Pompeii Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I'm asking for any tips from anyone on how to stay positive during times of lack of success. I was down today. I got caught in a cycle of negative thinking and feelings. Generally, I would describe myself as an optimist and A few years ago, I didn't really understand that much about girls and their sexual preferences. Since coming to college a couple years ago, I know that not only do girls like to have sex, but they sometimes want it even more than guys do. This was a harrowing discovery for me because I realized that I hadn't had any girls interested in me beyond friendship, I started to look at myself as dysfunctional. I saw all of my friends have some type of success in one form or another and I started to feel as if something was wrong with me. I don't know if it was because I wasn't meeting the right girls or if it was because I just didn't have that "spark". Either way, I'm almost at 20 with nothing to show for it. I'd say everything in my life is going great with the exception of this. Can anyone help me out with thinking positively in times of no success?
RedRobin Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 (edited) This might help... Life is a series of achievements and setbacks. Even if you achieve this one goal (getting better relating to women), something else will come along to challenge your life approach and values. Learning to be resilient is a great life skill. Edited April 19, 2013 by RedRobin
Author Pompeii Posted April 20, 2013 Author Posted April 20, 2013 This might help... Life is a series of achievements and setbacks. Even if you achieve this one goal (getting better relating to women), something else will come along to challenge your life approach and values. Learning to be resilient is a great life skill. I agree and thanks for the link.
Author Pompeii Posted April 20, 2013 Author Posted April 20, 2013 Watch The Karate Kid....a lot. The original, not the new one. Seen it, it's a good movie.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 I'm asking for any tips from anyone on how to stay positive during times of lack of success. I was down today. I got caught in a cycle of negative thinking and feelings. Generally, I would describe myself as an optimist and A few years ago, I didn't really understand that much about girls and their sexual preferences. Since coming to college a couple years ago, I know that not only do girls like to have sex, but they sometimes want it even more than guys do. This was a harrowing discovery for me because I realized that I hadn't had any girls interested in me beyond friendship, I started to look at myself as dysfunctional. I saw all of my friends have some type of success in one form or another and I started to feel as if something was wrong with me. I don't know if it was because I wasn't meeting the right girls or if it was because I just didn't have that "spark". Either way, I'm almost at 20 with nothing to show for it. I'd say everything in my life is going great with the exception of this. Can anyone help me out with thinking positively in times of no success? I thought the same way as you at your age. As you get older and start getting more successful with women, you'll find that getting a girl is not really an accomplishment. Basically, just go out, have fun, and realize that it's not a big deal.
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