irc333 Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I mentioned earlier about a woman who had an interest in me....after talking to her, she seemed to have an abrasive, know-it-all, I always like to talk about myself personality. I asked if she was a smoker, and she said, "No way, and if you light up right in front of me, I'll pull the cigarette out of your hand and throw it on the ground....and if you're drinking too much, and actin' the fool....I'll grab the beer out of your hand and pour it down the drain!" Lucky me...I don't act the fool, right? But...that response did kind of rub me the wrong way. It's like she's looking for a nice guy, but a nice guy she can push around or be condescending with. We planned to see a an Earth day event downtown. She said, "Well, I just moved here, and I don't know where that place is...and I said, "Well, I can give you an address/street name, etc." Was trying to help her out, and she goes, "I know how to use Mapquest, I'm not a total idiot." It's like her whole VERBAGE involves sarcastic statements and condescending remarks....not necessarily directly insulting people...but just a real turn off, trying to make you sound stupid or something. Basically, everytime you ask her a question about anything, she responds with, "Um yeah...of course...duh!" And I never said this to a woman before, but I have had it, and responded, "Okay, GENIUS, do you have any bright ideas?" And she said, "Well, my BRIGHT Idea is to head to bed" ANd I said' Yeah, well, I think that's a good idea, you have a good night" And that was that, never spoke to a woman like that before, but....it's time to turn over a new leaf and not be treated like dirt for a change.
MrCastle Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I admit I do like the sport of handling the abrasive ones. The best thing to do is to kill them with kindness. That always seemed to work for me. Or I'm just as sarcastic with them as they are with me. I enjoy the dance 3
Author irc333 Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 I admit I do like the sport of handling the abrasive ones. The best thing to do is to kill them with kindness. That always seemed to work for me. Or I'm just as sarcastic with them as they are with me. I enjoy the dance I don't...I only have tolerance for so much. I'm not a pushover. You can do what you want, if you treat it like a game to you, then treat it as such if you choose.
2sure Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I don't think men enjoy sarcasm from women. Humor is one thing but sarcasm, continually, is not attractive. 1
MrCastle Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I don't think men enjoy sarcasm from women. Humor is one thing but sarcasm, continually, is not attractive. I absolutely love sarcasm in teh wimminz. My wife will no doubt have to be as sarcastic as me. Yes, lovey dovey stuff is nice, but 24/7 lovey dovey stuff would be overkill. I need someone to make fun of me when I wear stupid clothes, or mock me when I say something lame. 2
2sure Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I absolutely love sarcasm in teh wimminz. My wife will no doubt have to be as sarcastic as me. Yes, lovey dovey stuff is nice, but 24/7 lovey dovey stuff would be overkill. I need someone to make fun of me when I wear stupid clothes, or mock me when I say something lame. Well, that's hardly sarcasm. That's just fixing. 1
MrCastle Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Well, that's hardly sarcasm. That's just fixing. Yeah but they have to do it in a way that's humorous. At least for me. Sarcasm is a great way to handle situations without being overly confrontational. Passive aggressive behavior for the win 1
Author irc333 Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 I absolutely love sarcasm in teh wimminz. My wife will no doubt have to be as sarcastic as me. Yes, lovey dovey stuff is nice, but 24/7 lovey dovey stuff would be overkill. I need someone to make fun of me when I wear stupid clothes, or mock me when I say something lame. I think you're not understanding me, dude. This woman didn't even have an "off button". 3
Author irc333 Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 Well, I think I've done my first rejection in a LONG time...attractive woman, but she was seemingly on a constant *itch fest all the time, highly negative, and more into herself than knowing one thing about me. I told he I thought we had a personality clash, so I prefer that I'd just forgoe meeting with her.
soccerrprp Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I admit I do like the sport of handling the abrasive ones. The best thing to do is to kill them with kindness. That always seemed to work for me. Or I'm just as sarcastic with them as they are with me. I enjoy the dance ESPECIALLY with KINDNESS and a SMILE. 1
Emilia Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Well, I think I've done my first rejection in a LONG time...attractive woman, but she was seemingly on a constant *itch fest all the time, highly negative, and more into herself than knowing one thing about me. I told he I thought we had a personality clash, so I prefer that I'd just forgoe meeting with her. It's a shame but it is also possible that she was just trying to get reaction out of you or to turn the heat up a bit. 1
candie13 Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I think you're not understanding me, dude. This woman didn't even have an "off button". I feel your pain. Always thought these type of reactions were overrated ... Until last night! This idea was actually burning me: "if only that guy had a turn off button"!!! They don't... and it's just as well ! No person, irrelevant how attractive or interesting, is worth the effort ! Best of luck with the OLD, looks like a full time job, from here !
soccerrprp Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Going by your posts you need to take anything you can get. Soul, be nice man! He seems to be trying to find the "right" one as we all are.
