TheFriend Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Well, another weekend is here.....the absolute hardest days of the week. I hate hate hate weekends soo much as i am always so tempted to contact my ex to see if she would like to hang out or something stupid. This a big problem for others as well? 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Yes! But, as everyone here has mentioned, we must find things to do to remain distracted/occuopied. Can be tough, though... Try and do something fun. Movie, small road trip, etc... BUT, do NOT contact the ex. That will ONLY make you feel worse!!! I'm sure you already knew that
jjjman Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 (edited) Yeah, for some reason, weekend scared me too, especially when I have nothing to do that day. When I m alone, some how I always think about her and how much fun she is having with her new guy. It sickens me! But I can't seems not to think about her............. I wonder when I will stop thinking about her? I am going on a day trip with some friends this sat, hopefully it will get my mind off her. Edited April 19, 2013 by jjjman
misswillow Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Well, another weekend is here.....the absolute hardest days of the week. I hate hate hate weekends soo much as i am always so tempted to contact my ex to see if she would like to hang out or something stupid. This a big problem for others as well? Oh yes. I think there is a new thread about it every weekend, so I think almost all of us feel the same way. And my weekend has started early today because there is a terrorist on the loose and they've locked down the city, so I can't go to work.
youngnlove89 Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 The weekends are incredible aren't they? What used to go by so fast, is now just an irritation that couldn't go by an slower, but ah, it never fails to show you how long they can really be. So this weekend, I'm going out tonight with a good guy friend of mine, who is just strictly a friend and we are going to have sushi and go see a movie and then bar hop! Then tomorrow, I'm sleeping in and going to my dads to lounge by the pool with family and then we're having a barbeque. Then on Sunday, I'm going to clean and work out and blast the music and dance in my underwear (but that's our secret) and watch chick flicks all day. I'm not letting this fool (my ex) ruin my life anymore. I'm 23 and now is the time to live and have fun, before we get old, crippled and are succumbed to our reclining chairs for the remainder of our lives. 4
GI_Joy Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I'm not letting this fool (my ex) ruin my life anymore. I'm 23 and now is the time to live and have fun, before we get old, crippled and are succumbed to our reclining chairs for the remainder of our lives. LMAO! I love this. It's a great reminder, since I'm a year younger than you as well. And it also reminds me of how I put up with my ex, who didn't like getting out of the house or new experiences whatsoever, and all we did was watch netflix and play his video games. Who the heck was I dating, a 10 year old?!
iouaname Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Yep, weekends are the toughest for me, too. I have a presentation due this coming week and I have plenty of things that I need to be out doing today, and while I should be looking at it as a blessing, instead I am just feeling so tired and unmotivated
youngnlove89 Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 LMAO! I love this. It's a great reminder, since I'm a year younger than you as well. And it also reminds me of how I put up with my ex, who didn't like getting out of the house or new experiences whatsoever, and all we did was watch netflix and play his video games. Who the heck was I dating, a 10 year old?! That's funny. My ex and I didn't do crap together either. We always watched netflix and had sex at his apt. BORING. It's okay every once in awhile, but I want to go out and live. Go hiking. Go on road trips. Go to a bar. Water park. Miniature golfing. Go to dinner. Watch a new movie that's out. Whatever. ya know? Going out doesn't have to be expensive.
GI_Joy Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 That's funny. My ex and I didn't do crap together either. We always watched netflix and had sex at his apt. BORING. It's okay every once in awhile, but I want to go out and live. Go hiking. Go on road trips. Go to a bar. Water park. Miniature golfing. Go to dinner. Watch a new movie that's out. Whatever. ya know? Going out doesn't have to be expensive. Exactly, and my ex always had an excuse and he was so stingy too. Was always reluctant to spend money on me or in general. He hated the city that I lived in, so I always went over to his area to hang out. He always put himself first and I only saw him at his convenience. Lesson learned.
