Necris Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 I know this will sound lame and unimportant but I can't get the girl of my dreams. Literally.:lmao: As in even in my dreams I'm rejected, and I'm never with anyone. I've had some pretty crazy imaginative dreams before like being necromancer hulk, talking to eldritch abominations, getting beaten/tortured/various terrible things, etc. But I noticed even in my dreams the whole getting a gf thing is impossible. Though lately I have noticed I've been dreaming of being extremely wealthy with nice cars, mansions/compounds, the whole nine yards. Though even in these dreams I'm still a single virgin but a wealthy single virgin with boss status:cool:. I wander what these dreams mean? Are they telling me something about myself or perhaps my future? What about yourself?
Esoteric Elf Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Same here, so I feel you, bro, I feel you. P.S. Nice on using the word "eldritch"; that is one of my more favored words where I feel the definition fits the sound: others like pulchritude do not. I wander what these dreams mean? Are they telling me something about myself or perhaps my future? What about yourself? I don't pay much attention to my dreams with respect to them being life fulfilling. I've been benching for seven years now and I have yet to have one moment on the bench in my dreams, let alone clinching that highly coveted 300 lbs. bench.
somedude81 Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 I've never gotten laid in my dreams. Something always happens to ruin the moment. Elswyth is probably right on this one. You may believe that it's impossible for you to have sex and it stays impossible when you're dreaming. 1
Els Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 I've never gotten laid in my dreams. Something always happens to ruin the moment. Interesting. This ALWAYS happens. I think it's a common feature/limitation of dreams. I've never had a dream in which I was anticipating something and then actually dreamed about doing/having it. Either something happened in the dream to stop me, or I woke up just as it was about to happen... 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 (edited) I know this will sound lame and unimportant but I can't get the girl of my dreams. Literally.:lmao: As in even in my dreams I'm rejected, and I'm never with anyone. I've had some pretty crazy imaginative dreams before like being necromancer hulk, talking to eldritch abominations, getting beaten/tortured/various terrible things, etc. But I noticed even in my dreams the whole getting a gf thing is impossible. Though lately I have noticed I've been dreaming of being extremely wealthy with nice cars, mansions/compounds, the whole nine yards. Though even in these dreams I'm still a single virgin but a wealthy single virgin with boss status:cool:. I wander what these dreams mean? Are they telling me something about myself or perhaps my future? What about yourself? Haha. That is REALLY funny dude. In my dreams, I'm a cassanova. I've had dreams involving most of the women who have rejected me in real life, except in my dreams it turns out in my favor. My wet dreams involve porn star types in the back of limos and cute girls coming up to me and admitting they think I'm cute. :lmao: If only I could stay in THAT world. Edited April 17, 2013 by JuneJulySeptember
CryForNoOne Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Interesting. This ALWAYS happens. I think it's a common feature/limitation of dreams. I've never had a dream in which I was anticipating something and then actually dreamed about doing/having it. Either something happened in the dream to stop me, or I woke up just as it was about to happen... Really??? I mean I always wake up AS it's happening. I thought that was the definition of a WET dream...
Esoteric Elf Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Necris, I've said this you you before, cuz....loosen up. Get in the gym a little, hit some weights, loosen your style (remember those pics you posted? Your shirt was buttoned up so high I couldn't even see your ears). You wear glasses, but get some frames with some style. Glasses are in, stud. Get some bad frames and make it work for you. You're not doing this to get girls. Girls actually don't care that much about that stuff. You're going to do it for you. It will give you that almost imperceptible confidence boost, you'll start feeling good about yourself, which will have you carrying yourself differently, walking differently, looking at girls differently. THAT is what matters to girls. Girls, even desperate ones, are getting excited to have chunky Erkel sheepishly shuffling their way. They want a grown ass man who walks like a grown ass man and looks right through them like a grown ass man. I get the feeling that when a girl sees you approaching, they feel like you're going to start talking to them about quadratic equations. That's not good. You want them to think, 'I don't even care if he talks to me about quadratic equations, because I know he is going to tear me up later.'. See the difference? It's minuscule. Oh how delightful. Let's play a game of Devil's Advocate, shall we? Suppose Necris goes to the gym and gets a "vibe" like, oh I don't know, me (unless I give off that quadratic vibe as well, which is for chumps...I'm talking about tensors). What then? Do I have the look of a "grown-ass man"? Is there something I am missing? I have as much as (perhaps less, cannot be more) success in DSR than the OP, but, in case ya can't tell, the gym is like a second home to me. Explanation would be appreciated. [/end Devil's Advocate]
