Author grace777 Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 I like poking people with my stick! That's too easy... 1
cavalier99 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 (edited) That's too easy... Haha! Some of us guys (me!) have other talents too. So ive been told over the years! I mean you gals dont have a monopoly on it! I guess as far as the other i dont need to do additional work to strap anything on if that is what your getting at! Im f*king killing myself lmao Edited April 18, 2013 by cavalier99
TaraMaiden Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Haha! Some of us guys (me!) have other talents too. So ive been told over the years! I mean you gals dont have a monopoly on it! I guess as far as the other i dont need to do additional work to strap anything on if that is what your getting at! Im f*king killing myself lmao cav.... are you drinking.....? Grace, you need to do the Right Thing. Mind games (because in a way, that's what this started out as) are dangerous ones because there are no rules - and things can get out of hand. Mind-games equal one thing: One-upmanship. That's why people do this. to gain the upper hand. It happened to iouaname, in her thread - I think her ex- is a classic Mind-game player. I think honestly, and even by your own admission, this is also what you were doing. So now, you have to distance yourself from getting sucked back into a situation where you guys become emotionally co-dependent. You have a history. Fine. Make sure it stays history. 1
Calvin's wagon Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Hi. I'm not sure you're 100% aware or honest with yourself as to why you're still in contact with her and why you haven't shut down all avenues for her to contact you. Perhaps, like it was with me, you're still not over her completely or are still lingering over the hurt. If you want your past to stay the past and move on from her, and move on with the new girl without distractions from the past, stick to 100% no contact. I get it that you want to help your ex, but in my opinion, by having any sort of contact with her, you're damaging yourself and the possibility of happiness with the new girl. I wish you all the best!
cdt76 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Is it always around the 6 month mark that the ex rears his/her ugly head and makes contact with you? I'm dreading the day because I don't know what I'd do. And I don't think it's bad at all that you threw it in her face that you have a potential someone who is WAY BETTER than your ex. Screw her. Let her see how good you are! 1
crederer Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I'd give the new girl a whirl. The ex will probably be around if your new relationship doesn't work (if you feel you can trust her after she left you for someone else). Also, this talk about NC, I find it too generic. If you honestly feel that you can stay in contact with an ex, and it wont mess with you, then NC is not necessary. It depends on specific peoples circumstances. I'm in contact on rare occasions with pretty much all of my ex's. It doesn't bother me at all. 2
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