Shaun-Dro Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 I just started messing around with a 19 year old who lives on my block. She just moved in last summer and I saw her around but didn't make a move because I was unsure of her age since she looked a little young. When I found out she was a college girl, I said, cool, and we hit it off and everything was chilled up until last night when she wanted me to take her to the movies to see The Evil Dead. That's when it got weird. She wanted me to hold her during the course of the movie and to keep kissing her, which I did, but I couldn't take a break not even for a moment without her saying "What's wrong? Are you okay?" or something ridiculous like that. Before the movie ended, she wanted me to buy her candy and cookies. I never had a young lady do that with me, but I obliged to make her happy although I felt a little weirded out. When I took her home in my Maxima rental, again, she wanted me to just keep kissing her and holding her, while she just laid there, eyes closed, a cute smile on her face. I did this for about 20 minutes, then tried to take her out of the car, but she fussed with me, saying why won't I keep on kissing her? I don't know what to make of her right now. I'm attracted to her and she is nice enough, but this constant kiss-kiss-kiss and buying goodies seem offbeat and has me thrown for a loop. I welcome any opinions on this.
GorillaTheater Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 It may or may not be Daddy Issues, but this insistence on endurance one-sided kissy-kissyness would wear pretty damn thin. I'd have to pass on the second date.
DrStrangelove Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 yea, I'm talking to this girl I met online. Met her in real life.. she lost her dad at age 1.. I keep pondering the same thing. This girl has something in common with my girl. They are SEEKING shelter, a MAN that will take care of them. I wouldn't rush into attachment issues so fast, but more so she wants some security from a guy... 1
Author Shaun-Dro Posted April 17, 2013 Author Posted April 17, 2013 yea, I'm talking to this girl I met online. Met her in real life.. she lost her dad at age 1.. I keep pondering the same thing. This girl has something in common with my girl. They are SEEKING shelter, a MAN that will take care of them. I wouldn't rush into attachment issues so fast, but more so she wants some security from a guy... What kind of security will the constant kissing and hugging bring? I'm just not used to this sort of thing. I'm actually inclined to ask this dame about her family tonight when I call her.
DrStrangelove Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 What kind of security will the constant kissing and hugging bring? I'm just not used to this sort of thing. I'm actually inclined to ask this dame about her family tonight when I call her. Bring it up lightly.. try putting yourself in her shoes. If you grew up without a father/motherly figure. Be empathetic, or your going to hurt this girl. Kissing and hugging are forms of affection. Adornment. She wants a guy who will provide that.. not just looking for a one night stand. She wants you to be attached with her, as she WANTS to be with SOMEONE. TREAD CAREFULLY
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Typical young woman in need of a lot of external validation and attention in what she perceives as "love". I'm not sure how old you are, but this girl is obviously going to need a lot of coddling and you're going to break her heart in the end because you're just physically attracted to her, doesn't sound like she's got much to offer you besides than that at this point. This poor kid isn't ready for love, she doesn't even know what love is, and that's going to cause a lot of her pain and disappointment figuring it out. 2
Poppy fields Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Guys are really attracted to girls they find of questionable legal age? And then wonder what is wrong with them when they act immature. But you still want to screw her, right? Funny. 1
ses Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 She sounds like a clinger. I don't want to speculate too much but the constant need for reassurance and TLC would turn me off as a woman. If one of my friends started to act in that manner I would be concerned. Her behavior is honestly very immature considering you spent a great amount of money on tickets and concession snacks. I usually prefer to watch movies online or at home because I'm so broke. If I do decide to go out, I actually watch the movie and eat the snacks there. Geez, if all she wanted was a make out sesh and some lovin', she probably didn't need to put on such an act. I hope you actually got to see some of the film. 1
ses Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 What is the age difference btw? Use the head attached to your neck the next time around. Tread lightly. If she's a fragile one I would try to end things now instead of prolonging her suffering later. Don't use her as an f*** buddy. I really doubt she's cut out for that type of arrangement.