Author Necris Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 Necris, I've said this you you before, cuz....loosen up. Get in the gym a little, hit some weights, loosen your style (remember those pics you posted? Your shirt was buttoned up so high I couldn't even see your ears). You wear glasses, but get some frames with some style. Glasses are in, stud. Get some bad frames and make it work for you. You're not doing this to get girls. Girls actually don't care that much about that stuff. You're going to do it for you. It will give you that almost imperceptible confidence boost, you'll start feeling good about yourself, which will have you carrying yourself differently, walking differently, looking at girls differently. THAT is what matters to girls. Girls, even desperate ones, are getting excited to have chunky Erkel sheepishly shuffling their way. They want a grown ass man who walks like a grown ass man and looks right through them like a grown ass man. I get the feeling that when a girl sees you approaching, they feel like you're going to start talking to them about quadratic equations. That's not good. You want them to think, 'I don't even care if he talks to me about quadratic equations, because I know he is going to tear me up later.'. See the difference? It's minuscule. I do actually do some working out though I need to make it more routine, anyway I'm not a sloppy fat guy I have been told that I do look actually look like a strong dude. As for my style it depends, really. I don't care much for fashion as long as the clothes I'm wearing look clean and presentable, and when it comes to glasses fashion I really have no idea about that form of fashion plus my unique lenses (I have truly terrible eye sight so I need really thick lenses) only go well with a limited selection of frames as some frames will make my lenses look even thicker. THAT is what matters to girls. Girls, even desperate ones, are getting excited to have chunky Erkel sheepishly shuffling their way. They want a grown ass man who walks like a grown ass man and looks right through them like a grown ass man. I don't actually understand what you are trying to say here. So girls are getting excited by this chunky Erkel "sheepishly shuffling their way" and they want a "grown ass man" so are you implying that since I'm not like Erkel I'm not the "grown ass man" they want or did you make a mistake and meant to say I'm the Erkel that "sheepishly shuffles their way"? Whatever the case when I approach women I'm not the chunky guy who keeps his head down, shuffles towards his love interest, tenses up as in preparation for a beating, and in his tiniest voice, filled with fear as he stares at the magnificent goddess that stands before him, almost whispers "will you go out with me?". On the contrary while I do admittedly have low faith in myself to actually have any success at getting a girlfriend or later in life get married, I can actually approach and talk to women, nothing ever comes out of it but I'm not just sitting in a corner by myself hoping women will come to me or cowering in their presence. My main problem I believe is charisma I'm just not all that charismatic of a guy.
Author Necris Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 I've never gotten laid in my dreams. Something always happens to ruin the moment. Elswyth is probably right on this one. You may believe that it's impossible for you to have sex and it stays impossible when you're dreaming. I'm not really talking about sex, but just asking girls out or having a girlfriend, things of that nature. Even in dreams I'm rejected. If there is sex in anyway shape or form I'm already in a nightmare, while I don't dream of having sex I have had some pretty messed up dreams that had sex in them like being forced to watch someone's rotting corpse get violated, or being unable to do anything as someone is being raped and tortured, just dreams of pure terror. Or on a less crazy scale an example would be a dream I had where a girl told me to come by her place to hang out, I come over she starts acting seductive and next thing I know we're about to do "it" (my personality seems to change in dreams) and then suddenly she stops and lets 3 other guys into the room who proceed to beat me, take my money and kick me out with her laughing at my foolishness.
fishtaco Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Eldritch abominations lol. Well, your #1 mistake is to have a girl of your dreams. They don't exist. Most basic necessity - personal hygiene. Look and smell clean. Trim that nose hair. Most bang for your buck - get in shape & dress nice. Most useful - social fluidity. But that's really difficult to learn. I'm still working on mine, but it's taking a back-seat because I'm in a relationship, and I can't really work on it. And no, relationships are not all it's cracked up to be. It's actually... a lot of work. Sorry to rain on your parade, but you will never find that dream relationship with that dream girl. Kind of like the Mass Effect 3 ending. It was built up so much, and then... hmm... okay... that's kind of nice, sort of, I guess. Then you realize actully the best part was when you were still playing.
