Josey Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Hi everyone, I'm new to this. I have a question. I'm really falling hard for this man but before I get to that let me first start from the beginning. We work together, things started off small but slowly progressed. I come over all the time, about four times a month. We enjoy good times together, I cook for him as well as clean. We have been seeing each other for the past 5 months going on 6. We are sexually involved as well. He's respectful of me and nice but I feel as if he is hiding something. He is always on his phone, but it's also always on silent. Sometimes I'll text him and he'll answer hours later or not at all. I do all I can for him but be hasn't even taken me on one date, not one. Everything he does with me is in the house. He tells me he enjoys the time we spend together but hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend.When we're laying together he'll lay me in his arms, kiss my forehead. The whole nine. I haven't met his family nor friends. At work he acts as if he wast kissing me the night before, he actually flirts in front of my face, but if he gets the slightest idea I'm interested in someone he gets upset, what gives?
BluEyeL Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 That's really really bad, this man is just using you, and you'll go crazy. You need to get out of this now, but I know you will not. He will dispose of you as soon as he doesn't want you or find you useful anymore. I'm sorry for you.
outsidethebox Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 The level of naivette OP shows is charming.
BluEyeL Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 The level of naivette OP shows is charming. To me, alarming. I heard of a woman in this exact situation who became suicidal.
ses Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 A man who is sincerely committed to someone will already have proposed exclusivity. Yes, he's using you. He probably views you as a f*** buddy since casual sex has always been in the mix. I would end it with the guy, and find someone who treats you with dignity and respect.
Author Josey Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 Thanks for the advice everyone, I thought maybe I was just trying to rush things. Should I just cut him off or explain my feelings. It's so hard to just forget him. I really appreciate the help:)
outsidethebox Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 To me, alarming. I heard of a woman in this exact situation who became suicidal. Why? They become attached to someone they're cooking and cleaning for and provide sex for while beiung treated like they don't exist? Why would they choose to do that? 1
Archgirl Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 How old are you OP? What is your level of prior relationship experience? Is this guy in a more powerful position than you at work?
Buttercup84 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Do not explain anything to him, because frankly he does not care. He gets upset when you talk to another man because he has a huge ego. Just do not respond to his booty calls anymore. Please ! You deserve better. 2
Author Josey Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 I am 22, also I was in a relationship for 2 1/2 years that ended about a year ago. We work in different departments, he is no higher or lower than me but than again what I do is totally different from what he does in his position. 1
married2school Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 6 months with sex but without dates and leaving the guys house while you cook and clean for him? Nu-uh. Sounds to me like someone just wants to be tended to.
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