intigo Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Ok what the hell is wrong with some people? My ex dumps me says i dont want to see you again i will never be with you again i hate you bla bla bla. I cry i ask for a chance she says its not gonna happen you disqust me.A week goes by with LC, I start NC she breaks it after 3 days to see if im ok she breaks it again after 2 days to text me about my ex-ex whos visiting my town (super jealous). I text her the next day saying if i trully disqust you prove it to me by no contacting me ever again but i know that you love me and i will wait. She replies its true that i love you but i will never come back. the next day she texts saying she wants to meet!!!!! I meet her i am really descent i tell her that i regret my mistakes i know that i hurt you but i can not undone it i cant ask for a second chance because you say its impossible but i really love you. i hug her and go home and she texts me!!!something like i am really confused i dont know what to do, i think about you. The next day i ask her out really politely she is furious ???? she says do i have to sleep with someone for you to stop?get the f... out of my life and stuff like that i tell her im sorry. i close the phone and cry my eyes out.late at night she calls!! we talk about 3 hours a few days pass she want to meet again..i meet her we talk she says she went out for a date but regrets it cause she loves me we hug she kisses me i respond she doesnt want me to leave she wants to make love i take her to my house we make love she sleeps for 2 hours with me and then leaves she didnt want to stay.two days later she texts i can really feel that you have changed in every way but its to late, i ask for a second chance she says its impossible for her. the next day she want to meet!!!!we go to her place her parents greet me say they missed me and im freaking out we end up making love again.Next day i tell her if its impossible to be together its the last time she sees me she says i am sure its impossible but what if i come back?i tell her its the last time she sees me and she asks for time to think. stupid me i give it to her. day 2 she calls to say why did i have to break her heart and realised my mistakes so late, day 3 she calls to say i missed you day 6 she texts that she cant sleep without me and here we are day 10 she is with my sister and some friends and tells them that she cant be with me and she dates this other guy (who told me she regret going out). I busted her phone but she didnt reply i guess she CAN sleep without me all i need is closure i am now waiting for her to get up so i can call her. Tell me people how stupid i am?what was the point of this?
OwlSoul Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Lol, ignore her for a bit, do not call or text dude. Just give it two weeks or so, tell her that you're going to meet or contact or somehow deal with her. You both need to cool down. She is feeling she lost you, asks for meeting. Then when you prove her that you're always here for her, she leaves you. Imho, she is really insecure, so is you probably, if you did not risk to say her 'no' after she screwed you couple of times in a row.
Author intigo Posted April 17, 2013 Author Posted April 17, 2013 Lol, ignore her for a bit, do not call or text dude. Just give it two weeks or so, tell her that you're going to meet or contact or somehow deal with her. You both need to cool down. She is feeling she lost you, asks for meeting. Then when you prove her that you're always here for her, she leaves you. Imho, she is really insecure, so is you probably, if you did not risk to say her 'no' after she screwed you couple of times in a row. Ok she called she was furious!!!the dialogue - Why the f... did you called me so many times what do you want? -I want you to tell me its over -i told you its over over a month ago -so why did you ask for time? -cause i want to cool down and im not right now -just tell me you are with this guy and i wont bother you anymore my sister told me you go out with this guy and you will never be with me again -Im not with this guy i didnt do anything you make me feel guilty -i dont care if you are or not i just want closure (starts crying) - i cant talk im not calm i just dont know i ll call you when im calm - its the last time we speak - i dont want you to exist!!!! - i can dissapear if want so if it makes it easier for you - i ll call you....... I think i really messed up this girl!!! i believe she really loves me as i do with all my heart and soul but its one in a million that she settles her mind and comes back to me. Maybe ill get my closure when she calls me if she calls,maybe ill get another rollercoaster ride
OwlSoul Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 Then do not let it happen really. You said that it is over and she won't hear from you. Next time ask for space, imho.
crederer Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 You shouldn't say things like "it's over don't talk to me again" unless you really mean it. Also, I wouldn't want to be with a girl that flip flops all over the place. I'd tell her that you will give her time to decide if she wants in or out. No flip flopping, and tell her not to contact you until she has come to a firm conclusion. Then you go into NC as well and go do your own thing.
TaraMaiden Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 intigo, how old are you both? I'm thinking 15, 16...... ?
Author intigo Posted April 17, 2013 Author Posted April 17, 2013 intigo, how old are you both? I'm thinking 15, 16...... ? Well Im going 31 in may!!!! Im so tired of this ups and downs that i find it really funny now. Im not over her i REALLY wanted a second chance with her i cried and cried, thought of all the things that happened asked so many questions and got no answers.