youngnlove89 Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Exactly, and my ex always had an excuse and he was so stingy too. Was always reluctant to spend money on me or in general. He hated the city that I lived in, so I always went over to his area to hang out. He always put himself first and I only saw him at his convenience. Lesson learned. Girl, me too!! How weird our situations are the same. He was very frugal but has the money and only spent it on himself. Most of the time I paid for dinner! And he never came to my place, it always had to be his. Definitely lesson learned. We are too good for that.
cdt76 Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I used to take my girl out all the time. We had all kinds of things we did. We were always busy then would rush back home and make love. Sounds like you two girls need an older man! ahahah! Today has been really hard. Had a terrible date last night and all I can think of is how great we were together at the beginning. Tonight I might go to a bar and hang out for a bit. It's kind of hard seeing that I don't have but one single friend. So question: Is it weird if a guy goes to a bar alone?
Author TheFriend Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 My ex is the same age as you girls and I did all of that stuff you say you wished your exes did. Always did something fun at least one of the weekend nights. Would take her to all kinds of things. She still left me:( it drives me crazy and confuses the hell out of me. She has made me feel like the crappiest bf after the fact. I wish sh was as appreciative as you girls seem like you would have been!
destroyed4sho Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 friend- didnt we already.establish the fact your ex was a.psycho?!
cavalier99 Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 I used to take my girl out all the time. We had all kinds of things we did. We were always busy then would rush back home and make love. Sounds like you two girls need an older man! ahahah! Today has been really hard. Had a terrible date last night and all I can think of is how great we were together at the beginning. Tonight I might go to a bar and hang out for a bit. It's kind of hard seeing that I don't have but one single friend. So question: Is it weird if a guy goes to a bar alone? After my BU id go to bars on my own when i couldnt rally the troops to go out. Why not? Half the time i went with my friends id be talking to so many girls that i didnt see them much anyway or they would f*ck things up. Sometimes it is better to be the lone wolf! You just need to get fired up. Do a few sets of curls then roll out! Cav
ThatJustHappened Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 I'm watching a super boring movie by myself. Totally fine with that! Except for the boring part..I think I'll put Harry Potter on instead, and I'll have my friend Maker's Mark join me.
Author TheFriend Posted April 20, 2013 Author Posted April 20, 2013 friend- didnt we already.establish the fact your ex was a.psycho?! Yes we sure did:) I think I have a massive lack of self respect for myself with her. It's weird I still am not sure how I would handle her coming back in my life. I know I should have nothing but hate thoughts and pure anger for her.
grace777 Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 Oh yes. I think there is a new thread about it every weekend, so I think almost all of us feel the same way. And my weekend has started early today because there is a terrorist on the loose and they've locked down the city, so I can't go to work. Oh no - you live in Boston! So sorry for all you've had to deal with this week. And I'm so glad they caught the younger kid alive. Hopefully we'll all get some answers. Your city (and the surrounding areas) were so amazing throughout this ordeal. So scary. On the topic of this post, I used to feel the same way. I'm 6 months post bu and now feel (almost) back to normal. Regardless, I dealt with the loneliness in my own way for months. Got used to it. Forced myself to get out, even when I didn't have the emotional energy to do so. Now, I am used to spending time alone and with friends again - like when I was single, pre-ex. You'll find your groove again. But you have to give it time, and also give it effort by forcing yourself out there.
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 I'm watching a super boring movie by myself. Totally fine with that! Except for the boring part..I think I'll put Harry Potter on instead, and I'll have my friend Maker's Mark join me. Gotta love the Makers. But my fav is the Black Label over ice
AKisBaked Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 Hate weekends too because I'm working... Every weekend I have to work and when there's too much down time your mind just starts to wonder and it doesn't help that I work in front of a computer I could simply go on and search her up.... I wish I could just wish I could spend it with friends instead of being at work.... It will help me not think of the bs in my mind...
McGriff Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 A few weeks back I absolutely despised weekends because of the loneliness...but the last few, I've packed with activities. Date last night, paintball long today with my kids, and a day trip tomorrow to the Alamo, and a visit to my daughters college campus she's going to next semester. Staying on the move and out of the house has been helping me ALOT!
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