don't know why you'd want to dip down to 25 at 35. I'm 31 and my comfortable lower limit is 24 with 23 being rock bottom and I don't even know if I could do that. My uncle always tells me to meet girls at school and I tell him I'm 10 older than most college students and he says who cares lol! I'm 26. I generally look for girls between legal and moderately wrinkled.
MsSmurf Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Let's say a man is 35 years old and: Never married, has no kids Owns home, financially stable Good looking, takes care of himself physically What sort of options would this man realistically have? Would women 10 years younger generally be open to dating him? Do you think he's still young enough to find a woman who doesn't have kids, and to start a family of his own? Do you think women today would consider settling down with someone 10 years older than them? There are plenty of women between the ages of 25 and 35 that have never married and never had children that are actively seeking a guy such as yourself to settle down with. I think limiting yourself to only the younger end of the spectrum could reduce your options however.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I think it's better for women to date older men. Not too much older but somewhat older. Men tend to mature later than women and older men are usually more established in life which is what women like.
MsSmurf Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I don't know why you'd want to dip down to 25 at 35. I'm 31 and my comfortable lower limit is 24 with 23 being rock bottom and I don't even know if I could do that. My uncle always tells me to meet girls at school and I tell him I'm 10 older than most college students and he says who cares lol! I think your uncle just wants you to get laid =)
sillyanswer Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Let's say a man is 35 years old and: Never married, has no kids Owns home, financially stable Good looking, takes care of himself physically What sort of options would this man realistically have? How tall are you is he?
tricolors Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Have you actually been around women in their mid 20's before? I have, frequently, I'm going on 34, I have no interest in them. Not to insult any mid 20's women here...it's just a generational thing for me. I need to identify with someone. Obviously, there are exceptions, and I'm sure many of you are great, you're just not for me. I'm involved with someone 6.5 years older than me, and from my perspective, she's far more engaging than any 25 year old could possibly be.
Author NGC1300 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 How tall are you is he? 5'8", so yes I tower over people.
Author NGC1300 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 Have you actually been around women in their mid 20's before? I have, frequently, I'm going on 34, I have no interest in them. Not to insult any mid 20's women here...it's just a generational thing for me. I need to identify with someone. Obviously, there are exceptions, and I'm sure many of you are great, you're just not for me. I'm involved with someone 6.5 years older than me, and from my perspective, she's far more engaging than any 25 year old could possibly be. Yes, they're immature. I prefer older women myself. But when I get to be 35, and if I choose to settle down, I simply feel my options will be limited unless I date younger women.
GravityMan Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Let's say a man is 35 years old and: Never married, has no kids Owns home, financially stable Good looking, takes care of himself physically Those are nice things and accomplishments, but don't overstate their importance (excluding the financial stability)... - What's his personality and character like? Sense of humor? Is he comfortable in his own skin? Is he fun and able to be spontaneous and in-the-moment? Being able to connect with a woman emotionally is critical, and that depends FAR more on the above questions rather than his looks, finances or status. - Does he have a decent social life? Interests/hobbies/passions? A nice circle of friends? - A single man being a homeowner is actually a turnoff to some women. I personally don't share the following opinion...but many people believe that it is unwise and even selfish for a man to purchase a house while he is single...i.e. don't buy until you're married and then pick out the house together as a couple. If the single man's house is located in the suburbs, that may also be a turnoff. What sort of options would this man realistically have? He'll probably fare better than a deadbeat, a momma's boy or an obese dude. But still, it depends on the guy as explained above. There are men out there in their 30s who have all those things you mentioned...but yet they aren't personable and are boring as hell for people to be around...so it's easy to see why they're still single despite their achievements. Another thing to consider is that some women will be suspicious of such a guy...they will wonder: "he's got his act together and is nice looking...so why doesn't he have a GF or wife? Is he hiding something? Perhaps commitment issues??" Would women 10 years younger generally be open to dating him? Do you think he's still young enough to find a woman who doesn't have kids, and to start a family of his own? Yes to the first question, but your average 25-year old woman is likely at a very different stage of her life than he is. They may find it difficult to relate to each other. And many 25 year olds are still finding themselves. He may be better off looking at late 20s or early 30s women. He's still young enough to start a family of his own, but he should probably pick up the pace because he's getting close to being middle-aged. The quality of sperm deteriorates as the man ages, increasing risk of birth defects. And raising kids requires a lot of energy. 2
Author NGC1300 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 Another thing to consider is that some women will be suspicious of such a guy...they will wonder: "he's got his act together and is nice looking...so why doesn't he have a GF or wife? Is he hiding something? Perhaps commitment issues?? LoL, so you finally satisy all their petty requirements, just to again be rejected once you attain them. I may very well be alone forever. 2
crude Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Hey man, I have a friend she's 22 and she's dating three guys who are all in their late 30s/early 40s. And she wants to get married and have children asap haha. I'd be careful of a woman like that. Before you know it you WOULDN'T own your own home and the kids would be hers, the bills would be yours. Hard to believe she'd ever contribute financially. What are the odds of a 45 year old former home owner who lives with his mother and gives 70% of his income to his ex finding a woman.
xxoo Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Sorry I know that is generalizing, maybe even disparaging, but honestly how many quality women get to be 30 or 35 and don't yet have kids or other baggage. Not many. Probably about equal to the number of men that age with no kids or other baggage.
sillyanswer Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 5'8", so yes I tower over people. Until she puts her heels on. Seriously, what kind of answer are you looking for? Of course a guy like that could have options.
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