ConfusedGuy1005 Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 My girlfriend of three months broke up with me recently stating that she only feels for me as a friend. We were really happy together a couple of weeks ago and I know she felt differently then, but I became very busy for about two weeks and didn't have much time to see her. I feel that this time caused us to drift apart. We are very similar and made each other happy, and everyone thinks that we make a great couple. I always treated her really well and I we never fought, but we also didn't discuss our feelings very often. She was new to relationships and I was really her first boyfriend. I talked to her a few days after the breakup about us and explained to her that I felt that our relationship ended at the wrong time. I told her that I had planned to make it up to her that week for not being there for the past couple of weeks, but I wasn't given the chance. She told me that I did nothing wrong and that for some reason she just sees me as a friend. She asked if we could still be friends because she couldn't bear the thought of never seeing me again. Directly after this conversation we talked and joked around for almost two hours. We made each other laugh then and talked more then than we had in the time that I was busy. I really feel that we can have a great relationship, and I genuinely care for her. I feel that she might be unsure of her choice, but if she were she would be too shy to tell me unless I talked to her about it first. I'm not really sure what to do right now. I want to talk to her and be around her now, but I feel that she won't miss me at all if I'm there too often. She lives on my floor in my dorm so it's almost impossible not to see her every once in a while, and we are both very kind and caring people so there is no way I could just ignore her if I saw her. Should I just keep low contact with her, or should I try to be close to her? We only have a couple of weeks left before everyone returns home for summer and our homes are 9 hours apart. I usually spend a month with family over the summer in an area that is pretty close to hers near a major city, where I am originally from and where she lives now. I'm thinking about keeping in contact with her and inviting her to lunch when I go there to gauge how we still feel about each other in that point in time. However that would be almost 2 months from now, and while I may even feel differently then and im mot even sure if that meeting will cause her to want me again, I really want to be able to be with her sooner. I apologize for the long post, I'm just very unsure of what to do. I really want us to be together, but I don't want to lose her in my life. I don't want to convince her to come back, I want her to want to come back.
lillyrae Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 Just take your time. Sit down with her and discuss what both of you want and what your feelings are towards each other. Keep in contact with her, with that you two will stay close. Make sure you do spend time with her if she and you wants to. I hope that helps.
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