misshoneybee Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Hi everyone.....I'm new to this forum and hope I can find some clarity before I take the next step and ask my ex husband for a second chance. This is my story. Any comments or suggestions will be appreciated. Thank You. My ex husband and I were together a total of 17 years and married 13 of them. We have 1 child together who is now 12 years old. We have been divorced for 2 years now and the reason for the divorce was because he cheated on me. I was really heart broken after he did that and it took me awhile to stop all the negative and terrible feelings I had towards him. Time heals all wounds and I found it in my heart to forgive him and move forward with my life. Also during that time, I found myself and the person I used to be before I was with him. I felt good about what I had overcome and how I handled myself with our divorce. It was really hard to see him and his new girlfriend together sometimes but I didn't let it get the best of me or let them see it for sure. His father past away last year and since then little by little we have reconnected. Recently, he and his girlfriend (the one he cheated on me with) were having problems and broke up. That's when he was coming around a lot like every day for 2 weeks straight. He opened up to me about their issues which made me feel good he was comfortable to talk to me about it. He took me to several places and was spending quality time with our son. The reason it stopped was because we were in the midst of having sex but it didn't happen because he stopped and said he had to leave, which was very hurtful and upsetting but told me it wasn't me and not to feel bad. After that, I hadn't heard or seen him in awhile until last week when he called me out of the blue wanting to talk to me. So I agreed to talk to him and he was telling me he might move out of state to get a job and how he needed to change his life for the better. Last week, we spent almost the entire week together. My son and I spent the night with him a few nights, we watched movies and hung out like how it used to be. But, the other day just out of nowhere he starts acting really cold and short with me so I left and haven't talked to him since then. He asked me that day what I wanted from him and I told him nothing but it simply isn't true. I still love him and feel I deserve a second chance. I don't want to pressure him but I feel that we were brought back into each others lives for a reason. Should I leave it alone and move on?
ozzie2410 Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Hi there, I dont think a second chance is worth it. Is this really what you want?, Going back to someone who has cheated is always risky, it could be fine for a while but rest assured the cracks or curiosity will appear again. If you werent enough before, why would you be enough now? At the end of the day its your choice, but be very wary of this type of situation. Everyone deserves happiness, but can you happily live the rest of your life knowing what happened, and why you guys divorced? 1
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