Romantic_Lefty Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 So after 3.5 years of dating the girl i loved, she ended up being a changed person/treating me poorly. So for the first time i left, and the third time our relationship was over. Ever since, i have lost friends been estranged and somehow seemingly made out to be the bad guy. My heart COMPLETELY shattered, i tried doing the things i could to keep my sanity. I deleted her off facebook, unfollowed her on twitter, got rid of most of the pictures of us, got rid of everything and went NC! But heres the stupid part. After almost a year, i'm still ****ing thinking about her. Still mad some people don't talk to me anymore. Frustrated that my ex has said she wants to remain friends in texts, but never made any actual attempts/contacted me. Well, just yesterday i found out she was finally getting her white coat for pharmacy. (im pretty sure others have got it before her so i hope she didn't get P1 and it hasn't been sunshine and rainbows for her not to be a bad person, but yeah) I couldn't stand it. i texted her to congratulate her. I figured even if she didn't respond, it would be appreciated you know? was that the right thing to do!?! now i've been left with her responding with a thank you, and then i said your welcome. And now i'm feeling heartache and loss allll over again!
esteem-jam Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 And now you feel bad all over again? I guess its because you ASSUMED that after you thank her on her job - she will, out of kindness, inquire about whats new in your life, right? You do a nice thing to her and she does a nice thing to you, because its what humans do, right? No. Well, maybe in normal circumstances yes, it would work, in a short timeframe. But it looks like a small manipulation, because people will question what you want from them. And in your case, and in many others, she sees clearly what you want from her- love, but she doesnt feel that for you. So she remains silent.
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