McGriff Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 She just texted me: "Aww I felt bad today, (her son) asked to go to your house to see (my son) and Rocky (my dog)." I'm not answering, but again, why? Why is she reaching out? I'm not the one for her! She is dating someone new! Why is she texting me?!
GB25 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 She just texted me: "Aww I felt bad today, (her son) asked to go to your house to see (my son) and Rocky (my dog)." I'm not answering, but again, why? Why is she reaching out? I'm not the one for her! She is dating someone new! Why is she texting me?! McGriff, bro..I like you a lot I enjoy reading you're posts and especially you're advice, but enough is enough with this girl. Are you going to start a new thread every time she texts you?? I mean you're a grown a$$ man acting like a 16 yr old girl. You really don't know why she keeps texting you? Or do you just like hearing the validation from us that she misses you? Maybe both. I know you still care deeply for this woman and even to some degree want her back so it's nice hearing us tell you that shes thining about you, missing you, etc..but if you truly are done with her then ignore and move on..if not stop playing games and ask her to get back together..coming on and starting a new thread everytime she throws you a crumb and asking " why is she texting me!!!" is going to keep you stuck in her web. I really really dont mean to be harsh but cmon bro you know this is absurd.. 4
TearyEyedPride Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I feel like she's just sharing. I mean it could be to get a response from you or to just momentarily know that you're spending time thinking about her and reading her message. Honestly... it had no emotional connection to you at all. If you think about it... she could've sent that message to anyone in the world who knew your son's and her dog's name. It talks about how she felt... so kinda like a tweet almost lol. Don't focus much energy on it. It seems kinda pointless, and inconsiderate to your healing process. I applaud you for not replying though. This isn't even a suitable breadcrumb.
Author McGriff Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 I know you're right. I really am sick of this. Im just stuck. 16 year old girl though? Haha---that's an eye opener.
Simon Phoenix Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I know you're right. I really am sick of this. Im just stuck. 16 year old girl though? Haha---that's an eye opener. Same impression I got bro. She texted you -- whatever. If it means anything she'll do a hell of a lot more than that.
Am4Real Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Listen here James Bond, you're losing your secret agent appeal if you keep this up. Let her know she is bothering you and ask her to stop before the damn goes up... I know you're right. I really am sick of this. Im just stuck. 16 year old girl though? Haha---that's an eye opener.
KatZee Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 She just texted me: "Aww I felt bad today, (her son) asked to go to your house to see (my son) and Rocky (my dog)." I'm not answering, but again, why? Why is she reaching out? I'm not the one for her! She is dating someone new! Why is she texting me?! Honestly? Tough love time. She texts because she can. She walks all over you, treats you like garbage, leaves you for someone else, and continues treating you like some great buddy, because you DO NOTHING to stand up for yourself. She walked all over you when you were dating, she walks all over you now. For the life of me, I can't comprehend why you make these threads every single day asking "WHY WHY WHY!?" BLOCK HER NUMBER and stop with this nonsense already. STOP. 2
KatZee Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I know you're right. I really am sick of this. Im just stuck. 16 year old girl though? Haha---that's an eye opener. You're not stuck. You're in denial. You refuse to let this person go despite everything she's shown you about her lack of character. You deep down feel she'll come back to you, deep down you hold out hope of some great love with her. Cut the s.hit out. Seriously. Block or change you're number. You're "stuck" because you refuse to do one thing to help yourself. And yes, you are acting like a teenager. 2
Echo000 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 My man. These people are right. Your too old for this garbage. I bet it makes you feel kinda good to get her texting you..but if she is contacting you all the time, thats not true NC. And Fu** her, people are right on that too. She sounds like trash who treated you like shi*. I can tell your a good guy, and I appreciate hearing from you when I post stuff. But common my man gotta sack up!
Author McGriff Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 Yeah, I think I know what I gotta do...
HuffmanMontana Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 She just texted me: "Aww I felt bad today, (her son) asked to go to your house to see (my son) and Rocky (my dog)." I'm not answering, but again, why? Why is she reaching out? I'm not the one for her! She is dating someone new! Why is she texting me?! She wants to know you're still there. She cares about you but doesn't want to be with you. It's really that simple. I'm sure she's not your first and probably won't be your last. I bet there was a woman you thought the world of before you met her. 1. Tell her to stop contacting you and ignore subsequent calls/texts. 2. Ignore her without warning. Those are your only two choices if you want to gain any respect from this woman.
cmoney Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I'm assuming you have a smart phone? If so, there are plenty of apps that can block bith her calls and text messages so that you do not have to be bothered. You don't even have to see that she tried to text you if you really didn't want to. I could be wrong but I believe that there is a part of you that is waiting for that text message saying she wants you back.