Author Necris Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 Eldritch abominations lol. You'd be surprised what I dream about. Not too long ago I had a dream where I conversed with a giant, white, made out of human bodies that looked like white marble, covered in mouths, tower that was miles wide, and so tall the top couldn't be seen. In this dream the sky was raining ash, and the tower surrounded by lightning it told me in its peculiar voice it was going to destroy the world. Or like this other dream I had where I was floating in space talking to a blue giant star that had massive metallic tentacles coming out of its surface and whipping around in the empty space, I can't recall what it said to me but I think it told me it was me and wanted to give me a message, the message couldn't be deciphered I was just given mathematical formulas and numbers that I couldn't quite make out, because of my ignorance it raised my dead dog from the dead to attack me. Well, your #1 mistake is to have a girl of your dreams. They don't exist. Anyway I meant girl of my dreams in the most literal sense as in I'm even rejected by girls in my sleep:lmao:, not actually getting THE girl of my dreams in the popular sense.
runningfar Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 Oh this is sad. How old are you Necris? Sorry, I don't know everyone's details. I think it will happen. You seem very intelligent. That is more than many can say. The question is probably how to let girls get to know you well enough to know that. I seldom remember dreams, but all the ones I have involve the apocalypse when I am a very happy person day to day. I hope dreams don't mean too much.
fishtaco Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 You'd be surprised what I dream about. Not too long ago I had a dream where I conversed with a giant, white, made out of human bodies that looked like white marble, covered in mouths, tower that was miles wide, and so tall the top couldn't be seen. In this dream the sky was raining ash, and the tower surrounded by lightning it told me in its peculiar voice it was going to destroy the world. Well, once I dreamed that pieces of the ceiling were flaking off, and came flying at me. Later it turned out it was because a cheese monster was painted onto the ceiling. After it detached itself from the ceiling and came down, we had tea. No drugs were involved.
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 20, 2013 Posted April 20, 2013 Anyway I meant girl of my dreams in the most literal sense as in I'm even rejected by girls in my sleep:lmao:, not actually getting THE girl of my dreams in the popular sense. That's kind of sad. I don't think I've ever been rejected in my dreams. Of course, real life is a completely different story. Maybe see a shrink about it and he can tell you how to 'get some' in Never Never Land.
Esoteric Elf Posted April 23, 2013 Posted April 23, 2013 EE, I don't really know what to tell you, man. You're putting in the work on your physical side. I don't know. From your pic, I would say to do something about that hair. You have this kinda Frank Sivero thing going on your head, and trust me, girls are not going to be feeling it. http://1.bp.blogspot.com/__6VeKgWlGJg/TT22fNYBfiI/AAAAAAAABF0/E4-lj1FjoY8/s640/Frank+Sivero.png I would hit that head with some clippers, man. Make it look sweet. Shave it all off if you have to. Also, EE, from your posting, I can tell your sense of humor needs some work. That I cannot help you with, but my gut tells me you are not relaxed and casual around women. Work on your 'don't give a sh*t' demeanor, but try to have fun with it. Self-deprecating humor is always good, if done lightly. And, ALWAYS smile when you're talking to women. No woman wants a stiff or a square or some crotchety old man. Same thing with Necris....your body is tight, but you have to loosen up your style to. Walk loose, get a little flow to your movements, be confident, let your body move naturally....don't worry about how you think other people think it looks. Just loosen up. How am I doing?? No, I actually usually have shorter hair or long hair (shoulder length)...what I have now is that awkward transitory period where nothing looks good but may. I wouldn't worry about me. Nothing can help me. It's all good. I get your point.
Author Necris Posted April 23, 2013 Author Posted April 23, 2013 That's kind of sad. I don't think I've ever been rejected in my dreams. Of course, real life is a completely different story. Maybe see a shrink about it and he can tell you how to 'get some' in Never Never Land. Doesn't really bother me, I just find it interesting that I noticed I'm rejected even in dreams, even in good dreams having a girlfriend is pretty much impossible nor do I ever have dream dates. I guess its a reflection of my reality. The odd part is that impossible things happen in my dreams all the time, like recently I dreamt I was being attacked by zombies. These weren't ordinary zombies they looked like shadowy dessicated corpses with blue flames spewing from holes in their bodies, hair, eyes, and hands. Fast too, no matter what I did they seemed to be capable of keeping up with me, and in that dream I was about as in shape as an Olympic sprinter. Surprisingly I could do as well, zombies unfortunately weren't clumsy and also had amazing parkour skills as well, and smart enough to blow up my car before I could get inside. In the end I decide to try to jump off a building to get away from them unfortunately that didn't work as they had the ability to so I ended up getting infected anyway.
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