tuxedo cat Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 he finally texted he wrote" "hi how are you? long time no talk" me: "good and you?" him: "good. I woke up a while ago. I am going to go out with my cousin and my brother. The beach is cancelled. for the beach (which is what we had discussed at some point during the week). me: yes, today was not a good day for the beach him: what did you do today? me: brunch. him: you've been lost! you don't text me anymore! me: well, you haven't called me or texted me either. him: you're mad?? I have been really busy working but I haven't forgotten about you... NEXT! I'm sorry but what a dick... 3
Author eleanorhurting Posted April 20, 2013 Author Posted April 20, 2013 I'm sorry but what a dick... i know... even the ones that seem so nice at first can be a total dick! 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 i know... even the ones that seem so nice at first can be a total dick! You're a pretty girl and you seem like you have a good head on your shoulders. You'll do just fine.
Author eleanorhurting Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 I know I just get frustrated because every time I think I have fixed my people picker it turns out I havent...
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I know I just get frustrated because every time I think I have fixed my people picker it turns out I havent... Just keep trying and don't get down. That's how I found my current gf. The right guy will come along.
Author eleanorhurting Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 with my luck I'll pick a terrorist (I am moving to Boston)
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 with my luck I'll pick a terrorist (I am moving to Boston) LOL too soon
Disinterested Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 he finally texted he wrote" "hi how are you? long time no talk" me: "good and you?" him: "good. I woke up a while ago. I am going to go out with my cousin and my brother. The beach is cancelled. for the beach (which is what we had discussed at some point during the week). me: yes, today was not a good day for the beach him: what did you do today? me: brunch. him: you've been lost! you don't text me anymore! me: well, you haven't called me or texted me either. him: you're mad?? I have been really busy working but I haven't forgotten about you... NEXT! So easy to be nexted....
Author eleanorhurting Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 So easy to be nexted.... are you serious?? do you seriously think he shoudl not be nexted? oh I got a flat tire later today and I told hima nd he told me he could nt come and help me... more confirmation
carhill Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 Nine dates, a makeout session and breakup via text. Is this normal?
Author eleanorhurting Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 Nine dates, a makeout session and breakup via text. Is this normal? we didnt break up I guess I will just stop replying to his texts?
Author eleanorhurting Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 he had sent me a request on fb and I finally added him wednesday could this be it? should I defriend him?
tbf Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 eh, if you're going to next someone, why are you staying in contact? Have some pride. Let this one go and find some guy who's going to prioritize you.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 he had sent me a request on fb and I finally added him wednesday could this be it? should I defriend him? I don't think it really matters at this point. If it makes you feel better, then do it.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I am super clueless when it comes to men what does it mean when someone you are seeing casually (no sex of course) takes you out to breakfast on thursday and says lets do something saturday but does not make a concrete plan and does not follow up? I am starting to think I should make alternate plans I haven't heard from him since thursday morning should I have been the one to make the plans? or the time? I mean does he expect to just call me up at some point during the day and that I will be waiting for him or something? My guess is that anyone who does this just doesn't care enough to actually follow through with their plans. Either they don't care in general or they just don't care about you. I've had people do this to me before. Women in a dating capacity and others in a "friend" capacity. I don't grovel or beg so I generally just ignore such people. If I'm mad enough I'll even ignore them if they try to contact me later on.
Author eleanorhurting Posted April 21, 2013 Author Posted April 21, 2013 I don't think it really matters at this point. If it makes you feel better, then do it. I think I will wait a while so I don't look like a crazy psycho bitch do you guys think my expectations are too high?
Disinterested Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 I think I will wait a while so I don't look like a crazy psycho bitch do you guys think my expectations are too high? You are the one who sets your own expectations. Before you mentioned the tire bit it seemed a little much since your casual acquaintanceship wasn't a table for one. You had an equal part in it. He should have tried to help you with the tire, but guys who drop everything when a woman has a little issue tend to get little respect from women. Though if you ignore a woman over things like that you can easily win her ire. Another one of those catch 22 situations. Then again you didn't have a clearly defined relationship and there are a lot of women out there who just use guys. How far would you go for a casual acquaintance you met a few times and only did some making out with who was going to be out of your life soon? It is hard to care about someone who could be more but shows signs that might not be possible or who might only be semi interested for now. Anyway you look at it you should tell him straight that this isn't working. Stop doing the girl thing and being evasive all the time. He is guessing something is up but you need to come clean. Otherwise this could continue for awhile. You obviously don't want that.
tuxedo cat Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 You are the one who sets your own expectations. Before you mentioned the tire bit it seemed a little much since your casual acquaintanceship wasn't a table for one. You had an equal part in it. He should have tried to help you with the tire, but guys who drop everything when a woman has a little issue tend to get little respect from women. Though if you ignore a woman over things like that you can easily win her ire. Another one of those catch 22 situations. Then again you didn't have a clearly defined relationship and there are a lot of women out there who just use guys. How far would you go for a casual acquaintance you met a few times and only did some making out with who was going to be out of your life soon? It is hard to care about someone who could be more but shows signs that might not be possible or who might only be semi interested for now. Anyway you look at it you should tell him straight that this isn't working. Stop doing the girl thing and being evasive all the time. He is guessing something is up but you need to come clean. Otherwise this could continue for awhile. You obviously don't want that. I doubt he even cares. He thinks he can treat her any which way. He's not even trying to hold onto her. Screw him.
Disinterested Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 I doubt he even cares. He thinks he can treat her any which way. He's not even trying to hold onto her. Screw him. Still it is best to tell him if that is the way she feels. You can only have a clear break by voicing it. "It is over."
tuxedo cat Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Still it is best to tell him if that is the way she feels. You can only have a clear break by voicing it. "It is over." She doesn't owe him anything.
Disinterested Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 She doesn't owe him anything. She doesn't but breakups are more for you than for them.
tuxedo cat Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 She doesn't but breakups are more for you than for them. It's up to her whether she needs to contact him again. I personally think she will feel stronger if she doesn't.
Disinterested Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 It's up to her whether she needs to contact him again. I personally think she will feel stronger if she doesn't. Being incapable of calling a guy to set something up or break up is more a sign of weakness.
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