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 (edited) Guys are really attracted to girls they find of questionable legal age? And then wonder what is wrong with them when they act immature. But you still want to screw her, right? Funny. Men/guys are attracted to t!!ts, arse, and a pretty face...pretty face being "optional". Because when it comes down to it, you button down those pants, unzip that zipper there's a pretty little vagina down there, one that possibly hasn't been used much by many men at the age of 19. And how many guys do you think want a piece of that? Sure, they might tolerate her childish antics and tantrums, her immature thoughts and behavior, and even subside under the prospect of having no intellectual conversation whatsoever. Of course it irks the men that do this because it makes them feel shamed and embarrassed to be around someone like this...but it's about the pu$$y at this stage in the game, and many a men will put on the chicken suit if it means getting what they want in the end...it's the price you gotta pay, and it's worth it for many. No intellectually, emotionally mature man seeks out younger women for the sake of finding this real deep and engaging "romance" and she just so happens to be much younger, even dramatically younger...it all starts with the pu$$y. And you add 10 years to that vagina, and things might have went down differently, in fact it might not have went down at all because you old! and what could have attracted this man to you in the first place was simply your youth. I see guys do this and make that trade all the time, youth is a very attractive commodity for many men, especially if they're feeling a bit old and grey themselves. A young vagina can be like the fountain of youth for that middle aged mid-life crises man, and for younger guys, it's the same enticing factors...young women never get "old" to men, it's just less about what they're going through emotionally and more simplistic when younger. Edited April 17, 2013 by Ninjainpajamas 3
NYC-BigKat Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 What is the age difference btw? Use the head attached to your neck the next time around. Tread lightly. If she's a fragile one I would try to end things now instead of prolonging her suffering later. Don't use her as an f*** buddy. I really doubt she's cut out for that type of arrangement. At least she wants to be touched by you. I cant even find a girl that wants that
RedRobin Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Hmm... Aren't girls with daddy issues your target audience OP?? I'm looking forward to your first thread where you address your addiction to girls with daddy issues in a realistic and introspective manner... rather than ones where you are constantly surprised by this considering the age range you go for. Oh, and I'm sure the girl will recover (if she does stick around). Although, hopefully someone who cares about her will slap some sense into her and get her to understand that her only source of REAL security comes from within... and through her own efforts.... not strapping onto some old(er) guy who will happily suck the youth out of her like some bad horror film. *sigh* 2
Anela Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 Nineteen years old?? And you dated her despite her looking so very *young*? She doesn't need any more issues, so I hope you will leave her alone. 1
Archgirl Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I don't get it. Isn't that why you go to the movies on a date? So you can make-out in the dark without having the pressure of sex? what do you mean kissing her while she laid there?
Feelin Frisky Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I don't know why you'd think "daddy issues". It just seems she's not your type. I dated a pretty Columbian girl for several months. She was adorable. And early on we made out really nice. But when we got more into heavy petting and stuff, she zigged when I zagged and zagged when I zigged. It just got boring and weird--kinda like hanging out with a 50 pound sack of potatoes. Just one of those things.
ChessPieceFace Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I don't think losing the father at age 1 would generally cause "daddy issues." Maybe if she had been a bit older. The behavior you describe sounds pretty messed up though. So demanding right off the bat, I would never put up with that. Don't care how she looks, dealing with that on a daily basis wouldn't be worth the hassle if it was the hottest celebrity I liked.
USMCHokie Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 When I took her home in my Maxima rental, again, she wanted me to just keep kissing her and holding her, while she just laid there, eyes closed, a cute smile on her face. I did this for about 20 minutes, then tried to take her out of the car, but she fussed with me, saying why won't I keep on kissing her? Well, for the second date, at least upgrade your rental car. Perhaps a Volvo. Then unzip your pants and tell her to start kissing.
