Author irc333 Posted April 20, 2013 Author Posted April 20, 2013 Not sure where you're going with this. I'm an easy going guy but if you cross me you're gonna know it. Does that count as a 180? The pont is be yourself and if a boundary is crossed let them know in a "fair but firm" manner. I felt that I didn't lead her astray in this situation, just took more than one conversation for me to draw a conclusion about her, nothing more...I tried to be civilized in letting her down easily, but...she basically couldn't handle rejection and lost her temper.
Art_Critic Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 You shouldn't ever have to feel that you have to stand up to a woman, that is what I think is the difference. Showing a backbone is different than standing up for yourself.. If you feel the need to defend yourself to someone you just met or started to date then you are picking the wrong women. 2
StanMusial Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 Maybe you're not attractive enough for them to not care about you having a back bone? Maybe they just see you as a dick, rather than someone who has a back bone? If she was attracted to you she would not be pissed if you "show a backbone". It would likely be the opposite reaction. If it is someone you just met or barely know, and you're on the phone or whatever you might come across like an arsehole.
Author irc333 Posted April 20, 2013 Author Posted April 20, 2013 . Showing a backbone is different than standing up for yourself.. Well, that's what I meant "standing up for yourself". Personally I thought they were the same exact thing.
love1336x Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 ...when someone else shows back bone or stands up to a woman....she wants him even more. You know...I always hear how when a woman likes a guy that can up for himself, sets her straight and doesn't let her walk all over him. But, when I get to a point where I stand up to a woman, it pisses them off, and quite frankly, they never want to talk to me again. Is it all just a myth, or a case of her not getting her way instead? Wellll, how do you come out when you try to set a woman straight?
Author irc333 Posted April 20, 2013 Author Posted April 20, 2013 picking the wrong women. Never really understood "picking the wrong women" Is it like, when you get married...a few years later, it doesn't work, she wants a divorce....you say, "Oh, you're just picking the wrong women to marry" lol. It's kind of stating the obvious, only after the fact. Anyhow, don't you have to pick the wrong women, until you get the come across the "right woman" get married, grow old together and die in holy wedlock? And only THEN, after your both dead....your living friends could ONLY say, "Yeah, he picked the right woman!" lol
PJKino Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 Confidence backbone etc there just cliche terms at this point about turn ons and i wouldnt read much into them.. The bottom line is if a women isnt already physically attracted to you then none of these things will magically make her attracted to you.. My guess is a lot of these women you meet arent attracted to you in that way yet you hear as a man that women say if a guy has confidence or backbone or charisma it can make him attractive and you're confused when the fact of the matter is none of it is really true if there is no physical attraction then the other traits dont matter..
pbjbear Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 I like guys that arent pushovers, that have self respect and stand up for themselves when the time is right. I dont like dominating, degrading, entitled men either. Something inbetween
Cutiepie1976 Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 Why struggle and worry about someone who is disrespectful within a couple of phone calls? You don't need to worry about showing a backbone. You just need to move on! If the person thinks that little of you from the start...NEXT!
Star Gazer Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 Well, that's what I meant "standing up for yourself". Personally I thought they were the same exact thing. You don't SHOW that you have a backbone. You just HAVE one.
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