Sharmzy Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 And it already sucks. I'm starting to feel the presence of that particular empty void. Can you guys share some of your experiences after NC and how you dealt with it?
targaryen Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I've been 2 months and 2 days on strict NC and it's been almost 3 months since the break up. You deal with it a day at a time, and by keeping yourself so busy, you don't even have time to think about restarting contact. I also practiced talking in the mirror to myself, first thing in the morning, smiling and saying this is what you want. Read the amazing thread and follow the rules. The first month is going to be tough. After that you'll have some really good days and some bad days. But if you take it one day at a time the good days will be more than the bad ones. That's my experience anyway
GI_Joy Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 It's been a week since my BF of 5 months dumped me. It was really hard for those first couple of days. Heck, I even considered messaging his mom after he had blocked me off FB and subsequently blocked me out of his life, but I slept on that and woke up realizing that would've been a horrible, horrible idea. I still wake up in the morning and the first thing that comes to mind is him and all the good moments we had. But I find myself having to actively counteract those good memories with the core issues he had that ultimately hurt me, and the fact that he just didn't care/was no longer the person I fell in love with. Every time I find myself wanting to contact him, I realize that none of his words will ever give me closure/make me feel better. You have to find that closure within yourself, and it is definitely possible.
Weathergirl Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 I am day 1 of NC. I couldn't stick to it before, I ignored all advice thinking staying in touch would help me. So here I am, 14 months since we 'broke up', back to the very beginning, where I should have been a long time ago had I of listened to everyone. Good luck to you, please stick to it, I wish I had.
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