urawolff Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 I posted here less than a month ago about my BU. Long story short: met bf online, talked for over a year, he surprises me and visits, leaves and then tells me he didn't feel a spark even though he slept with me. He says he wants to be friends. I was heart broken. Since he ended things, he has not reached out to me. I stupidly broke NC last week (I was doing so well!) and received no reply. I just don't GET it. Even when his ex cheated on him, he still talked to her after they were over! When things fizzled with another ex of his, he still talked to her after! He hasnt checked on me at all, and I did nothing to hurt him! How do I move on? I don't GET it. Why are these other girls who treated him like crap getting more than I am? I genuinely believe we had a great initial friendship. So why am I being cast off as nothing? It hurts. It hurts so much.
siankat Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 It wasnt really a friendship...more of a fantasy online thing with one moment of reality when you two met and his illusions were shattered? Do what you gotta do but unless he's died, he just doesn't give a ****. And just cos you treat someone well doesn't mean they will like you more. Maybe he's used to being treated like crap and that's what he responds best to. He did tell you though..no chemistry. You want more, which you won't get. I doubt you just wanna be mates, ya know.. A word of advice, next time don't go 1 year chatting/flirting/building castles in the sky with someone you have never met. 1
ThatJustHappened Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 I'm sorry you're hurting, but if he wasn't feeling it, nothing you do is going to change his mind. As Siankat said, it was a fantasy relationship. It REALLY sucks that he slept with you and then dumped you, that's awful, but do you really want a friendship with someone who treated you this way?
CompleteFailure Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I posted here less than a month ago about my BU. Long story short: met bf online, talked for over a year, he surprises me and visits, leaves and then tells me he didn't feel a spark even though he slept with me. He says he wants to be friends. I was heart broken. Since he ended things, he has not reached out to me. I stupidly broke NC last week (I was doing so well!) and received no reply. I just don't GET it. Even when his ex cheated on him, he still talked to her after they were over! When things fizzled with another ex of his, he still talked to her after! He hasnt checked on me at all, and I did nothing to hurt him! How do I move on? I don't GET it. Why are these other girls who treated him like crap getting more than I am? I genuinely believe we had a great initial friendship. So why am I being cast off as nothing? It hurts. It hurts so much. Maybe you're too sweet and he feels bad continuing to use you, so he just stops contact. Those other girls he doesn't give a sh.t about so he just keeps using them?
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