Author youngnlove89 Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 sex is sex... love is love... if the person said they loved the person and they slept with them, i would be worried. but really sex normally means nothing...unless love is evolved. Simple enough. Good point. I guess I'd be more worried if he loved her.
LoveB86 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 (edited) I was cheated on and dumped without any signs. All I can say is I don't know if he had sex with her while with me, but I know now they are having sex since they are now girlfriend and boyfriend of 2 weeks now. As he always wanted it with me. To be honest, if he didn't cheat and we broke up and then he got with her, I wouldn't look at it as a big deal, but because he cheated by showing interest in someone else while with me, I don't know if they had sex and I am just going to assume the worse that they did, I don't know how I could take him back. Point is: No one wants to know someone else is f***** your "used to be" man/woman. We gotta remember, they dumped us so its no longer our's. Edited April 18, 2013 by LoveB86 1
Amelie1980 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 In a way...even though they had sex with someone else, if they come back they preferred it with you.
Amelie1980 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 sex is sex... love is love... if the person said they loved the person and they slept with them, i would be worried. but really sex normally means nothing...unless love is evolved. This is also True. I would be more hurt about them loving someone else.
Mack05 Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 (edited) In a way...even though they had sex with someone else, if they come back they preferred it with you : Until they leave AGAIN and prefer it with the brand newest very latest person, except this time they don't come back.. Rule of thumb 9 out of 10 times if they leave once, they leave twice... Edited April 18, 2013 by Mack05 1
EmptyWalls Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Would you take an ex bf/gf back knowing that they have slept with someone else? How would you feel about it? Or would you rather not know? Personally, I don't know I could deal with that. I don't care about the girls before me, but the girls AFTER me would make me feel awkward, uncomfortable and very jealous. My heart stings just thinking about it. For me.... being she was my first and I was hers. Tough to swallow because that's something we shared together and with no one else. I would have to get past it and accept it. If their attitude changed and they had more respect for me and the relationship I would welcome them back with open arms. For most I think they say the can but its always in the back of their mind and just eats away until they snap and take it out on the other person ultimately destroying any trust or faith they have and bye bye relationship.
EmptyWalls Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 She text me this morning saying she had an important question to ask, but didnt ask it. She is completely moved out of my life and I keep asking my self what is it that she would have to ask me so im debating to break NC, blah.... maybe its just to see if I will respond. She has a new boyfriend now and I keep thinking about them sleeping together. I know they haven't yet but fear they soon will. I know I shouldn't be concerned with what she does but all I know is that it will destroy me. Just got done working out, trying to keep my mind off of this but its all I thought about.
Author youngnlove89 Posted April 30, 2013 Author Posted April 30, 2013 She text me this morning saying she had an important question to ask, but didnt ask it. She is completely moved out of my life and I keep asking my self what is it that she would have to ask me so im debating to break NC, blah.... maybe its just to see if I will respond. She has a new boyfriend now and I keep thinking about them sleeping together. I know they haven't yet but fear they soon will. I know I shouldn't be concerned with what she does but all I know is that it will destroy me. Just got done working out, trying to keep my mind off of this but its all I thought about. aww I'm sorry. That's difficult. Try to keep busy with other things. Don't dwell on it. I'm in the same boat as you, I wonder what he is doing and if he has slept with someone else already.
Bill in Tx Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 I see people using the phrase "loving someone else". I will focus on this rather than the sex part. If they were loving someone else they were n fact merely infatuated with them for whatever time they were together. People throw the word around love......love is not the things you feel at first, that is infatuation and the brain is firing the receptors and all....this happens often even when we eventually realize the new person is not for us. We feel giddy at first and happy etc. Love...real love is not an emotion it is what you do....it is the thing that remains when the honeymoon is over, if in fact anything remains. Real love takes time. It takes time for all persons....some folks rush it because they are in fact in love with being" in love". Those are the ones with histories of problematic relationships My 2 cents 1
EmptyWalls Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 aww I'm sorry. That's difficult. Try to keep busy with other things. Don't dwell on it. I'm in the same boat as you, I wonder what he is doing and if he has slept with someone else already. I've been busy with the move and im staying at the new place tonight. But the move still doesn't help. Thanks for the response, it always helps to vent. Keeps me from contacting her and doing something stupid.
Kobe2345 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 It already kills me imagining them together... and now sex.. Sigh lol
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 One thousand percent NO NEVER NEVER NEVER, and the fact I'm sure she has by now (lets be real) just reinforces every reason why I need to let her go from my mind! I try not to think any details about it, its just the most two people can give to each other. Nope. No can do. Game over.
Skipper888 Posted April 30, 2013 Posted April 30, 2013 it wouldnt matter that she has had sex or hooked up with ppl, but if shes doing why she is still texting me and calling me and even seeing me and acting like we are a couple or on the verge of getting back together i have a big problem. My ex dumped me 3 months ago, found out today that she kissed some guy while out after a month apart, all the while she is texting me. Fair enough we hadnt talked about getting back together or anything when it happened, but to think that she now texts me, calls, we hang out, kiss, cuddle, hold hands etc. It might bother me. Only because i have no idea if she is still doing those things when she goes out and im just sitting around getting played and my heart broken again. Today has made me feel like going out and just making out with the first chick i see but i no i wouldnt be able to do that cause i dont want to hurt the ppl i love.
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