faire l'amour Posted September 18, 2004 Posted September 18, 2004 Here's the deal...I dated this guy in high school on and off for two years and we were each others' "first loves". We both keep moving away and coming back to our place we met either to visit or live, and we keep running into each other. This is now 4 years later, and we still keep running into each other. Every time we run into each other there's this big spark, but one of us is always visiting, we never live there at the same time. Every time we part, we agree that we feel emptier inside. It's like we're still in love with each other. But he went into the army and we didn't communicate for about 2 years, and we just barely ran into each other again. I was looking at things in a store at the fair, all of a sudden I hear, "hey" in my ear. I turn around, and it's him standing there with a big smile on his face. We immediately hugged and spent the rest of the night together. We didn't even sleep, we just stayed up all night talking and remenising over our younger years. We talked about relationships we've had since each other, and it seems that we still know each other like the backs of our hands. We've never stopped saying "I love you" when we would talk...it was just less while we were in other relationships. We talked on the phone and we both feel that we could try to be together again...but he lives over a thousand miles away. He doesn't want to move back to where we met. He really loves it where he just barely moved to. I have never been to where he is, and the only way we can try anything is if we live in the same place, cuz long distance relationships don't work. I'm scared to just up and move, cuz I haven't talked to him for 2 years, and all of a sudden this happens. I don't know what I should do. If anyone has any advice on what they think this could be...please help.
Zakar Posted September 18, 2004 Posted September 18, 2004 You have two options, right? 1) Move 2) Don't move. Flip a coin. Make heads mean you move, tails means you stay. This seems like you're putting it to probability, but it really isn't. Let's say it lands on heads - you start to carry out as planned, and it just feels rotten. Obviously you made the wrong decision. If you start to commence moving and you feel really good about it, you'll know you made the right choice. If it lands on tails, you'll either feel relief or regret. Relief means staying was the right move. If you spend all your days wishing it landed on heads, it's time to move.
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