loredo21 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I saw exMOM AGAIN! I was headed out downtown for dinner with friends and there he was driving right along next to me. We both looked at eachother. No joke. I JUST saw him yesterday. WHAT is going on? Does this mean something? I'm a little buzzed right now and must admit I am tempted to contact....is this a test? Is it just coincidence? Why 2 days in a row, two random places. It's a small town, but not THAT small....I am losing it! 3 times in a month...curse you universe....!
Author loredo21 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 Also, I feel like a stalker....could he be stalking me???
WakingUp Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Don't contact him! Its probably late where you are, and if you are a little buzzed... just wait and see how you feel tomorrow. But don't do it now! Your judgement may not be too good right now. Have a big glass of water and a good sleep! If you do anything now you will be sorry...
WakingUp Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Loredo... I have closed my eyes and am sending NO NO NO messages from the other side of planet Earth.... Just don't do anything! 1
HonestNeurotic Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Yeppers. Have some water and go to bed. Don't let magical thinking take over. Stay strong!
lynn1954 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Don't contact! All just a coincidence, not a sign nor test! Stay strong!
Author loredo21 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 I did it guys. I'm sorry I let you down. My H down. And myself down. I am a despicable human being, and I hate myself so much
eleanorrigby Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 If you are trying to reconcile with your husband, you need to tell him. 3
So happy together Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I did it guys. I'm sorry I let you down. My H down. And myself down. I am a despicable human being, and I hate myself so much This is just not true. Don't say that about yourself. Cut yourself some slack. It's not easy. (((Loredo))) 3
WakingUp Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 OK, well its done now. For goodness sake, don't do anything more! You are human, don't beat yourself up. It will be OK. You have been very strong and brave, don't lose sight of that. Of course running into him rattled you, it would be the same for anyone in this situation. Hold your head high girl. I understand, I really do. And Im pretty sure lots of others on here do too. So don't worry. Be proud of who you are. 2
HonestNeurotic Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 (edited) Now now. No hatin' on yourself! No No NO! You want to KNOW why and that it was a coincidence and not stalking. Curiosity and all that. Happens. Hydrate yourself. Edited April 21, 2013 by HonestNeurotic Improperly worded statement. 3
lynn1954 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I did it guys. I'm sorry I let you down. My H down. And myself down. I am a despicable human being, and I hate myself so much No worries, and remember...it wasn't you talking to him, it was the alcohol talking! Be good to yourself, and start over again. 1
Author loredo21 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 Thanks all. I will Pass out here and reconcile my thoughts and feeling tomorrow. I am very disappointed in myself...
whichwayisup Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Next time you get the urge, post it here. Always remember, no new contact = no new hurts. Tomorrow, start over and let's hope he doesn't contact you back. Sorry I cannot remember, but your H knows of your A? IF so, then do tell him you broke contact. It's a consquence to face and a good test to prove to him that you are trustworthy, even though you broke NC, you're telling him you did. If you don't tell your H, and he finds out on his own, he'll lose what trust he has built with you since D-day. Get some sleep and try not to over think stuff. It is what it is. So what if you run into exMM on occasion. do not look at it as a 'sign' or 'fate' that you two are meant to be in touch again or anything along those lines. I'm sure there are many other people you could see daily that you know, but they aren't on your mind and you're cautious about driving by them, probably don't even notice. You are 'on the look out' for exMM every time you leave your house, so yeah, on some level you could be actively looking for him unintentionally.. 3
AnotherRound Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Eh - it's not the end of the world. You just pick yourself up and start over again - it doesn't mean that you lose all of the progress you've made, that's still there. The universe does like to test us sometimes... and sometimes we don't quite live up to our own expectations. But, be gentle with yourself - you're only human, and you're gonna let yourself down sometimes. You are a mixture of strength and weakness like everyone else - and I still love ya! I'll look forward to see how you feel about all this tomorrow, and what the contact contained and was about. Get some rest and sleep it off and get up tomorrow ready to take on the world again. 1
ThatJustHappened Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Also, can you block his number and email and all social media connections so this doesn't happen again? I agree that you should tell your husband. But don't beat yourself up..slip ups happen to everyone. 1
Lillyfree Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 i believe we've all been there at some point loredo - don't beat yourself up. you had a moment of weakness and slipped up. it's not any sort of divine intervention, the universe doesn't want you two to be together against all odds - it's your mind playing tricks. so i hope that when you get up you'll dust yourself off and keep going. remember, there is a reason - a good one - you two aren't together. *hugs* 1
Lillyfree Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 And what is the source of your information? You really think you KNOW this? That's pretty supernatural in itself. ok... not sure where you're coming from exactly, but... i don't know anything unless i see proof of it. i don't believe in magic, angels, god - to me that's all rubbish insecure people grip onto for reassurance. statistically, she will see MM if she lives in the same place as him. probability will go up if he's making sure that they see eachother. it still doesn't change the fact that she's trying to work on her marriage and trying to get over her affair. 1
Journee Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Oh Loredo....man, I'm sorry you are hurting. You seem to be really on track with your healing. No matter, just pick yourself up and dust yourself off. If you are still wanting to reconcile with your H , please tell him. A false reconciliation is cruel to you and him. Please update when you can. How are you feeling today? ((((((Loredo))))) 3
Author loredo21 Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 Update in a new thread. Thank you so much everyone for your thoughts and concerns...
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