married2school Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Hi all! I somehow stumbled upon this forum and thought non-biased advice from strangers might be nice for a change. I am currently in graduate school out of state and will be headed back home in the fall for medical school. I have an online dating profile because with moving around and school I have found it to be a good way of meeting people. A week or so ago I was contacted by a med student from the school I will be attending. He said he was coming to town for a conference. I rather forwardly asked if he would want to hang out while he was in town, and much to my surprise he did. We attended a music festival and had a nice dinner. Conversation was great. He, more than once, asked what I would be doing the next night and brought up hanging out again. I said sure. Unfortunately the next night when I texted him about it, he said he needed to study for his upcoming exam. (Which I don't mind, I'm usually the one pulling that on guys anyway.) We haven't talked any since then... and I'm always sort of scared to initiate any texting or Facebook messaging after dates anyway. He will be taking the first portion of the medical licensing exam soon. Being extremely focused on school myself, I know firsthand people need their space when things like this are coming up. I'm also stuck in a completely different location until July anyway. I would like to keep in touch over the summer, at least sparingly, but I'm not sure how me initiating contact looks. I also planned on making a couple of trips home and considered letting him know when I was in town... I'm used to being fairly independent though so to me I just sound like I'm coming across as clingy. Any opinions? Normally, I'll admit to not being this enthusiastic after one date, but I was definitely attracted to him and would rank it as one of the better first dates I've been on. I would like the chance to see if something is there.
outsidethebox Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Does he have your text number or email address?
Author married2school Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 Does he have your text number or email address? We're friends on Facebook and he has my number. My best friend - another male med student - seems to think it would be fine to text him... I don't necessarily agree though, but I tend to over analyze. I guess I would, at the very least, like to think it would be okay to text him when I happen to be back in town.
outsidethebox Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I agree with you. When you're headed that way next.
Author married2school Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 I'm beginning to think it sounds like I probably need to follow my gut and ask for my close friends' opinions less often.
MsSmurf Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I don't see anything wrong with occasionally reaching out to him to say hi, see how he's doing, and mention you're headed his way soon. If he's interested he'll respond and try to make time to see you. If he's not then you won't get a reply. I don't think you have anything to lose trying.
Author married2school Posted April 22, 2013 Author Posted April 22, 2013 He viewed my OLD profile so I took that as an invite that he was still interested and decided to text. Got a reply. Hooray for not being ignored! It's very rare that I don't hear from someone, but I guess my personality goes into catastrophe mode sometimes and assumes surely I imagined that the guy seemed to really like me. Catastrophe mode gets worse around final exam time.
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