Martian_J Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Hey everyone, well, i was going out with this girl for nearly two years. We were engaged for about five months before she left me. The last few months of our relationship she moved back home because she said that she missed her family. Even before that our relationship was rocky since she would do things that didnt please me. Such as going out clubbing and such. After she moved we stayed in a long distance relationship and talked everyday. But during the last week of our relationship we spoke less and less. We would text maybe four times through out the day. Then one day we got into an argument because i asked her how she had time to update her facebook but not to send me a text. It was then that she said that she didnt want to be together because she wanted to find herself and what makes her happy...ect. i toke the break up pretty hard. I practically worshiped this girl prior to this. We were engaged and had been looking at apartments so we could move in together. And we always talked about our future and the family that we would start. At first i didn't take the break up too bad because i thought she just needed space to be with her family, which was fine with me, but then i found out that she was in a relationship with another guy the same day that she left me. That tore me apart. i was heart broken and i felt devastated and betrayed. After that, i pretty much begged her to come back. I told her how much i loved her and that i would do anything she wanted. But she rejected me. After that we didnt talk for over a month, but i thought about her everyday. Eventually i came to terms with the fact that she didnt love me anymore and that she was with someone else. eventually the pain started to go away, and one day i messaged her on facebook pretty much telling her that i still loved her but that she had hurt me and that i would leave her alone. She messaged back. One thing lead to another and we decided to try to work things out. During the same that we were apart, i felt disgusted at myself. like if i wasn't good enough for her. I tried to keep myself busy by hitting the gym and trying to build better self esteem. It worked, i lost a lot of weight and i was finally not hating the way i felt. Having her back, i thought i would be happy. To a degree i am, but it's not the same as before. I don't feel the same about her or our relationship anymore. She shows me more attention now that we are back together. Like when we first started going out. She tells me she loves me more then anything...ect Before, this would have made me more happy then anything, but now i dont feel much about her affections toward me. There was once a time where i wouldve bent over backwards for her, but now i dont brake my back to please her as before. To some degree, theres no trust anymore. She told me she was only with that other guy for a week, but her facebook shows otherwise. since the day we broke up until the day we got back together. What is your advice? i still love her but its not the same kind of love anymore. Or maybe its something that i can learn to do again over time? Has this happened to anyone else? Gotten back with your ex but not felt the same once you're together again.
OwlSoul Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 What is your advice? Depends on what you want Or maybe its something that i can learn to do again over time? Sure it is. Feelings will get back again, when she will get less interested on you, most likely. It's the game of your subconscious. Gotten back with your ex but not felt the same once you're together again. Yup, but the feelings thend to return back. Then the person dumps you. So either or. Either keep on staying in control and having the relationship, or over time you will fell in love again and get dumped again.
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