waiting4u Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Sounds like a guy I used to date. He flipped out when I broke it off and started calling me a slut / whore blah blah via text. It got so bad I changed my phone number. He also moved really quickly, wanted to move in with me right away, and bought me all sorts of things he couldn't afford. I ignored his weirdness at first because I'm a dingbat. I was seeing a therapist at the time (bad idea) for stress and when I told her about the red flags she said I was "getting in the way of my own happiness" and I believed her. God - what a mistake. You are lucky to be rid of him. Moving super fast is a HUGE no-no. It takes a good while to get to know someone, and I think it's better to hold back as much as possible. But that's just my two cents. Sorry you had to go through that - ugh. Always listen to your gut - excellent advice. 1
todreaminblue Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I posted a short bit ago about my reservations about dating someone who was moving at lightening speed, and had also seriously dated a stripper in the past. Ninjainpajamas was actually pretty spot on when he guessed that it wasn't my only reservation about him. There were other red flags, such as his lack of a relationship with his family, the way he spoke about his mother, getting dismissed from his PhD program because he "doesn't handle criticism well", and other things he would say that would catch me off guard and leave me scratching my head. Well, I broke up with him when I just couldn't see things progressing any further and all of these things combined became too much to ignore. He had actually purchased an engagement ring after only dating me a few months. I couldn't wrap my mind around it. He would also make snide remarks about the fact that I drive a luxury vehicle and went to a breeder instead of the pound when I got my beloved golden. To say he fell went off the deep end is an understatement. I was called every nasty name in the book. He became verbally abusive. He said that I was "selfish" for "eating his food and drinking his wine" when I stayed at his house. He sent a string of emails one right after the other, saying he loved me in one, and that I was a nasty cunt in the next. He even accused me of stealing his shampoo. I can't make this sh*t up. From now on - I'm never second-guessing myself again. I just KNEW there was something off about him but I thought I was being silly and just looking for reasons not to like him. Always listen to your gut. yes listen to your gut....and if a guy can call you the c word......he doesnt respect women let alone you.......rapists and women haters use it all the time....they use it to demoralize and control.......only rapists have ever called me a cunt..and it is in the act...........not saying this guy is a rapist....but i am saying the guy you got rid of is trouble.....deb
Treasa Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 they youve passed on guys for much less, thats clear. much less as in an inch too short, a few pounds too much or too little, send too many or two few texts, returned yours calls too quickly, didn't want to carry your purse on a first date, didn't like his choice of cologne. much less. i stand by what i say, a man wouldn't have known very fast. So which is it? Let me know when you start using punctuation and grammar properly and I'll take you off Ignore. 2
todreaminblue Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 So which is it? Let me know when you start using punctuation and grammar properly and I'll take you off Ignore. have you got me on ignore........deb
todreaminblue Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 she has me on ignore, not you. she has me on ignore because she knows she can't beat me in a debate. so she takes the easy way out. from what i know of this particular she isnt scared to debate at all, she is feisty as....doesnt back down from a stand...so .....i dont think she has you on ignore for that reason......what were you supposedly debating ....deb
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