Shabelle Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 I ended the relationship I had with a 43 year old man I did mention before that I'm 23 I was at his place from Saturday to Thursday, on Thursday I ask him to go to the movies he never answerd He spent most of his time on his phone and that raise my suspicion, he left his phone down and I searched it and realize that he is involve with another other woman he ask her " what plans do you have for your baby tonight" and that left me In shock. I sent him I left his place and send him a breaking up message The message I sent: The way I see it.. You don't need me in you life, I deserve alot better I ask you to go to the movies tonight then I see you text someone "what plans do you have for your baby tonight". I had no right to go through your message but im glad i did after a read a good bit of your convo I was left in great shock. You are a confused old man for true all this time I'm thinking I'm doing you wrong. This isn't for me I've tried, you don't talk to me like that you don't make plans for me at all. This affair isn't for me that woman was right about you. You don't need me and I don't need this it's to risky. Be with your other females. Do this to your girlfriend. I have been crying but the messages I read and the way he treated me has gotten to me, he has been calling from Thursday I am not taking the calls, today I took one of the calls and he as me why am I not taking his calls I did not answer. I still love him and miss him but I can't go back knowing that I'm not the only other woman his gf is over seas studying. I'm confused I feel like I want him back but I don't trust him and I keep feeling like it could work. Confused, heart broken 3
Author Shabelle Posted April 20, 2013 Author Posted April 20, 2013 Thank you! Reading this made me share a few tears. 1
whichwayisup Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 Ouch! But you know what? BE proud of yourself. It hurts but you did the right thing. You DO deserve better. Glad you have self respect to walk away before this gets too serious and/or you end up with an STD. At 23, there's nothing wrong with having a relationship with someone older, you're old enough to make that decision.. BUT, when the guy already has a girlfriend and has other women on the side as well as you, that's not good. He isn't worth it, you can do better. Just hope your heart catches up to your rashional mind soon. And hope he leaves you alone so you can heal. 2
Author Shabelle Posted April 29, 2013 Author Posted April 29, 2013 Yes. I am still crying. I've tried to tell my self that I am his lost but it's still so painful 1
DelusionalOne Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 Hold your head up and be proud you are so strong! The fact that he calls you and them asks you why you aren't taking his calls (like DUH!) means like he wants to act like nothing ever happened and he didn't do anything. You deserve better, and with as strong as you obviously are... I'm sure you'll find better. Don't be confused. You did the right thing.
MEJ76 Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 ((( Shabelle ))) It will get easier, just cry it all out, and then cry some more... Sending you strength!
skywriter Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 Shabelle, Please don't answer anymore calls from him, it interrupts your healing, it's upsetting you, makes you doubt your decisions, and it feeds his ego. You've known this was a dead end relationship deep down inside. You just had to go there, and you've been there, just don't let yourself go back. Let this be the end of him, for you, it's time for better things. 2
Author Shabelle Posted April 29, 2013 Author Posted April 29, 2013 Yes. It's good to know that there are people who have been there and I'm not the only one as bad as it is.
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