Why did she blow me off

[Johnboy12345]

I met a girl on match.com and emailed back and forth before we decided to meet. We met for drinks and had a few appetizers at a nice restaurant. We seemed to be having a good time and agreed to meet again. Our next date which was only a few days later was to a hockey game. Once again we had a great time and when I got back to her car to drop her off she stayed and chatted, made plans to meet again. Wasn't in a hurry to get out go home and we finally kissed and made out for a few minutes. She mentioned what great kisser I was and said she can't wait to see me again. Everything seemed like it was going great. I was really excited about her because after getting out of a horrible relationship 6 months ago and still dealing with getting rid of the house I haven't had much luck with the opposite sex. So we texted back and forth the next day and she was going out of town to visit family. Everything seemed fine. I asked her how her trip was going and she didn't respond. A few days later I asked her if we were still on for our next date and once again nothing. I know things happen in people's lives to where not responding to someone you're interested in might happen, but all logic is telling me that she just wasn't in to me. It's been a week since I've heard from her and its really bothering me since I really liked her and hoped that I'd finally met someone different. I really felt like we had a lot in common and even seemed to have the same experiences as far as our past relationships. I know women sometimes like it when a guy is persistent and doesn't give up easily on a woman who plays hard to get, but when do I give up? I really want this girl and I think we'd be great together and just because she doesn't respond to a few texts for reasons I can only speculate on. I don't know if I should just actually pick up the phone and call her and lay everything on the line because I wear my emotions on my sleeve and throw all the doubt out the window. Thanks

[SiaLv82]

I wouldn't contact her again. You already made your intentions clear (twice) with the follow up texts. If she is interested she will respond to one of those messages.

 

Woman have a tenancy to jump the gun in dating and relationships more so than men. If she is lax on returning your messages or doesn't return within a week, I would take it as a definite sign of lack of interest. Don't get your hopes up for someone who may eventually friendzone you anyways.

 

And one doesn't necessarily have to have a "bad time" to deem something not worth pursuing.

[Sith Apprentice]

She's probably got hundreds of guys contacting her if she's on match. She found a better option and now you're tail lights. Online dating is where everyone's looking and no ones buying.