Author intigo Posted April 17, 2013 Author Posted April 17, 2013 Quoting her exact words this afternoon to a common friend (everyone ready?) I didnt ask for time to find if i want him back or not, I asked for time to find what i want. YES people she said this, if anyone can really understand what she means im buying beers
TaraMaiden Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 She cares less about you, and what's in it for you - she cares more about herself, and what's in it for her. I strongly and urgently suggest, you go complete, total unequivocal No Contact (see my signature) and let her appreciate what she has thrown away. Enough is enough. Put aside childish behaviour, quit ping-ponging, and set the standard. (Ps. I daren't call you stupid. I called someone else an idiot, and that very nearly saw me off for a 10-day break.... But if the cap fits - ) For goodness' sake, man up, find your dignity and cut this off!! Mine's a Grolsch with a dash of lime, thanks. no ice.
Author intigo Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 She cares less about you, and what's in it for you - she cares more about herself, and what's in it for her. I strongly and urgently suggest, you go complete, total unequivocal No Contact (see my signature) and let her appreciate what she has thrown away. Enough is enough. Put aside childish behaviour, quit ping-ponging, and set the standard. (Ps. I daren't call you stupid. I called someone else an idiot, and that very nearly saw me off for a 10-day break.... But if the cap fits - ) For goodness' sake, man up, find your dignity and cut this off!! Mine's a Grolsch with a dash of lime, thanks. no ice. just a little update this happened before i read your response the same day she was crying on the phone she called late at night. We talked she told me that she didnt do anything with this guy i told her i dont care you are free to do anything you want she told me she cant be with me because she cant give me anything (although she loves me haha) she told me she still cant sleep without me and when i told her ill be having my worst birthday in one month she replied theres lots of time until then i said what will change? she said you never know and i said you are not coming back. Im not hoping for her to come back i really am but why in the name of god you say things like that? Its so much easier not to say anything, if you want time to find yourself dont ask ME for time. Dont call me dont text me go on with your life and if something changes and you are sure reach out.why make things complicated why do you have to put me through all this, why do you keep giving me hope and taking away? If you love someone there are 2 options you are with them or if its impossible you let them be. I believed that she loved me but now im not sure, i love her and i need to get over her to be with someone else that how i live my life, she says i love you i miss you i cant sleep without you so i go out with another guy. F..k this i dont deserve it, I even went to church to confess my regret hurting her and she knows this. I will never know what has in her head and i dont want to know. All i have to do is to move on and although its seems hard theres no other option
Author intigo Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 Three words: Change Your Number. haha no need to do that she wont call me again im history
TaraMaiden Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 (edited) haha no need to do that she wont call me again im history You wanna bet? She contacted you for no more stupid reason than feeding you a whole fistful of breadcrumbs - and you lapped it up....?? you think that will be the end of it? Dream on. She WILL do something of this ilk, again. If you refuse to change your number - and it sounds to me like you're convincing yourself you shouldn't - then either get a text-blocker, or respond with a "text-blocker" message. Text-blocker activated. Your message was not delivered. Short, sweet and to the point. Edited April 19, 2013 by TaraMaiden
Author intigo Posted April 19, 2013 Author Posted April 19, 2013 You wanna bet? She contacted you for no more stupid reason than feeding you a whole fistful of breadcrumbs - and you lapped it up....?? you think that will be the end of it? Dream on. She WILL do something of this ilk, again. If you refuse to change your number - and it sounds to me like you're convincing yourself you shouldn't - then either get a text-blocker, or respond with a "text-blocker" message. Text-blocker activated. Your message was not delivered. Short, sweet and to the point. Today a friend told me that she is still going out with this guy she planning to intoduce him to common friends and my sister!!!she also said that there is no way she will be with me again. Enough is enough, most of our friends dont know what has happened all these days. They think im just a stupid ass.ole who insists on wanting her back without her responding. Tonight when i go to sleep i have nothing to think about, i am not sad anymore dissapointed maybe because i believed her untill 3 days ago, do i love her? yes because when i love someone and say it i really mean it, do i miss her? sure, does she deserve these feelings? HELL NO can i live without her? HELL YEAH. I know that she wont send anything if she does, with your permission you will be the first to know!! i really liked your text blocker message
Author intigo Posted April 25, 2013 Author Posted April 25, 2013 So i was doing NC writing and venting on the coping section and just today i wrote '' i wish i heard you cry '' guess what? she called. It was an unknown number i answered. hi who is this? me i dont know this number, something happened?what do you want? i will visit your neibour and you might see me i dont understand why you called me i might come to say hello to your mother i still dont understand i dont want you to feel awkward if you see me do YOU want to see me or not? i can make either happen so she starts crying saying why did you see your mistakes so late and bla bla bla i said i cant change the past.She didnt want to hung up she asked silly questions and gave straight answers she said we will talk at the end. A few days ago she was at my neibour and didnt bother to inform me. WTH was that?She could ask to find if im home so she could come to say hi to my mother without seeing me. I dont hope for something its ten days since we had our last talk and my closure and i was slowly walking away. I am afraid that i will start from day 1 again. I dont think theres anything else to say from my part i did and said everything i wanted. So what do you think she will say to me? will it be something trivial, or something else ? shes will be here in about 7 hours i need some replies people!!!!
