IS IT Better late Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 So I read somewhere on this forum that the short relationships tend to have better chances of second chances as compared to the long relationships. When I say short I mean 1 year or less. I guess it all depends on how it ended and the people involved. But there is some logic to the short one's. Usually the short one's end b/c it was an abrupt emotional decision or possibly competition from another guy or girl. Also there's less baggage and when the dumper looks back they might not be able to feel what caused them to end it at that time. LTR's do have more time together and more memories and the lives are more intertwined but the dumper may have completely lost all feelings for that person and thus can't seem to find any positive to getting back together. Any thoughts or stories would be appreciated, thanks!
intigo Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 So I read somewhere on this forum that the short relationships tend to have better chances of second chances as compared to the long relationships. When I say short I mean 1 year or less. I guess it all depends on how it ended and the people involved. But there is some logic to the short one's. Usually the short one's end b/c it was an abrupt emotional decision or possibly competition from another guy or girl. Also there's less baggage and when the dumper looks back they might not be able to feel what caused them to end it at that time. LTR's do have more time together and more memories and the lives are more intertwined but the dumper may have completely lost all feelings for that person and thus can't seem to find any positive to getting back together. Any thoughts or stories would be appreciated, thanks! Had a girl for 2,5 months great sex i was in love she wasnt she ended it never came back. Had a relationship for 3 years (1year long distance) she ended it in 2009 she asked for a second chance in 2011 and two weeks ago...so i depends on the people and the circumstances, but in my opinion less time means less bonding less feelings.. 2
travelonic Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 First off, I think we'd need some terminology definitions - long vs short in the scope of a relationship [or, maybe more specifically, a definition of 'really short,' 'short,' 'medium length,' 'long,' and 'really long' to cover more bases... [and I'm myself not sure where I'd fit the 13 month relationship I was in on the spectrum. ]
LumberJack Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 Neither's true. Too many variables in this second-chance-probability equation. Still, I'm rooting for the short ones
Simon Phoenix Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 The ones I know of that have gotten back together and stuck were shorter ones (under a year). But the sample size is so small that it's hard to really tell. While short ones usually have fewer conflict points, it can also be argued that the bond connecting the two people is weaker.
Pretty Flacko Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I think that logic has to do with the "honeymoon period", although I agree with intigo, with the longer relationships there is more of a void once the person is gone, you don't develop that sort of relationship in 6 months or less.
travelonic Posted April 21, 2013 Posted April 21, 2013 I think that logic has to do with the "honeymoon period", although I agree with intigo, with the longer relationships there is more of a void once the person is gone, you don't develop that sort of relationship in 6 months or less. I think that length of time can also go hand in hand with how much time you spend with that other person - as in, it could theoretically be possible to compare somebody in a 6 month relationship to somebody in a 1 year relationship if said person spent as much time with the other as the people in a 1 year relationship [just compressed so to speak into a shorter [six month] period.
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