Vogeltron Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 OMG, a young girl who wants you to keep kissing her and hugging her. On the second date? Does sounds like a girl who wants a man in her life. That is the question though is are you man enough for her. For real the best relationship I ever had was with a younger girl that age, kinda similar if you want to be with her you do have to step up and be a grown up. Fill that void. Girls like that have never had a real man in their life. Even many women who with a father haven't had a real man in their life. Take charge, take control and if she asks you if everything is fine just say something like I want a second to look at your beautiful face. Wanting attention is one thing. Stalking you and calling you 10 times in a two hour period with 5 messages if you phone dies. That is cause for concern. But still if you are going to date a 19 year old and you are over the age of 22 or so you are going to have to go through some of this. You just have to decide if it is worth it, how much you like this girl etc. Personally, I would see a great opportunity to take charge and have this girl all over me. I dunno, maybe it is just me but I like a girl who is madd into me. As long as they are not the crazy stalker type. That is the fine line. 1
Archgirl Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 OMG, a young girl who wants you to keep kissing her and hugging her. On the second date? Does sounds like a girl who wants a man in her life. That is the question though is are you man enough for her. For real the best relationship I ever had was with a younger girl that age, kinda similar if you want to be with her you do have to step up and be a grown up. Fill that void. Girls like that have never had a real man in their life. Even many women who with a father haven't had a real man in their life. Take charge, take control and if she asks you if everything is fine just say something like I want a second to look at your beautiful face. You're goooood! Like really really!! You can take me out and tell me i'm beautiful any ole time you like Sugar! . You're goooood! I think I just got a lil turned on You can take me out and be a real man for me any ole time you like Sugar! :bunny: 1
MidwestUSA Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I do hope you also got her a glass of milk! Seriously, I find her requests odd. Maybe she has some type of skin condition which only human saliva from another person can heal? Much like I allow my dogs to lick my cuts and scratches.
ses Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 My apologies. I should have read the other posts before responding in haste. OP: After reading through several of your previous threads, I feel like I have a better understanding. Everyone has their preferences, but perhaps your attraction to far younger women is a problem. Stop choosing teenagers as potential relationship partners, especially if there is a great age difference. I'm 24, and I personally would never date an 18 or 19 year old male. We wouldn't be compatible and it just doesn't appeal to me. Considering the different life stages between a freshly legal teen and a man with an established career, I'm not at all surprised you're having difficulty forming a connection. Not only are the expectations worlds apart, but she lacks the emotional maturity to properly assess the situation. You wonder why she's so clingy and immature? She's 19, FFS! I was completely inexperienced (and quite dumb) at that age, too. What do you really have in common with her, aside from a sex drive? She probably views you as an older male figure if you're considerably older than her. She's young, and you want a hot, little thing to stroke your ego and put out without too much effort. I'm always skeptical of relationships between barely legal teens and men old enough to be their fathers. The balance of power and life experience is so inherently unequal. Stop preying on the vulnerability of young girls and find someone with whom you can actually relate, rather than looking for a piece of hot ass.
NYC-BigKat Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 (edited) My apologies. I should have read the other posts before responding in haste. OP: After reading through several of your previous threads, I feel like I have a better understanding. Everyone has their preferences, but perhaps your attraction to far younger women is a problem. Stop choosing teenagers as potential relationship partners, especially if there is a great age difference. I'm 24, and I personally would never date an 18 or 19 year old male. We wouldn't be compatible and it just doesn't appeal to me. Considering the different life stages between a freshly legal teen and a man with an established career, I'm not at all surprised you're having difficulty forming a connection. Not only are the expectations worlds apart, but she lacks the emotional maturity to properly assess the situation. You wonder why she's so clingy and immature? She's 19, FFS! I was completely inexperienced (and quite dumb) at that age, too. What do you really have in commoner with her, aside from a sex drive? She probably views you as an older male figure if you're considerably older than her. She's young, and you want a hot, little thing to stroke your ego and put out without too much effort. I'm always skeptical of relationships between barely legal teens and men old enough to be their fathers. The balance of power and life experience is so inherently unequal. Stop preying on the vulnerability of young girls and find someone with whom you can actually relate, rather than looking for a piece of hot ass. I wont mind a teen girl liking me. Any cute girl will do u know since that ebay girl showed up with guy friends from ebay that day. I was so embarrassed. Edited April 18, 2013 by NYC-BigKat error
stillafool Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 OP the girl is 19 and therefore use to dating teenage boys. Teenagers have kissing marathons. I remember when I was a teenager we would kiss for hours. You need to move on to someone closer to your own age.
clia Posted April 18, 2013 Posted April 18, 2013 I don't see how any of these are daddy issues. She just sounds like a young, immature girl who enjoys hugs and kisses from the boy she likes. Also...I don't see anything strange about her asking you to buy her cookies and candy at the movies. I guess a lot of people out there have daddy issues, given the lines at the concession stand.
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