dv199 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 My husband verbally and physically abused me. I was a dependent on him initially. He abused me after I got into a job as well and I got out of the relation. I have been living separately for the past 1 yr. I wanted to file divorce by mutual consent. But, he and his family members are demanding that I pay few thousands of dollars. I don't want to go through court litigations. -Since its been 1 yr that we got separated, can I get divorced easily? -If I apply, is there a chance that he can still demand me to pay money saying that I left after I got a job? (He has his own job).(Actually it cost me and my family more for my wedding than what he supported for me). We don't have kids. -Can he deny giving divorce? What are my options? -Do I have to show any evidence of abuse?(I don't have one) Pls advise.
Gunny376 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 We're going to need a lot more information without your giving too much information as necessary. For starter what is your general geographical location. Not specifically mind you, but Euorpe, the US, Canada, India, etc? We need to know this because some of us have knowledge and experience respective to certain counteries and even religions? I for one don't understand why you would owe him or his family any money, unless it was might be based upon some very localized ` geographical ~ religious variable to the equation?
CC12 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 But, he and his family members are demanding that I pay few thousands of dollars. Why do they say they need thousands of dollars from you? What would that money be for? How much are they asking for?
Author dv199 Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 I am married back in India but now residing in US. They are demanding money he used to support for my living and education. I don't have to pay depending on my location or religious basis, but my concern is if I don't pay, he is not agreeing for mutual divorce. I don't want to go through all court litigations by a contested divorce. At the same time, I have questions if he might contest against me saying that I earn now and since I have left him after I got a job, he may demand in court that I pay him though he has his own job.
Act Two Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I think you are looking for legal advice that we can't offer because divorce laws vary by state in the US. I recommend getting a consultation with an attorney, and if finances are a problem many women's resource centers offer free consultations with attorneys.
Gunny376 Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I am married back in India but now residing in US. Divorce him here in the Good Old USA! "Whole new ball gae and whole new set of rules than in India! He and his family can't touch you. Tell them to call 1-800- Whaaaaahhhhh!! (As in a crying baby) Too bad, Too Sad for them! Hate if for them! In so long as you reside in the US, its very much a case of "Tough Titty said the Kitty" Should you ever go back to India, all bets are off if they find that your back "in-country" Otherwise they will have to present their case via an international court which they have no chance of ever getting heard ~ and even if they did? You would probally die of a very old age first? If they came to the US and pursured their case it would be thrown out wihtout standing and merit, becausssssssse the US t'ain't India! Now quit worrying and go out and rub some sunshine on your face!
genesismediators Posted April 22, 2013 Posted April 22, 2013 Yea you're going to need to at least let us know what state you're in, because divorce laws are going to vary from state to state...
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