all_cats_rgray Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 So my ex (dumper) wished me happy birthday. His is coming up, reasons I want to wish him happy birthday: He wished me happy bday, he started it. I'd feel bad to not do the same. Saying happy bday, reflects that i don't hate him, keeps door open. Reasons not to: **** him.... This post is different cause he started it... ? yes im immature.
TearyEyedPride Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 You're going to end up doing what you want to do anyways... but here's my two cent. It feels like you're using this happy birthday as a reason to reach out. Maybe it gives you some sense of connection, some relief, some idea that maybe if you send it, he'll momentarily think about you. Maybe he'll reply happily, maybe he'll reply negatively, maybe he won't reply at all, maybe it'll seem like he didn't care. If you don't send it you said you'd feel guilty. The possibilities of emotional ups and downs are kinda endless with this choice. Too much drama, and too much care invested in something other than moving on and letting it all truly go. Personally, I'd say forget it. Let the idea go and keep it moving. Continue focusing on you. Like you said "**** him". However, I think if you really felt that way... you wouldn't be worried about feeling bad if you didn't reciprocate. It's your choice though. 1
Author all_cats_rgray Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 (edited) lol, yes, its very plain that I care. Now I just realized a real kick in the nuts would be a "happy belated birthday post" BUT really...when he sent that happy birthday note. My day started with me thinking of him. I want him to feel the same. Vengeance is best served with a "happy birthday from your ex lover" Edited April 18, 2013 by all_cats_rgray
CompleteFailure Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 lol, yes, its very plain that I care. Now I just realized a real kick in the nuts would be a "happy belated birthday post" BUT really...when he sent that happy birthday note. My day started with me thinking of him. I want him to feel the same. Vengeance is best served with a "happy birthday from your ex lover" I don't think the belated birthday is any good. That says that something reminded you to remind yourself that his birthday just came up(does that make sense?). I vote send or don't send. What about a gift in the mail, like something you know he hates. HAHA
KS11 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Hey all_cats, Know the dilemma you're in, my ex's birthday is tomorrow and i've been trying to decide whether to send a message or not. Feels pretty horrible not being able to spend the day with her, or at least send a gift. I know many say no way, don't send anything, why should we? they dumped us right! But it doesn't feel right to just ignore it! Have you decided what you're going to do?
Author all_cats_rgray Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 I was thinking of taking the exact happy birthday message he sent me, and switching my name for his. Kind of pointing out the pointlessness of his message. I don't want BS messages of Happy Birthday. Your not in my life anymore, so don't pretend that you are... I don't want to be your friend. I know people will say that sounds bitter. No more half measures, of your whatever your saying to me, "that you cared, that your thinking of me, want to be on good terms" I want full measures,... in or out. NOTHING in-between. And with all that rant...Im still just going to send a lame happy ****ing birthday.
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