Sanctionne Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 My ex and I broke up at the end of Sept. Or rather, he broke up w/me. 2 wks later while out of town during one of his shows he met someone. That was in Oct. This past wknd he married her. For the life of me I cannot comprehend how/why he married someone he just met & spent time w/only a few times (again, she lived in another State). Here I am still trying to cope and get over things and he married the next girl he met. In addition, he was always so anti-marriage. Anyway. It's making me feel monstrous. Am I really that bad a person that a guy would marry the next thing that came along? it seems that this is becoming a pattern. I feel like the character Tank from the movie 'My best friends girl' Any replies would be appreciated. If anything, it's just nice to vent.
ViciousCycle Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I'm sorry about that I had a similar thing happen with me. One of my exes with relationship issues dumped me for a guy and they eventually got married. I know it feels like maybe you did something wrong. I don't think it has anything to do with you though. Sometimes things just fall into place like that. It is good that you're talking about your pain with this situation. I wish it could feel better.
Am4Real Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Yes, it can be hard to understand at first, but "love" is loosely defined by many people and not always the basis for marriage believe it or not. In the case of your EX, there may be some underlying need going on that you were never made aware of. Take this to your heart this evening...it has nothing to do with you. My ex and I broke up at the end of Sept. Or rather, he broke up w/me. 2 wks later while out of town during one of his shows he met someone. That was in Oct. This past wknd he married her. For the life of me I cannot comprehend how/why he married someone he just met & spent time w/only a few times (again, she lived in another State). Here I am still trying to cope and get over things and he married the next girl he met. In addition, he was always so anti-marriage. Anyway. It's making me feel monstrous. Am I really that bad a person that a guy would marry the next thing that came along? it seems that this is becoming a pattern. I feel like the character Tank from the movie 'My best friends girl' Any replies would be appreciated. If anything, it's just nice to vent.
CompleteFailure Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 My ex and I broke up at the end of Sept. Or rather, he broke up w/me. 2 wks later while out of town during one of his shows he met someone. That was in Oct. This past wknd he married her. For the life of me I cannot comprehend how/why he married someone he just met & spent time w/only a few times (again, she lived in another State). Here I am still trying to cope and get over things and he married the next girl he met. In addition, he was always so anti-marriage. Anyway. It's making me feel monstrous. Am I really that bad a person that a guy would marry the next thing that came along? it seems that this is becoming a pattern. I feel like the character Tank from the movie 'My best friends girl' Any replies would be appreciated. If anything, it's just nice to vent. When my ex marries her current boyfriend, I'll be in the same shoes as you. I'm pretty monstrous and I have a feeling you're nowhere near my level. Don't be so hard on yourself, you deserve better.
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