Broke up with mi girlfriend 3 days ago, she texted me yesterday!

[knopfler1]

Hello everyone, this is my story, I need help

 

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 5 months, she has sometimes immature attitudes and sometimes does not know what he wants but is a great person and I love her. At the beginning of the relationship she put these excuses

 

1-We are of different social class, she always reminded me of this, I say that social class does not matter but she insists that the fact that she is not in the same class as me will make things not work between her and me.

 

2-She was born in another city, but at age 11 she came to live in my city but she warned me before we became a couple that she will return to her hometown in two years when she finishes school, she wants to live with her mother and brothers who live in that city. Her mother abandoned and left her with her father when she was 11 years old. Some times she changed her mind and made me see that she would fight for our relationship no matter what and that she would stay in my city.

 

3-often told me that she does not to want to get hurt and does not want me to fall in love with her because if this happens it will make things more difficult when she goes

 

Well, this is the important part, two weeks ago she went to her hometown for just two weeks to take care of her mother who had surgery of the spine, the day before she would go we were supposed to see each other, but she went and never said goodbye. With this fact I knew there was something wrong going on here. A week passed and I had no news from her, I tried to call her to her cellphone and there was no signal so I sent her an email, it was the only way to contact her. She responded the same day that i sent her the email and she said that she was fine and that she hoped i was fine too, she told me that she didn't contacted me because she thought I was still angry that she didn't say goodbye to me and that had not contacted me because her cellphone had no signal in her city but she told me that she would tell me the date that would come back from her city . When I saw the email I thought things were normal. After this a week passed and again, I had no news from her until wednesday that I saw that she was online on whatsapp and I said to my self: Maybe she returned from her trip, and she never told me about this. On the night I contacted her through whatsapp and asked her what was going on and she told me that she arrived that day from her trip and that she didn't told me because now that she saw her mom who lives there she is determined to go to live with her in not so much time and that demotivated her from the relationship that she and I have, thats why she didn't told me when she would come back, she is very determined that in a few months she will go. Then after this she told me that she wants to see me in person because what she is telling me is hard and that she would like to see me if I like. She also told that I am very special for her. This was on tuesday but yesterday in the morning she sends me this text message that says: Have a nice day!!!, I have exams this week but I can see you next week and I was like what the hell why she keeps sending me text messages if she already broke up with me. So I thought that maybe she wants to break with me in person. No the question is: I haven't seen her in 3 weeks,this helped me a lot to get to emotionally detach from this, I do not feel depressed with the breakup, I actually feel good. Would it be convenient to see her in person or should I tell her that we just should leave things like this and go No Contact?, I know that if i see her I will feel very sad and confused???.

 

She wanted to talk things in person I ended up seeing her on tuesday, she told me that doesn't love me enough to make her stay in my city, she also told me that she has never really been enloved with someone, not even with her ex with which she lasted 5 years,that says everything.

 

 

Yesterday I was in a friend´s house and: my ex sent me messages on whatsapp asking for help with her computer, she also started to tell me what i WAS DOING and I told her that i was with a friend so she started asking questions like: what are you doing with him and I told her that we were seeing movies and she asked which one, I acted a bit distant and she said to me, why you ignore me?. what should i do next time she contacts me?. Why would she want to know about me?

[knopfler1]

Yesterday she contacted me again, she asked me how was the movie that I saw with my friend on thursday she asked me how I was, and what I was doing. Why does she keep contacting me?

[ThatJustHappened]

Because she misses the attention. Not everyone would agree with this but I would remind her that she broke up with you and tell her not to contact you again, and then ignore her if she does.

[Darren Steez]

Just ignore her. I know its hard but it's doing you no favors is it? I think she's been pretty straight with you but she seems rather cold in her approach to things. Make no mistake about it, she can detach from you and go dark on you without a problem, see how she treated you when she went away and when she came back, completely ignored you.

 

What you are doing and how you are doing is none of her business. From your own stand point, it's better for your piece of mind and your ability to move on to let her go. Don't reply to her messages, she'll leave you alone eventually.

[knopfler1]

very true about it. Maybe she is missing all the attention I gave to her. So the best thing to do would be to ignore her completely or just make Non initiated contact?. I still miss her

[knopfler1]

Today my ex insisted me in having some lunch with her and I saw her and I told her that I was starting to date someone new and she went crazy. She started acting extremely jealous. She said that she can't stand that Im seeing someone new. She said that I replaced her in a matter of a week but I told her that she was the one that dumped me and she started to say: Do you still love me?, do you still miss me?. *** with her

[knopfler1]

Since my ex dumped me I met another girl that is very cute and intelligent but the problem is that she broke up with her ex a month ago, their relationship lasted 3 years, I have dated this girl 2 times, the fact that she broke up recently is what has my concern because i don't want to become a rebound. But the thing is that this week I went for lunch with my ex and she is giving signs that she wants me back again. I don't know what to do, Im confused between the two girls

[Amelie1980]

How about neither of them.

 

You don't have to go out with anyone you know.