PogoStick Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 Are all younger men this eager to please and easy to date??? Good for you and just enjoy it! Puppy is hoping to learn new tricks! I say you greet him with a collar just for fun. Make him get on all fours and sit on him like a chair while watching TV. Try it and report back promptly. I'm sure he's excited to be with you. 1
Alma Mobley Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 Are all younger men this eager to please and easy to date??? Hey, glad you had a great time. I think the advice to treat it like any other date was spot-on. BUT, no, not all younger men are easy to date. I didn't date younger until I was 32, and that's mainly because those were the guys approaching me, but most were only a year to five years younger. Then I dated a guy eight years younger, and he was a nightmare, lol. But it had nothing to do with his age. I did meet my now-husband when he was 23, and I was 34, the ages you guys are. I had no idea he was 23 until after I had accepted the date and someone told me. I thought he was 27-29 since he looked and acted older. People gave me the advice you are getting -- just have fun, don't expect anything, and that is what I did, but really, that's what we should do on all first dates, I think. I had no idea we would hit it off so well. We married when I was 36 and he was 26. We've been together seven years, married for almost five, and now have a young son. But the age thing always had very little to do with our relationship. Usually we just forgot about it. Have fun on your next date! 5
irc333 Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 I don't know why I agreed, but I'm going on a date with a 23 year old tonight! Have never gone out with anyone so much younger and not sure if the same dating norms apply to his generation. Any advice? Wow, most dating profiles, I see women in their mid 30s stating, "No one under 25 please,....I don't plan on being anyone's MILF. Usually women just assume if men (like the one you're dating) is 23....are only wanting to get sex, and nothing meaningful, of course if you don't mind that kind of thing, then more power to you. lol Of course, it could turn into something meaningful, so good luck to you. 3
mrsnaks Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 I strongly believe that age is just a number. I'm 38 but everyone tells me on average that I look like I'm in my mid 20s. I am super young at heart and even hang out with people younger than me mainly because my older friends are married with families. I tend to go for younger guys only because the guys around my age look their age. And since I look very younger for my age, my preference are the guys that look similar to me. Since my divorce, I've dated only younger guys...for awhile, I was dating guys 10-11 years younger. I am currently dating a guy who is 10 years younger. All of these guys are aware of my age. There are some differences in all of the younger guys I dated. Some are more immature and the guy I'm dating now is very much on the same level, intellectually and emotionally, as me. The more immature ones didn't last very long at all. So don't ever let age stop you. You won't even notice the age if he's the right one for you. 1
Author lovinglife1 Posted April 28, 2013 Author Posted April 28, 2013 Short answer: Yes Long answer: I don't know, everyone is different. But I am Mr. Castle, what is it that you like about older women? I'm intrigued.
Star Gazer Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 Can't get better than young guys. I say this because I am one, not because I date them. So in a few years, it will be better than you? Ha! 1
MrCastle Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 Mr. Castle, what is it that you like about older women? I'm intrigued. They are more mature. Girls in college, the majority of them in my experience, are lame. Silly party girls that have no consideration for how their moves affect others, just going through life burning bridges one right after another. I love how aggressive older ones are. Older women don't mess around. It's like they're in heat 24/7. I know very early on if an older chick is down to bang. Younger girls still play silly games. I had one woman who was 32, (I'm 25) pretty much proposition me outright within the second hour of meeting me. She came on crazy strong but not in the creepy, pathetic sense, in the "you're a younger man, I need some fresh meat, let's do this" sort of thing. They're also more dominant in bed and know what they like and don't mind giving out directions. It's just always been my fantasy to have an older woman grab me by the hand, take me into a room and make a man of me
Negative Nancy Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 It's just always been my fantasy to have an older woman grab me by the hand, take me into a room and make a man of me How pathetic. 1
PogoStick Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 As a 35 y/o guy I look to date roughly ages 25-35. No hard limits there as it's based on the individual. Under 25 girls are cute but the immaturity is a turn off. They have that princess personality and think being cute means the world should do whatever they want. They list tanning and shopping as interests in the online profile. Mid 20s they finished college and many are just wanting to have fun and aren't ready for something serious. Then starting late 20s and early 30s they develop a brain and start caring about the larger world around them. At this point they begin to have character and depth, and this is when they really start to shine. They learn what they want and enjoy, and learn how to communicate those things without throwing a tantrum and saying "If you love me, you should know what I want". 3
MrCastle Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 As a 35 y/o guy I look to date roughly ages 25-35. No hard limits there as it's based on the individual. Under 25 girls are cute but the immaturity is a turn off. They have that princess personality and think being cute means the world should do whatever they want. They list tanning and shopping as interests in the online profile. Mid 20s they finished college and many are just wanting to have fun and aren't ready for something serious. Then starting late 20s and early 30s they develop a brain and start caring about the larger world around them. At this point they begin to have character and depth, and this is when they really start to shine. They learn what they want and enjoy, and learn how to communicate those things without throwing a tantrum and saying "If you love me, you should know what I want". Best post of this thread and the best post I've read all day. Kudos.
