mehim Posted September 18, 2004 Posted September 18, 2004 i think that im too much into my relastionship, or im too attached to my bf. what i mean is for example, my mood changes compeletly just because of him. if he would do something or say something nice, im the happiest person, and if he would pull back a little or do something that wouldnt be such a big deal, i would be upset for nothing. i just think that im to emotional, or im just too much into my relationship, i usually careless for a lot of things, lots of ppl saying things, it really doesnt bother me. when it comes to him, its a big deal. i wish i could just be less attached or just try to live normally, without my bf affecting it so much, he doesnt know that of course. i just realized all that. so what would ur advice be, anything???
moimeme Posted September 19, 2004 Posted September 19, 2004 It's about fear. You're afraid he'll go away. It's a fairly common fear, particularly when you're in a new relationship. You have to lecture yourself. Tell you that you are panicking over nothing. Tell you to chill and try to not be so fearful. Eventually, you should feel more trusting of him and the relationship and be able to strike a balance between taking him for granted and panicking over possibly losing him.
Author mehim Posted September 20, 2004 Author Posted September 20, 2004 well i think i do have that fear, but only becasue i have lost him before, and its not really a new relationship, its going to be almost two years on and off if a month. actually i do tell myself all the time, its not a big deal, everything is ok, but sometimes i cant help it, its just the way he acts. i also think that he is a little distant since we got back together, i guess it'll take a bit of time to get back to normal again. but i still wish i could be less dramatic about him, and the relationship.
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