mortensorchid Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 About three years ago, I posted a thread here saying that I had been thrown over not once but twice by two different men who were friends within a few weeks. Part of me left it thinking that they had somehow planned it against me, but another part of me thinks that's foolish to think that someone could be so cruel as to do that. Long story short, I had known this guy off and on for a few years, we'd see each other once in a while, I will call him J. J and I had two dates, then I told him I was leaving for NYC/Chicago and would call him when I returned (after about a week and a half). When I returned, I went to a party at his house (invited by his roommate who I am still friendly with) and he was there. He announced that he had gotten a new gf, his new gf slithers up to him, and he gives her a big, open mouthed kiss and a grope in front of me. I handled it with class. I told him that I hoped they would be very happy and walked away, but I was hurt that he would tell me this that way. I connected at said same party with a guy, I will call him E, who was a friend of his. The next week, he and I went out and he asked me to text him later in the week. I did, and the person on the other end of the text messaging (whoever they were) asked who I was. I responded and said that I was looking for E, I must have the wrong number. Whoever it was on the other end of this text messaging (and the person could have been lying, I realize now) said that they were E's cousin's girlfriend and he was using the phone. Before I could respond, the person on the other end of the texting said that E went back to his kids' mother. I replied to the text saying "Thank you for the information, I am sorry to have bothered you." Needless to say, I was hurt by both of these situations. How could someone be so cruel and heartless as to take an innocent person for a ride like that? It's for the best I found out when I did, otherwise they would have lied to and deceived me even more. I saw a post tonight that lead me down their paths once again. J just had his 3rd child with that same woman from before. E is no longer with the mother of his 4 children and is about to drop his 5th. Yikes. Talk about breeders! And I also realize how lucky I was to have been ousted from them as well. Their lives will be nothing but screwed up situations. Poor kids. 1
january2011 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 They knew each other? Perhaps they were exchanging war stories about you? Yes, it does sound like you dodged a bullet. In my opinion, recent fathers and fathers with pregnant exes don't make good relationship material purely because of the drama you'll get pulled into. 1
Noproblem Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Poor kids! Well, I just like to gloat in such situations. Unfortunately for me, I can't say the same as everyone hurts me turn out to be a big success and happiness all over his place! So...Yeah ...Whatever!
Disinterested Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 About three years ago, I posted a thread here saying that I had been thrown over not once but twice by two different men who were friends within a few weeks. Part of me left it thinking that they had somehow planned it against me, but another part of me thinks that's foolish to think that someone could be so cruel as to do that. Long story short, I had known this guy off and on for a few years, we'd see each other once in a while, I will call him J. J and I had two dates, then I told him I was leaving for NYC/Chicago and would call him when I returned (after about a week and a half). When I returned, I went to a party at his house (invited by his roommate who I am still friendly with) and he was there. He announced that he had gotten a new gf, his new gf slithers up to him, and he gives her a big, open mouthed kiss and a grope in front of me. I handled it with class. I told him that I hoped they would be very happy and walked away, but I was hurt that he would tell me this that way. I connected at said same party with a guy, I will call him E, who was a friend of his. The next week, he and I went out and he asked me to text him later in the week. I did, and the person on the other end of the text messaging (whoever they were) asked who I was. I responded and said that I was looking for E, I must have the wrong number. Whoever it was on the other end of this text messaging (and the person could have been lying, I realize now) said that they were E's cousin's girlfriend and he was using the phone. Before I could respond, the person on the other end of the texting said that E went back to his kids' mother. I replied to the text saying "Thank you for the information, I am sorry to have bothered you." Needless to say, I was hurt by both of these situations. How could someone be so cruel and heartless as to take an innocent person for a ride like that? It's for the best I found out when I did, otherwise they would have lied to and deceived me even more. I saw a post tonight that lead me down their paths once again. J just had his 3rd child with that same woman from before. E is no longer with the mother of his 4 children and is about to drop his 5th. Yikes. Talk about breeders! And I also realize how lucky I was to have been ousted from them as well. Their lives will be nothing but screwed up situations. Poor kids. And yet you are jealous.
pcplod Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 And yet you are jealous. On what basis did you arrive at that little gem? Plucked from thin air? Reading the post I understood that she was offended at how casually undiplomatic and inconsiderate they were at the time. Years later. having learnt a bit more about their history she kind of knows why they treated her like that; because that is how they treat EVERYONE, female, male, cat, dog. Or is she jealous in your mind because she checked them up on FB? Even that requires an assumptive stretch. I would flippantly call it a close shave, except for the fact that in the end it wasn't even close. She would have found out sooner than later anyway and it would have only have been wilful ignorance if she hadn't run a mile in response. That's the bit where you thank your lucky stars even if you end up remaining a spinster the rest of your life as a result.
phineas Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 And yet you are jealous. Possibly. More like she can't handle the thought these men rejected her & is now looking for reasons to disqualify them after the fact. It's sort of like proclaiming you quit after you've been fired from a job.
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