TaraMaiden Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 So i was doing NC writing and venting on the coping section and just today i wrote '' i wish i heard you cry '' guess what? she called. It was an unknown number i answered. hi who is this? me Big mistake follows: Why? Because this is the point you should have hung up. i dont know this number, something happened?what do you want? i will visit your neibour and you might see me i dont understand why you called me i might come to say hello to your mother i still dont understand i dont want you to feel awkward if you see me do YOU want to see me or not? i can make either happen so she starts crying saying why did you see your mistakes so late and bla bla bla i said i cant change the past.She didnt want to hung up she asked silly questions and gave straight answers she said we will talk at the end. A few days ago she was at my neibour and didnt bother to inform me. WTH was that?She could ask to find if im home so she could come to say hi to my mother without seeing me. I dont hope for something its ten days since we had our last talk and my closure and i was slowly walking away. I am afraid that i will start from day 1 again. I dont think theres anything else to say from my part i did and said everything i wanted. So what do you think she will say to me? will it be something trivial, or something else ? shes will be here in about 7 hours i need some replies people!!!! The only reply you need is to go out and not be there when she arrives, and return after she leaves. You have set yourself back to square one. Now you have to deal with it. Leave - and don't go back until the coast is clkear.
TaraMaiden Posted April 27, 2013 Posted April 27, 2013 Oh - I see now, you posted 2 days ago. So - what happened, then?
Author intigo Posted April 27, 2013 Author Posted April 27, 2013 Oh - I see now, you posted 2 days ago. So - what happened, then? She didnt come BUT she calls 0145 at night -i had a missed call was it you? -no -ok thats why i called -ok cool -can you call me back? - yes (STUPID STUPID Me) so i call her we talk about stupid things and then she goes -Im in a lot of pain(her) -what do you mean? -You know what i mean her -you shouldnt you have moved on -..... her -you should feel happy because you have moved on -are you going to say it again?are you waiting for me to say something about this?her -no but its the truth -you want to tell me anything else? -no do you?her - i have said everything i wanted to say to you but it doesnt matter -it matters to me her -everything is pointless - not to me her - i hope you wake up happy tomorrow - i hope you too her - i cant do that - neither can i her So i close the phone thinking wtf? is she still confused?didnt get hope or anything but i was curious. I call the neibour and here comes the kick in the nuts. She still sees that guy she slept at his house she was thinking about starting a relationship with him and was happy about him telling her to go to vacation together she is going to tell him the big yes this week.And the same night calls me and says she is in a lot of pain!!!! In the name of god why?I told her i was happy with her moving on what does she want?Is this revenge?Is she sick in her mind?
Author intigo Posted April 27, 2013 Author Posted April 27, 2013 Am i that stupid? I believed this person loved me.She called she texted she wanted to make love she took me to her house after the break up to her parents.She said i miss you, i love you, i cant sleep without you, give time to think and when i finally get my closure she calls again to say shes in pain altought shes with another guy. I made mistakes Im the one who hurt her why on earth do you call?.Im history you said i cant be with you, you have no reason on earth to contact me. Lie after lie after lie, you are happy with this person why do you deny it? I said im ok with you moving on and want to you to be happy, thats how love works if i cant be with you i want you to feel happy and i am honest WHY you are not? Is it revenge? do you want me to hurt more? You want to see if im honest?I told your best friend i know you are with someone else and i want you to be happy why dont you leave me alone?You said you are so excited about him and few hours later you call to tell me you are sad. Whats the point? This is sick you made me feel weird about myself this is not human i am not a machine i have feelings. You dont respect me i even went to church to confess because i did things that hurt you and you know this. Its just unbelievable i was so kind and honest with you after the break up and i tottaly respected your decision. But no you had to string me along unfold your sick plan day after day. You put me through all this for no reason.I dont know whats in your mind and i dont want to find out i am sure its sick. My love turns to hate everything is just so wrong. I kept wishing you the best and you kept on ****ing me up. When i thought everything was over you kept coming back just to leave again. I dont know what to feel anymore what to think anymore.I hit rock bottom you filled me with insecurities i have no respect for myself im nothing. I dont believe you have such a twisted mind dont know what to think of you anymore.You should have just break up with me and that would be it. I dont deserve this noone deserves this you have no soul no feelings you are not human.I could just call you and **** you up but i wont. i wont give you the satisfaction. I want to be alone people are evil noone hurt me like you did.
TaraMaiden Posted April 28, 2013 Posted April 28, 2013 See....This is why I try to tell people that No Contact is the best route to go. But people think they can handle it, and ignore the advice. Then this happens. So I say again: Go No Contact. Re-read my comments in this thread, and tell me where I was wrong. And I'm still waiting for my beer, dude.
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