jonbravo Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Why would my ex (who also happens to be the mother of my two children) start dating my best friend (who is the godfather of my second child) when I had specifically told her a few months ago that it was the only thing that would bother me outside of taking my children away from me? Is it me, or does anyone else find it odd that she is now sleeping with the godfather of her child? She even went as far as to block me on facebook after a really bad argument where I stopped talking to her completely (we werent friends on Facebook but I had heard from other people that she was slandering me in posts and confronted her about doing it). And then when I found out about the relationship, turn around and unblock me? Is she rubbing this in? Or does she feel like it doesn't matter anymore if I am unblocked or blocked? Why the hell would she start dating my friend/godfather when there is literally hundreds of people out there? Keep in mind that she is VERY VINDICTIVE. So much so that she has gone out of her way to say horrible things about me to my friends, family and anyone who would listen while threatening me just about anytime I did something she didnt agree with.....Just some insight, would be helpful as I am not sure exactly why she has gone this low........
SalientPoint Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 So it's pretty simple. Your ex and your best friend have no integrity, conscience, or self control whatsoever. Some people are just awful and ignorant. Look at Hitler and people like Saddam Hussein. Obviously in their minds they legitimated their behavior. Basically your ex and friend don't care if/how much they hurt you, they're out for their own satisfaction. Best thing you can do is just focus on your kids and cut both of them out of our life completely. 1
siankat Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Some people when fighting, fight dirty. You know her and seem to be under no illusions about her. How to get your life on an even keel again and regain some peace and content without those two rattling your cage is gonna be hard. Focus on you kids. Ouuff i am so sorry, what can i say, but i think it hurts more if you feel your lost someone good than a ****. Think back to why you chose her in the first place and keep those eyes peeled the next time you get involved 1
Author jonbravo Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 Yeah, I am inclined to agree with both of you. The funny thing about this is that my kids are caught in the middle and I know why they are both doing it. Him, because he really doesn't have a pot to piss in financially and never really was able to meet attractive women. My ex because she has primary custody, and has had a rought time dating from what I understand. So she gets to kill two birds with one stone; she gets to get back at me in the only way that she knows will bother me, (cause I, like an idiot told her it WOULD bother me) and she isn't lonely anymore and has someone that also has kids in her same situation. She was always worried after we initially broke up that she would have a hard time meeting someone since she had kids and was a single mom...........The level of vindictiveness here is amazing........She has done things to scorn me in the past; like finding out I was dating someone and then prompltly contacting me to say she was moving somewhere far away with my children....Def gonna concentrate on my children and try to show them that their are other ways to live life bc when they find this out years down the road it's definetly gonna cause problems for them......
Author jonbravo Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 I wonder if this is going to work out for them. Besides putting my kids in this situation, I can't imagine that the pressure of the situation on them won't cause problems once the initial honeymoon period is over.....and he has no clue how she becomes once the first few great months are over and she starts being very moody and selfish!
siankat Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 by the sound of it it is doubtful it will last and if it does it wont be happy
Author jonbravo Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 Thanks Sinkat, I appreciate your answer and the other poster. I believe your right, it will blow up. Even if it started out as friendly because he knows my kids and has been around them and her, usually relationships like that blow up because of the awkwardness when everything stops being new for them. Add that to the fact that the whole time they were talking she was talking to me on the phone every night when I called to talk to my kids, sometimes our conversations would last 30 mins or an hour. She would text me in the morning if she and the kids had gone to bed early with a big old goodmorning! and smiley face. I guess thats what I am confused about, being perfectly able to have a conversation with me all the time and laughing and kidding around, then giving me bull**** when i would tell her about me going out and having a good time, all the while she is seeing my friend. Yeah I know we werent together and haven't been for some time, but to sit and have conversations and play hard to get with me for attention while doing this says alot to me about her state of mind and why she is doing what she is doing with him
Author jonbravo Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 and she wont even drop my kids off or pick them up she has one of her parents do it......and now that i think about it; this had to be happening for at least 2 months or so.....because they go out in public now
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