lastresort Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Well I beat the odds and she wants to give us a second chance. Take it slow, we don't have to be connected at the hip like we used too. I agree we both felt the pressure of having to always check in was tough. She moved out of my house about 5 weeks ago telling me it was over and we will never be together. I really started making the the changes in my life that I needed to make. That's why she is giving me this second chance. Here's my concern. She moved out, I own the house for about 10 years that is why I call it "my house" I had no problem calling it "our house" when she lived here. She told me she doesn't want to live here again. Do I take that as the next challenge? Or just let time pass and see what happens. Her son was very happy and good here and best he has ever behaved she said. I am a pretty strict parent when it comes to rules she is very lenient when came to enforcing house rules. I don't like kids in our room, especially to play, she would let them play on our bed. Minor things I need to deal with. What to do.
Simon Phoenix Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Well I beat the odds and she wants to give us a second chance. Take it slow, we don't have to be connected at the hip like we used too. I agree we both felt the pressure of having to always check in was tough. She moved out of my house about 5 weeks ago telling me it was over and we will never be together. I really started making the the changes in my life that I needed to make. That's why she is giving me this second chance. Here's my concern. She moved out, I own the house for about 10 years that is why I call it "my house" I had no problem calling it "our house" when she lived here. She told me she doesn't want to live here again. Do I take that as the next challenge? Or just let time pass and see what happens. Her son was very happy and good here and best he has ever behaved she said. I am a pretty strict parent when it comes to rules she is very lenient when came to enforcing house rules. I don't like kids in our room, especially to play, she would let them play on our bed. Minor things I need to deal with. What to do. What you need to do is relax and just let things happen. If she's giving you another chance, then I don't really get what the problem is? She's not going to jump back in with both feet -- she's going to leave herself an out in case the second chance doesn't work. Now is the wrong time to be overly pushy. So just chill.
Eddie Edirol Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Sounds to me like you two are too different to co-habitate. She doesnt want to live by your rules in a house you paid for, which means if you move into someplace else that she is helping pay for, you will have to put up with kids in your room, and you cant tell her son what to do. SO think about that.
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