CryForNoOne Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I was awarded a sales perk / junket through my company for four nights at an adults-only all inclusive 4-star resort in Playa del Sol, Mexico. The trip is next Thu-Sun. Originally I was going to travel with my buddy but just found out Monday he has a work deadline and can't go. I would love to take my new romantic interest but it feels way too early. We met through OKC and have only known each other two weeks. Although we talk/text every day, we've only had 3 dates! I'm seeing her again Saturday and she's almost certainly spending the night. I wouldn't be interested in hooking up which is basically all you do if you go solo to an adults only all-inclusive. I'd feel awkward even inviting her this early on, but otherwise I probably won't even go. But that just seems like such a waste. So what to do... Go solo? Don't go at all? Ask the awkward question?
ascendotum Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I think its too much too soon, for a woman you have only known 2 weeks from OLD. If you were gaga over her, I'd say make the most of this opportunity to spend it with her, but if you like to take things a little slow or unsure about the future with her, don't want to lead her on, then taking her on a holiday will likely indicate to her you have strong feelings for her. You could be upfront with her..you & her are just dating and still getting to know one another, the trip is free for you, you have a spare ticket and that's simply it, you have no agendas and its not an attempt to win her over. I guess it depends how much she has impressed you so far and if you see a future with her or don't care if she gets the wrong impression. The best I reckon would be if you could put the holiday on reserve or forgo this qtr's reward for a future qtr sales reward. I wouldn't waste the trip though. A free holiday in a resort is still great even if all you do is lounge around, read, sunbake, and watch girls in bikinis walk by. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I was awarded a sales perk / junket through my company for four nights at an adults-only all inclusive 4-star resort in Playa del Sol, Mexico. The trip is next Thu-Sun. Originally I was going to travel with my buddy but just found out Monday he has a work deadline and can't go. I would love to take my new romantic interest but it feels way too early. We met through OKC and have only known each other two weeks. Although we talk/text every day, we've only had 3 dates! I'm seeing her again Saturday and she's almost certainly spending the night. I wouldn't be interested in hooking up which is basically all you do if you go solo to an adults only all-inclusive. I'd feel awkward even inviting her this early on, but otherwise I probably won't even go. But that just seems like such a waste. So what to do... Go solo? Don't go at all? Ask the awkward question? I hate playing by the rules. You like her, she likes you, why not? I actually did this once 2
ana0pera Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 GO! It's not like you get to do this everyday and just make it clear to her that you aren't rushing things with her and it's no pressure for either of you--you just got this amazing opportunity to go somewhere and you would like to take her! I don't think it's too crazy, seems like you are already talking a lot, just play it cool while you are there and see what happens. Do it do it!!
MoreThanThat Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 When I was in my early 20's, I met someone in person for the first time who I'd known online a couple years. Oddly enough, we didn't get along online at all but in person it was "wow!" I was finishing a semester of grad school and had summer off. Two weeks into things, he asked if I wanted to take a 2 month vacation leaving 2 weeks later. I went. It was great. Nothing weird. We stayed together a couple of years.
PogoStick Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 If it's going well I would definitely throw it out there. Most people can't run off like that so it won't matter. But damn it's worth a shot. Hey this trip just fell in my lap and I have an extra ticket...
Author CryForNoOne Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 I not going to double post but I just updated everyone on another thread that last night we talked and she basically said she's nuts about me. So if it feels right on Saturday, I'll just ask her if she wants to go. 1
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