tricolors Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 (edited) I'm seeing a woman 6 odd years older than me. She's 40, I'm going on 34. It has nothing to do with her age, I have no fetish for older women. I thought she was around my age when I met her. I'm interested in her for her...very kind, compassionate, empathetic, educated, well traveled, mature, of course she's attractive, we have the same interests...I could go on and on. I identify with her much more than I would a typical 25 year old. Even when I was young, talking elementary school age here, I wanted to be around more mature people than what the typical child was at my age. I was pretty smart and simply not interested in the same silliness a lot of boys my own age were. While I succeeded in finding more mature friends at my own age, you also had to frequently look to older kids to find a match for your level. I think in your 20's and 30's, it's the same thing for some people. A lot of guys stay goofy well into ages they shouldn't be anymore, as do some women, although not as many. So, some of you more...mature...women might find younger guys are interested in you because they're not finding what they want in women their own age, not just simply because they've been watching MILF porn or something. I'm also interested in commitment and a real relationship, so that's a big factor you might not be able to find as easily in a younger woman. Edited April 28, 2013 by tricolors 2
edgygirl Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 I wish I could share most people's views here. I did it and ended up in heartbreak for more years than I could take. When you're 38 and he's 27 he'll kick you out to find a younger girl. You'll be left with the heartbreak and no kids, he'll have his entire life ahead. I am STRONGLY against it. I'm happy for those of you where it did work out.
MoreThanThat Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 I wish I could share most people's views here. I did it and ended up in heartbreak for more years than I could take. When you're 38 and he's 27 he'll kick you out to find a younger girl. You'll be left with the heartbreak and no kids, he'll have his entire life ahead. I am STRONGLY against it. I'm happy for those of you where it did work out. I'm sorry you went through that but as with anything else, not everyone will have the same experience. The last 5 relationships I've been in have been with much younger men and I was the one to end each of them. Two of them proposed to me. 1
Author lovinglife1 Posted April 29, 2013 Author Posted April 29, 2013 I wish I could share most people's views here. I did it and ended up in heartbreak for more years than I could take. When you're 38 and he's 27 he'll kick you out to find a younger girl. You'll be left with the heartbreak and no kids, he'll have his entire life ahead. I am STRONGLY against it. I'm happy for those of you where it did work out. I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm not sure I want more children (I have 1 already) and I'm not looking to get married either. Not against marriage, but it's not a priority for me anymore like it used to be. I am happy on my own. I will still be careful though! Thanks for sharing your point of view as well.
Poppy fields Posted April 29, 2013 Posted April 29, 2013 I wish I could share most people's views here. I did it and ended up in heartbreak for more years than I could take. When you're 38 and he's 27 he'll kick you out to find a younger girl. You'll be left with the heartbreak and no kids, he'll have his entire life ahead. I am STRONGLY against it. I'm happy for those of you where it did work out. I am almost 40 and have been with my younger man for 8 years. We are married and have a child. Sorry things did not work out for you. 2
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