Lonleyboy13 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Ex contacted me after a month of being broken up to ask how I am I replied with somethimg short and she just ignored me.. Can someone explain what the point is ??? Is she just playing games with me
Kenji Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 She wants to check if you're still on her leash. Next time, don't reply. Go no contact.
Ordinaryday Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 To ease their guilt over dumping you, it is incredibly selfish. They want to see if you respond politely because if you do they can reason that you are okay with what happened, hold no Ill will to them and that they still have you 'on a leash' as the guy above me said. My ex used to do this a lot and I cracked it at her and told her that UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES WHATSOEVER was she to contact me UNLESS the contact was for her to say she made a huge mistake and wants to give us another shot. Never heard from her after that but at least that is better than breadcrumbs.
h3braica Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 yes, they do that to ease their guilt. ex dumped me and misses me for a month after BU. he returned to his ex because of GIGS and still misses me?
Author Lonleyboy13 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 I just find it extremely childish. Do not contact me and then not reply when I reply. I'm not a child she's being so stupid. I was going to message again and say somethimg but that adds more fuel to the fire. Just turns me off her to be honest. I was going to ignore her message to begin with buy that's what she does which I find also childish.. So back to no contact again..
TearyEyedPride Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Honestly, it's a breadcrumb. Enough to tickle your addiction and make you think about her, but not nearly enough to satisfy your need of a fulfilling conversation or understanding of what's going on or what she's thinking. Put simply: Is she playing games? Yes. And to her it doesn't really matter how you feel right now. Knowing you'll respond at her whim gives her a sense of power, confidence, safety and control. You can continue to feed that, or stop and develop some for yourself. Good luck on whatever path you choose.
Author Lonleyboy13 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 That's pathetic. What the **** happened to adult relationships
Am4Real Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 How old is she? That's pathetic. What the **** happened to adult relationships
Author Lonleyboy13 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 24 .. And someone I thought had a mature outlook on life... Hahaha
Am4Real Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Few twenty-four year olds' are experienced in the way with relationships and breaking up. They tend to go with their immediate emotions and only until harm is done unto them, do they realize the "gamesmanship" in it all. Since you are experiencing it as the dumpee, I'm sure you will respect any future person you are with when you decide to leave based on what you experienced in this relationship break up. It's the way we all have learned and still do for that matter. Good luck. 24 .. And someone I thought had a mature outlook on life... Hahaha
AKisBaked Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Yup.. she's just playing... my ex did that to me too.. Actually she just called me yesterday. But I didn't pick up. I think some part of them is still feeling disturbed about your moving on. She wants to know that if you do respond, that your still around. But if you don't then she will be guessing why isn't he picking and answering me? Makes you a mystery:) which you should be. And what does GIGS mean?
GB25 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Yup.. she's just playing... my ex did that to me too.. Actually she just called me yesterday. But I didn't pick up. I think some part of them is still feeling disturbed about your moving on. She wants to know that if you do respond, that your still around. But if you don't then she will be guessing why isn't he picking and answering me? Makes you a mystery:) which you should be. And what does GIGS mean? Mine did the same damn thing pretty much...after a month i get: "so how have you been?" I respond " ive been good and you?" she waits 2.5 hrs and replies " no complaints" thats it. Like wtf...you ask me how im doing than give me that reply 2.5 hrs later...lol..games
AKisBaked Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Mine did the same damn thing pretty much...after a month i get: "so how have you been?" I respond " ive been good and you?" she waits 2.5 hrs and replies " no complaints" thats it. Like wtf...you ask me how im doing than give me that reply 2.5 hrs later...lol..games Waste of your time to even talk to her man... She's throwing you a bone hopefully you will jump on it right away. She thinks she can control you. Don't let her keep trying to talk to you and YOU answering her. Your going to get these pointless conversations with her that don't mean a thing.
Author Lonleyboy13 Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 Yea I think I'll ignore if it ever happens again. Like that's the point?! Don't understand the intentions behind it.. I was surprised she actually messaged me to begin with to be honest thought she was more stubborn then that.
TheFriend Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 I don't know if i should be jealous or thrilled that i never get bread crumbs. A part if me wants to know she has at least thought about me at one point, but on the other hand i have come such a far way i am afraid to see how I would react to it.
RiceaRoni Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 I don't know if i should be jealous or thrilled that i never get bread crumbs. A part if me wants to know she has at least thought about me at one point, but on the other hand i have come such a far way i am afraid to see how I would react to it. I honestly would be thrilled...yeah it might hurt to not hear from them, but when you think about it this way..at least you could say they had the dignity and care to let you grieve the loss without the mixed signals and false hope.
Author Lonleyboy13 Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 I thought I'd be happy to just hear from her.. But I feel worse!! It's not fun ..
Astros1039 Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 She's just testing you to see if you'll reply so she knows you haven't gone anywhere..... And you replied. Just because she texts you doesn't mean she wants to be with you. The sooner you learn this, the better. Save yourself the pain and don't reply to her at all. Ever.
LoveB86 Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 I don't know if i should be jealous or thrilled that i never get bread crumbs. A part if me wants to know she has at least thought about me at one point, but on the other hand i have come such a far way i am afraid to see how I would react to it. Hehe.. I haven't received any breadcrumbs especially since I found out he now has a girlfriend. Been only 3 weeks of the breakup. I wonder if he even cared. I am not sure if he so into his new honeymoon relationship, that he does not have time to think of me or what? This makes me even more sad everyday. All I can say is you can try as hard as you can to forget about me, but he knows that isn't possible. So he needs to stop fooling himself. Good luck to him is all I gotta say. 1
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