fiser360 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 A friend from work introduced me to a girl about a month ago...we went out as the three of us for the first date and the girl and i really hit it off. We had a lot of fun. She told our mutual friend that she really liked me and I seemed like an awesome guy. Fast forward 3 dates later, all just the two of us...which were awesome. Im really starting to like this girl. We talk every day, I'll call her in the early mornings to make sure she got up for work, shes starting to mention doing things together that would be several months down the road. Yesterday she tells me shes dealing with a bunch of drama still from her ex and doesn't want to rush into anything (completely fine by me)...So I ask, Just out of curiosity, could you see this going somewhere at some point when you're ready...and she says she honestly doesn't know, that she isn't saying no, but she just doesn't know right now.. So we've barely talked since yesterday which isnt like normal at all...I know i didn't want to push her toward anything, but by asking if she saw it going somewhere I did pressure her... What do you guys think? should I just leave her alone for a few days and let her come to me? Or did I already screw it up?
BluEyeL Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I'd say give her some space, then run into her and try to pick it up again.
Author fiser360 Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 Just kinda hard to run into her, we live 30 min from each other. I rarely go there unless I have a reason, and likewise for her. Guess I should just say oh well. Just been out of the dating scene for a while and thought this could be something really good with the way we hit it off.
BluEyeL Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Give her some space now then, and contact her again a bit later and see what she says.
Imajerk17 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Well nathan, I disagree with your question. See, you didn't "screw it up" as it seems that you've been doing things just great. She is going through a very human problem of still feeling attached to an ex and that makes her not really open to making a full connection with you. How did you leave your last conversation? You probably can call again in a day or two....
Author fiser360 Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 I dont think its anything like that, smallcars. and Imajerk17, I just apologized for asking about the stuff with us in the future and that I realized it was pressuring her, and that I was completely fine with taking things at whatever pace she needed because she was worth the wait. She told me I had nothing at all to apologize for and that it was really okay.
Author fiser360 Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 Looks like someone likes to troll.
MidwestUSA Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 She was right when she told you you had nothing to apologize for. Give her some time and space.
Author fiser360 Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 Thanks, Midwest. Still haven't heard from her today. So maybe you're right, just some time.
picaso28 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 You were straight with her, she was straight with you. Just text or call her like normal and act as if nothing has changed. If she wants to raise the topic again I'm sure she will. Oh and well done for havin the guts to do it. Good luck
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