Asking questions the indirect way - why do guys do this?

[red shoes]

Does any guy out there ask questions this way? You don't ask direct questions. You ask indirect questions that you think would lead to the girls inadvertently answering the question you would like to have the answer to.

 

Q: Are you seeing Adam (someone obviously you're not)?

A: No. I'm seeing Zach.

or

A: No. I'm not seeing anyone.

 

Also you ask questions trying to not make it sound like you really want to know the answers.

 

What is it that these guys are trying to do? What does it imply?

[Disinterested]

  red shoes said:

Does any guy out there ask questions this way? You don't ask direct questions. You ask indirect questions that you think would lead to the girls inadvertently answering the question you would like to have the answer to.

 

Q: Are you seeing Adam (someone obviously you're not)?

A: No. I'm seeing Zach.

or

A: No. I'm not seeing anyone.

 

Also you ask questions trying to not make it sound like you really want to know the answers.

 

What is it that these guys are trying to do? What does it imply?

In my many years of experience my questionnaire:

 

Do you want me to rock you like a hurricane? Please check one.

[ ]Yes [ ]No

 

has not lead to much in the way of positive feedback.

 

 

People ask indirectly about sensitive matters when there are very real consequences.

 

 

It could be worse. You could have guys asking you to cheat with them or cast doubt on his faithfulness in order to sleep with you instead like a certain sweet fruit.

[red shoes]

  Disinterested said:

In my many years of experience my questionnaire:

 

Do you want me to rock you like a hurricane? Please check one.

[ ]Yes [ ]No

 

has not lead to much in the way of positive feedback.

 

 

People ask indirectly about sensitive matters when there are very real consequences.

 

 

It could be worse. You could have guys asking you to cheat with them or cast doubt on his faithfulness in order to sleep with you instead like a certain sweet fruit.

 

Are you implying that he's interested but doesn't want to be explicit about it?

[carhill]

I used to ask women if they were single and was either lied to or told no so I gave up..... after about 15 years of it

[red shoes]

  carhill said:

I used to ask women if they were single and was either lied to or told no so I gave up..... after about 15 years of it

 

So would you try to ask questions indirectly then for a change?

[Disinterested]

  red shoes said:

Are you implying that he's interested but doesn't want to be explicit about it?

He is probably sending out his feelers to see if you are available.

 

I am a little more sly. I'll compliment her and mention how much her boyfriend must enjoy that about her. Some women will see through it. Some won't. Some women who see through it will act like they don't.

[red shoes]

  Disinterested said:

He is probably sending out his feelers to see if you are available.

 

I am a little more sly. I'll compliment her and mention how much her boyfriend must enjoy that about her. Some women will see through it. Some won't. Some women who see through it will act like they don't.

 

To be fair, he didn't ask the question in my opening thread. But it's a similar style of questioning.

 

I suspect he's sending out his feelers but I don't even think he's really interested in me.

 

Are some guys just inquisitive that way about a girl's availability, even when he has no interest in the girl?

[carhill]

  red shoes said:

So would you try to ask questions indirectly then for a change?

I turned to women who advertised themselves as single. Fewer liars and more dates.

[Disinterested]

  red shoes said:

Are some guys just inquisitive that way about a girl's availability, even when he has no interest in the girl?

Guys don't usually set up guys on dates so if a guy is asking questions to probe a girl's relationship status then he is interested in a little something something or something more.