MidwestUSA Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 That woman is destined to be alone for a long time. You were much kinder than I would have been! 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I think that woman took it too far. But I LOVE sarcasm and my ex hated it. Every time I made a sarcastic joke, he got butt hurt. Eventually, I stopped making jokes 1
KungFuJoe Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Man you certainly meet some characters. I would have hung up on her had she started talking like that. You did the right thing. Someone like that isn't worth anyone's time.
mortensorchid Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 SHe sounds like a bitch! I'm glad you moved on. Who talks to someone they don't know like that?!
PogoStick Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 24/7 sarcasm is just tiring, and shows they are afraid to be genuine. If they never give a straight answer then they can't be held accountable. The woman you described usually ends up being rather low in intelligence. The constant "duh" is overcompensation. F-that and move on!
TigerCub Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 And I never said this to a woman before, but I have had it, and responded, "Okay, GENIUS, do you have any bright ideas?" And she said, "Well, my BRIGHT Idea is to head to bed" You should have said - "that's not really such a bright idea, I mean, billions of people do that every night ... hmmm, I expected more from a genius"
Author irc333 Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 (edited) Well, I tried to let her down lightly, by saying how I just feel we clash in personalities and I don't think we'd get a long in such a fashion. Boy, talk about hell hath no fury......she let me have it....saying that the fact I am not willing to take on a "challenge" like her reeks of insecurity on my part and the fact my shortness. She happened to know I was never married, and my having been single this whole time means I'm afraid of change. She said she thought she wasted her time with my insincere dialogue and she's been nothing but friendly and accommodating. I kind of like a sarcastic sense of humor (NBC's Scrubs), but here sarcasm isn't even humor related one bit, it's down right demeaning, and when someone does it all the time....it eventually eats at you. It's a shame but it is also possible that she was just trying to get reaction out of you or to turn the heat up a bit. Nope, she told me she hopes she never sees me again. lol Edited April 19, 2013 by irc333
salparadise Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I kind of like a sarcastic sense of humor (NBC's Scrubs), but here sarcasm isn't even humor related one bit, it's down right demeaning, and when someone does it all the time....it eventually eats at you. Occasional sarcastic humor, not of the pointed passive-aggressive variety, is tolerable if it includes insight. But trying to talk to a lout whose default mode is dull-witted sarcasm grows tiresome in about a minute. I once did a coffee date with someone like and cut it short. I got home to find about five irate messages from her. Blocked. I hope to never encounter such a person again.
Disillusioned Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 I mentioned earlier about a woman who had an interest in me....after talking to her, she seemed to have an abrasive, know-it-all, I always like to talk about myself personality. I asked if she was a smoker, and she said, "No way, and if you light up right in front of me, I'll pull the cigarette out of your hand and throw it on the ground....and if you're drinking too much, and actin' the fool....I'll grab the beer out of your hand and pour it down the drain!" Lucky me...I don't act the fool, right? But...that response did kind of rub me the wrong way. It's like she's looking for a nice guy, but a nice guy she can push around or be condescending with. We planned to see a an Earth day event downtown. She said, "Well, I just moved here, and I don't know where that place is...and I said, "Well, I can give you an address/street name, etc." Was trying to help her out, and she goes, "I know how to use Mapquest, I'm not a total idiot." It's like her whole VERBAGE involves sarcastic statements and condescending remarks....not necessarily directly insulting people...but just a real turn off, trying to make you sound stupid or something. Basically, everytime you ask her a question about anything, she responds with, "Um yeah...of course...duh!" And I never said this to a woman before, but I have had it, and responded, "Okay, GENIUS, do you have any bright ideas?" And she said, "Well, my BRIGHT Idea is to head to bed" ANd I said' Yeah, well, I think that's a good idea, you have a good night" And that was that, never spoke to a woman like that before, but....it's time to turn over a new leaf and not be treated like dirt for a change. Oh dear... sounds like she dated one too many dimbulbs.
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