Ryan_B Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Sorry, wasn't sure which forum to put it in, so I put it here. My girlfriend left me 2 months ago, and she was my first and only love (I'm 21). I'm finding it really tough to get over her and constantly think about her, I still love her!! (There's no chance of getting back together though, unfortunately). I went out with a couple of friends into town last night, pubs and clubs. It was a good laugh, I had a few drinks and let loose a little, dancing and just laughing with my friends. BUT at the same time, seeing all the couples, especially those similar ages to me, on the dance floor, being close, kissing, dancing together etc, really made me feel low. I kept thinking ''that should be me and ***** (my ex)''. Everywhere I looked it was loved up couples and I miss it. I've been clubbing 3 times since the split and not a single girl has danced with me, I've not spoken to any girls and if I dance near to some girls (not in an obvious way) they end up moving away a short time after. I'm not good looking and am really short, and it just feels like a kick in the teeth. Also, I met a girl (online, but don't judge as me and my ex met online), and we have been texting. It was going really well and we were texting all the time, for the first time in a couple of months, I felt optomistic about the future. On Friday she said that her phone was nearly dead so she might not text me for a little while as she was out at the time. But since then, I've text her a couple of times, Yesterday and Today and not had a single text back. But she kept saying she was enjoying texting me and said I seem a really great guy, so I'm confused!
january2011 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Take it slowly. It's been two months and you're not over your ex. As much as this new girl is making you more hopeful, she can't be your emotional crutch. I suspect that you probably give off a vibe of desperation or despair because you are still raw over the breakup. That might explain, in part, why you are not attracting any attention from other girls. Get yourself back on track. Perhaps avoid clubbing for now and go for group activities that aren't dominated by couples. Whether this new girl texts you back or not, it's up to her. But don't bombard her with texts hoping that she'll respond to one of them. Just take it as a glimmer of hope. You can have more glimmers of hope as well as other loves in the future. Right now though, you just need to rebuild your life.
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