BrownBarbie Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 So my sex buddy and i had sex yesterday during his lunch hour. we had previous plans to have sex the following day. i followed up with a text to ask if we were still on. he replied and said he forgot condoms, and asked if I had any? I was speechless because the day before while sitting on top of him i asked if he had protection before we start and he said he is always prepared, referring to having condoms when he comes over, which he did. I replied to his text and said that since he was unprepared lets just reschedule. Was I wrong? I interpret lots and figured that he didn't have intentions of having sex. Because #1 He forgot to take condoms with him to work #2. He could have easily picked some up on his way to my place (considering we will always need them). He's pretty successful so i wouldn't assume it's a financial thing. However, I do know that he is very mindful of his spending and not wasteful. We don't date, we don't go out to eat, I've never been a responsibility for him in anyway. I just feel like the Least he could do for free sex is be prepared and if he just isn't interested in having sex at that moment be able to articulate that to me. Am I wrong? And for the record, yes I do have condoms at my place and if I didn't I would just go out and get some.
GorillaTheater Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I think you're interpreting way too much here. He said he forgot. Seems reasonable to me, being a guy who has done his share of forgetting. 2
Author BrownBarbie Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 Maybe i am. Being a woman, i do my fair share of interpeting :-). Then Gorilla, why wouldn't he just pick up a pack on his way to my place?
GorillaTheater Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Maybe i am. Being a woman, i do my fair share of interpeting :-). Then Gorilla, why wouldn't he just pick up a pack on his way to my place? I imagine he would have, if you had responded that you didn't have any at your place. He was just trying to save himself a trip. Instead, you rescheduled, so that kind of rendered the whole thing moot. On the bright side, he'll probably be more inclined to remember from now on. 1
Author BrownBarbie Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 (edited) Ok wiseman. I appreciate your wisdom at this time. update: He didn't reply to my suggestion to reschedule. Do I just leave this one alone and look fwd to the next opportunity? or invite him over?---I want to avoid the emotional confused woman phenomena. Edited April 19, 2013 by BrownBarbie
GorillaTheater Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Well, I don't know how long it's been since you suggested rescheduling, although I assume it's been less than 24 hours, and I hesitate suggesting timeframes, not knowing the framework of your FWB relationship, but sending something tomorrow morning suggesting he come over that evening seems reasonable to me.
Author BrownBarbie Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 (edited) Well, yes this is all happening as I reply to you. Tomorrow won't work for us. I'm only available for sex on Fridays so we will need to wait a week. He gets off at 5pm and lives in the next town from me so. It's either I invite him now or stay horny for another 7 days which I can do. We've been sleeping together for 3 years on and off. We believe to have a great understanding and are great friends who just have sex. There are emotions on both sides I'm sure. However, i usually play the cold role ie rescheduling bc he doesn't have condoms like today or thank him for coming over to pleasure me and asking him to leave shortly after. I've invested too much thought in *thinking about having sex today. Edited April 19, 2013 by BrownBarbie 1
Author BrownBarbie Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 Well, yes this is all happening as I reply to you. Tomorrow won't work for us. I'm usually only available for sex on Fridays (yesterday i was off) so we will need to wait a week. He gets off at 5pm and lives in the next town from me so. It's either I invite him now or stay horny for another 7 days which I can do. We've been sleeping together for 3 years on and off. We believe to have a great understanding and are great friends who just have sex. There are emotions on both sides I'm sure. However, i usually play the cold role ie rescheduling bc he doesn't have condoms like today or thank him for coming over to pleasure me and asking him to leave shortly after. I've invested too much thought in *thinking about having sex today.
foreverandalways Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 There's a lot of overthinking here for just a simple FWB situation. Second, you're also getting free sex, so maybe you should consider having a stash of condoms at your place as well. Just because he wears them doesn't mean he should always have to be paying for them. And you mentioned that it was during his lunch breaks that you have sex, perhaps he didn't want to waste valuable time with a trip to pick up the condoms, and just checking to see if you had some instead. I'm wondering what made you reschedule? Just the fact that neither of you had condoms, but both had time to run and get some prior to getting together? 3
Author BrownBarbie Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 Great insite. I was quick to reschedule because somewhere along the lines I felt that we didn't have to go a second round today. Too frequent. I'll see him next week, hopefully.
Author BrownBarbie Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 And you mentioned that it was during his lunch breaks that you have sex, perhaps he didn't want to waste valuable time with a trip to pick up the condoms, and just checking to see if you had some instead. I'm wondering what made you reschedule? Just the fact that neither of you had condoms, but both had time to run and get some prior to getting together? This meeting was to be after work, not lunch. That was yesterday. Your attention to detail to my situation pointed out exactly what my issue was. Wasn't about the condoms. I didn't want to see him today even more so i felt he wasn't as eager and unprepared to have sex. It's been an interesting day. He's on him way home. I attempted to patch things up and promised to have a box here for him in the future. I'm done.
Keenly Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 The point of a sex buddy is to have drama free physical action ... and you seem to be creating drama.
Author BrownBarbie Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 Is this the same guy that is married bb? Married? oh no. He's very single. handsome. tall. in shape. well-endowed. wealthy. And, considerate. Any woman would be lucky to have him
Author BrownBarbie Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 The point of a sex buddy is to have drama free physical action ... and you seem to be creating drama. I created the drama only via loveshack. Members helped me to realize that I really just wasn't interested in sex that day. Condoms were not the issue. I haven't seen his since. We have been brief contact tho. I'm busy, he's busy.
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