Spark1111 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I had thought that once the divorce papers are finalized in person, having a copy of them sent to the OM and his wive via registered mail so I know it would get there. Just so that they both know the situation on the otherside of the fence, although I'm not sure what effect that would have. Too formal IMO. Plus, if he is sunning himself in your old backyard...it's time to alert her NOW that you are divorcing and she got the house. You got peace of mind.
Spark1111 Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 This compared to when I initially gave her the details and we spoke briefly, she was an unstoppable force of nature. Then, nothing. Silence and defeat. Could be she doesn't know you are divorcing....OR...he claimed it was over and done.
Decorative Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 I do still feel bad for her. It's a horrible disease, and despite what she and McDouchelle Douche, have done and are still doing, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I know she just got out of the hospital recently (again), but her mother has been there caring for her. I can't just turn the empathy off, even if I do try. Listen to me: She is a grownup. She is making CHOICES not to care about her own life. You need to stop caring more about her own life than she does. You need to take care of yourself. There's the real place your KISA instincts need to go
2sunny Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 Could be she doesn't know you are divorcing....OR...he claimed it was over and done. Her cheating hubby may be intercepting any info you're sending to her.
Artie Lang Posted April 24, 2013 Posted April 24, 2013 (edited) this is a horrible outcome. i remember reading that these two(OM & OBS) were pretty well-off. i suspect she doesn't want to lose her quality of life. i know your marriage is over and all, but i'd make it known to her that you know it's still going on- that people "talk." hopefully it'll shame her a bit. for the life of me, i can't believe you still feel sorry for this woman..... your ex-wife. you're a better man than me when it comes to compassion, that's for sure. Edited April 24, 2013 by Artie Lang 1
96nole Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 Smoke You're upset with the other BS because she is not hurting the OM. You want him to suffer as you have. All it is doing is making you suffer. You don't know what she is doing about him or to him. You don't know the situation over there. Perhaps they agreed on an open marriage. Maybe she is divorcing him. So he figures he might as well get back with your ex. What ever it is, it is not your problem. Your STBXW: She is not your problem anymore. She has a lot of health issues that you would shoulder. Not your problem anymore. Take that weight off your shoulder She is a grown woman, she needs to take care of herself. If she can't, not your problem. She is not yours to save anymore. But there is someone you need to save. You. Start saving yourself. Your only problem now is you. Focus on you. I understand how you feel. My ex had health issues as well. Trips to the ER. Stays in the hospital. Passing out. There were times I would go into the bathroom with her while she took the nastiest, stinkiest dump because she was scared she would pass out. I can't tell you how nice it is to not have to worry about those problems anymore. You'll feel the same. 1
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