IS IT Better late Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 McGriff, I feel very much like you. I would like a second chance with the girl I was dating too. I woke up this AM and bam she was on my mind again. It's really tough to break the attachment. But here's the thing, it's 2-months since I last saw her and she hasn't made any effort to come see me. Actions speak louder than words and when this girl started going cold on me I was still listening to her words not her actions. This chick still texts me from time to time and will flirt and mention things about doing stuff together but... does she actually do anything nope!! So I think your girl is like my girl just wants to know that we still think about them and if in a moment of weakness on their part they want to know they can have us if they want to. So my plan is to pull that away from her by not initiating contact and confuse her with my responses. I'm getting a sense that she's starting fish around to see what I'm up to. This will either lead to them to persue us again or they will give up and fade away. We'd both like option 1 but I trying to face the facts that its prob going to be option 2.
Chi townD Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I think I wrote this to you before. But, I'll say it again. MOST girls have a hard time thinking that there MIGHT be a person on this planet that hates them or doesn't think that they are a nice person. Drives them nuts. So, the texts aren't a plea to try and get you back, they're texts to see where your head is at. See if you hate them or just don't care. nothing more than that....
Author McGriff Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 Appreciate the responses... Just an update---she has been texting me, and it's become obvious now that she is having problems with her new guy. She knows me and even though I'm not answering, she knows I'm getting them. This afternoon she sent me: "Guys suck! Lesbianism here I come!!" Haha---I had to laugh at that one...but curiously, she hasn't called or anything. I guess she is ok with the one way conversation with my phone. I'm guessing that now she is gonna give me her best shot since it looks like the other guy f*cked up. It's a difficult position to be in for me, because I'm crazy about this woman, but clearly I'm a fallback option. I think she has a bad case of GIGS, and is realizing how good I treated her. I expect in the coming days 1 of 2 things is gonna happen. 1. She and dude will break up, and she will assault me trying to get back together, or 2. She and dude will make up and she will disappear for the next few weeks/months. Either way, I don't like it. I do have a date with this new girl I met tomorrow night, so I'm looking forward to that. If option 1 materializes, I will not take her back anytime soon. She is gonna have to work for it. Seriously. It's gonna take a mountain of strength to stand my ground, and I think I'm up for it. I really am mentally in a position of hoping for the best and expecting the worst. We will see what happens...
Simon Phoenix Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Just block her dude. It's not that hard of a solution. 1
geegirl Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 How will you make her work for it if you are presented with Option 1? 1
itto ogami Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 This sounds like wishful thinking on your part that she's ready to "assault you" -- I've read this current in a lot of those determined to get back together with their ex thru NC or whatever. Like you have a choice IF she's coming back. You need not consider your "what if" options until they're actually real. Go on every date you get. And that forward motion makes you more confident, more desirable because you're not PINING FOR HER. WOMEN HATE DESPERATION. Men do too, but I'm talking about your situation.
thefooloftheyear Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Havent followed your story...One quick question.. How long has it been since you broke up and how long have you been NC? TFOY
IS IT Better late Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Hey Chitown, I think there's a lot of truth to what you say. The first text I rec'vd from this chick after the break up was. " I hope you don't hate me". The thing that's confusing is she's sounding more and more interested in what I'm up to? If she doesn't give a crap about me why is she saying things that sound somewhat jealous. For example we had a text convo and I was out at networking event and she said something to the effect " oh I bet the ladies are eating you up". And she asks about how I spend my weekend nights? Of course I don't tell her lol. But I just know that when I ended relationships with girls that I didn't feel anything for any longer, I couldn't care less what they were doing? That's why its strange that she's still interested in my life. McGiff sounds like he's in a similar boat. What's up these chicks?
Author McGriff Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 Fooloftheyear, We BU Feb 22, went NC for 20 days until she broke it last Sunday, and has been texting me everyday since, just updating me on her life and seeming problems with the new person she's dating. Saying her son misses me and my kids. But nothing suggesting anything substantive. It's all very bizarre, I'm telling you.
TaraMaiden Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 McGoon, I need you to do us a favour: The moment - the very instant - she texts you again, you respond like this: Text blocker activated. Your message was not delivered. Chances are, she will try again, because helldammit, she will not be able to buh-leev her eyes! WTF??? so, when she tries again, all you do is to send this back: Text blocker activated. Your message was not delivered. do this as many times as necessary. Block her number, do NOT answer any calls. Will ya do that McGwuss? C'mon man!! It's OVER!! Every single text she sends you actually says nothing but "Breadcrumbs!!" Quit acting like the 16-year-old girl (Sadly, I do see the resemblance, hell, yeah, I do!) man up and kick her to the kerb!! Do it! in order to make progress with your life, you have to take charge of it!! 1
TaraMaiden Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Love you too, McGimp. Now - do it!! ( I gotta quit watching NCIS...... ) 1
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