Olechka Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 i've been dating my bf for almost half a year now, and he always says that he likes me a lot, but never says that he loves me. i need to know if he does or does not, because i don't want to be wasting my time. anyways, any advice?
honey2005 Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 Maybe he's waiting until the right time to say it. Maybe he's one of those decent guys that won't say it until he's sure he means it. Don't pressure him into saying it, because if you do he might say it even though he doesn't feel it. Just give him the time he needs. Have you said it to him yet?
faux Posted September 18, 2004 Posted September 18, 2004 Look at it this way: Your boyfriend has been with you for half of a year. He is committed to you, and really cares for you. Unless you have reason to believe that he is not a great boyfriend, that he might leave you or that he mistreats you in some way, I don't see anything to indicate you are "wasting your time". So what if he doesn't want to say "I love you" to you just yet? Those three little words strung together tend to MEAN something to some people, and not everyone feels comfortable blurting it out that often. I suggest that you try TALKING to your boyfriend about your concerns. Maybe you'll discover he has a very legitimate reason for not saying "I love you" yet, and you can save him the heartache of you ditching him for something such as this. If he says something to the tune of, "I'm not sure how much I like you" after six months, I'd say it might be fine to get a bit angry. If, however, he explains himself and you take the time to listen then you may find a way to settle this little issue.
Author Olechka Posted September 19, 2004 Author Posted September 19, 2004 Originally posted by honey2005 Don't pressure him into saying it, because if you do he might say it even though he doesn't feel it. Have you said it to him yet? i am not pressuring him into saying it, because i want him to mean it. i haven't said it to him yet, but only because i want him to say it first.
Author Olechka Posted September 19, 2004 Author Posted September 19, 2004 Originally posted by faux If he says something to the tune of, "I'm not sure how much I like you" after six months, I'd say it might be fine to get a bit angry. If, however, he explains himself and you take the time to listen then you may find a way to settle this little issue. he always says that he likes me a lot, and that he cares about me, but that's about it...
teck21 Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 'i haven't said it to him yet, but only because i want him to say it first.' What are you doing, playing some kind of game? You seriously expect him to know that's what you're thinking? Nothing strikes me as being more absurd than not saying 'I love you' to a oerson one loves for a reason like that. To me, love is such that if we feel it happen, nothng should stop us from telling it to the other person. My GF said it first, caught me totally by surprise but we haven't looked back since.
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